Ruined Christmas - AIBU to want to cry?

[loopsylou]

Sister came round today to stay for christmas with 2 DN's, husband and dogs. Lovely newly clean house ready for Christmas and what happens? Dog knocks over tree and rips apart decorations my daughter made, that we've had for 5 years. Her spoilt little brats feed ENTIRE BLOODY lamb leg (for christmas eve) to said dog. Her DH and mine have disappeared to the pub, she's gone to bed (MY BED AS HER BACK IS APPARENTLY TOO SORE TO SLEEP DOWNSTAIRS) leaving me with 3 kids a manic dog and a broken in half christmas tree. Now transpires that DN1 has climbed onto the bathroom sink and pulled it from the wall, I had water all over the floor before I could stop it, told them to clean it up only to be shouted at by a 10 year old that I wasn't their mum. I cannot believe all this has happened in 1 day, but I'm at my wits end and I've locked myself in the kitchen rather then deal with all that. :( AIBU to just curl up and cry?

I would have completely lost it by now. She shouldn't be bringing dogs with her if they cant be controlled in someone else's house - we always take our dog cage with us. She is taking the piss - tell her to sort things out or make alternative arrangements - why has she gone to bed at lunchtime?

Well done for highlighting their horrific behaviour, I hope you all have a lovely Christmas it's certainly going to be more relaxing that today.

On top of all the spot on suggestions to get the men back from the pub, kick sis out of bed, read riot act to kids etc may I add the following:

Save a tin or two of dog food and serve it up to the two dn and then when they ask where their dinner is say that as they were quite happy to watch the dog eat everybody's diner, you assumed they would be happy to swap and eat the dog's dinner...

Obviously it goes without saying that they would not have to eat the dog food! And that their dinner would be waiting for them in hiding. But it might just make them stop and think for a moment. And give you a funny picture and story to tell over the years on top of their horrors.

It's not like they yelled for you when the dog got the lamb or were at all 'oh no, oh help' about the situation, they were sitting there giggling about it and thought it funny rather than serious. If they had shown any initiative or remorse it would be completely different but the cumulative effect of their behaviour - would also be tempted to tell them that they are going to have to hand over all their Xmas presents on Xmas day in order to pay for the damage they have caused... Would be tempted to follow through on that one but imagine your sis and bil might think that it is their prerogative to punish their dc.

Sell the children as slaves, use the money to have lunch out tomorrow and kick your sisters arse and bad back from here to kingdom come.

As the mum of a 7 yr old it would never occur to me to supervise a couple of 10 yr olds. I don't have to supervise him or his friends and they don't run around wrecking the house.

I hope you have a lovely Christmas and it isn't too long before you smell find the leg of lamb .

Oops. Just realised I started typing my post at lunch time and finally got back to post it now; thread has moved on lots.

Can't believe your sis has turned around and thrown it all back in your face and buggered off without paying anything . But at least they are gone...

We leave 4yo DN unattended for ages when he visits - he's an early riser but quite happy to play with the toys we leave in his room til we get up (at like half seven when he's been awake since 6. We're not totally shit at Auntie and Uncling!)

I would expect even an over-excited 10 year old to be trustworthy for 20 minutes or so while the adults get on with cooking dinner or have their own conversation!

I also wouldn't expect to supervise children of this age. DD is 9y and I leave her and her friends to play and get on with it, never expect to have to supervise beyond making them food and drink occasionally.,

Well done OP. What a nightmare.

OP our home insurance includes them arranging emergency plumbing repairs. When we had a tap break off they just arranged for someone to come round same day. Maybe yours covers this too?

Well done gladiator woman! Can't wait to see a thread "my sister threw me out" if it is there may I suggest that we all go nuclear on her ass, or do a loopsy! Well done you! Merry xmas

They sound vile tell them to leave, really leave

OOOPs sorry see they have left, good riddance

No wonder the kids are little shits with a mother like that!

Cor I do love a thread with a happy (ish) ending. Well done Loopsy. I've gone through every emotion reading this thread, but have calmed down a little now, can't add anything but HAD to say that I'm glad its over! Sounds like a Griswald Christmas.

OP ARE YOU SURE YOU ARE RELATED TO THIS WOMAN?

Oh my god, just read through all this - OP you are now my festive Heroine - that was fucking amazing. My six year old with SEN wouldnt even behave that badly - sinks ripped off the wall - what the actual fuck? Sister lazing in bed? FFS. What a piss taking witch. NEVER let them in your house again!!

Sorry have no sympathy at all. If you are a dog free house then you either say " in the garden or in a kennel" Your house let alone the way you do things will not be geared towards thinking about a dog, hence the eating of the lamb. Secondly why the hell are the MEN out??!! Are when in the 1950's or what? And again tell your lazy sister to get out of bed and deal with HER children!! Damn grow a pair woman.

Glad you'll be able to enjoy Christmas now OP, can't imagine my 3yr DD old pulling a sink off the wall in a million yrs and she's a little mischief most days. Good for you, go and have a lovely large Baileys or the equivalent!

Send them a bill. Send it by e-mail with explanatory notes and oh dear you seem to have sent it to everyone in your address book.

They'll probably refuse to pay it, but you can threaten them with the small claims court....

Assuming you don't like them very much, and don't mind if they never speak to you again, of course.

Happy Xmas without them.

Yay! Go OP! It must have taken a lot of courage to stand up to someone as appalling as your sister. I am furious she had the nerve to get angry with you after how she and her family behaved. How very dare she! I hope she is a mumsnetter and starts a thread about this, so we can all tell her exactly what we think of her.
And please, please don't give in to any family pressure, if your family are the type to pressurise, and have anything more to do with her until you are ready and willing to accept her unreserved and suitably grovelling apology.

omg - this is absolutely dreadful, you poor thing.

Tell them to leave immediately - they are disrespecting your home and your hospitality. If I were you I would have had a nervous breakdown by now!

voddiekeepsmesane - you might want to read the whole thread before throwing insults around!

Also, re the dog staying outside, perhaps the OP assumed that her sister's dog had some degree of training. I have taken my dog to lots of people's houses (always with their consent, obviously) and she behaves impeccably.