AIBU to want to lose baby weight asap

[kiki22]

i'm thinking of joining slimming world pretty much as soon as babys here maybe after 2 or 3 weeks start the classes a friend done this and has lost all her baby weight her ds is only 15 weeks and tbh she looks better now that pre pg, but quite a few people have said it's far to soon and can't believe i'm even thinking about it yet (34 weeks) some have even suggested it wouldn't be healthy. DP's aunt (5 yrs older than me) had the cheek to suggest i should be focusing on my baby not myself like she did 4 dress sizes ago. Really want to know if i'm the only one that thinks it's ok?

To try to field any questions i won't be BF and if i did i would alter plan to allow for it (MW will advise), i want to do it because tho i am happy to get chubby in pregnancy i don't want to be afterward i want to feel attractive again (vain but i miss it) and i usually struggle to lose weight so don't want to leave it months gain more be unhappy and have a huge struggle to get loads of weight off.

Can i get some opinions on this??

hehe shallow, vain and self-obssesed yup thats me better that than a big fat blob

usual www.infactcanada.ca/RisksofFormulaFeeding.pdf

or articles.ky3.com/2011-12-19/rare-bacteria_30536237

or www.analyticalarmadillo.co.uk/2010/12/when-you-can-prove-formula-is-nearly-as.html

tiztiznttiztiznt. tiznt.

molly you don't need a crystal ball. The science is very clear, which is what confuses me so much about why it's not ok to discuss it.

When someone can show me scientific proof that FF is safe and as good as breastmilk, in the same quantities and qualities of studies showing its risks, I'll start to feel better about my son.

When someone can tell me that all the medical people I've seen so far are wrong and it wasn't FF that damaged my son, I'll stop mentioning the risks.

Can't? No? Well guess why.

I'm off too :)

Speaking of which please can someone let my DS2s body know that he is getting BM? I dont think his 3 bouts of conjunctivitis, painful itchy dry skin on his face, 2 chest infections, ear infection, blocked tear duct (op needed, nice), bronchiolitis, breathing problems and 2 cough / colds have realised. V DS1 who was FF and has had maybe 2 chest and ear infections that he got when he started nursery.

Thanks Shagmund, that makes sense.

(pops back in for a mo)

And if anyone can tell me why mentioning FF risks is wrong, where I was judgemental (and an arse LOL) and where I made someone feel guilty, I'll try not to do it again .

Heres - sorry I refuse to believe that someone was able to tell you, with absolute certainty, that if you had FF your second son he would have had the same problems.

Keep going Kiki love - you are doing such a good job of showing us who you really are, it's so amusing too

Yes I can just imagine you are on of those types who thinks we are all jealous of your 'beauty' and body

No blob here love, bf and a sporty life makes me a fit hottie.

Now run along, don't you need to fawn over yourself in the mirror?

Is there a particular reason for you being so concerned about post baby weight loss (apologies if I have missed this as I haven't read most of the thread)?

Have you been overweight in the past or had eating issues?
Were you overweight and trying to loose it when you conceived?
Have you put on a lot of weight during pregnancy?
Is your career at all linked to looking slim, etc?

If not, I can't really understand why this is such a priority to you. If you were a normal weight pre pregnancy and have eaten healthily and looked after yourself (assuming that you have had a healthy pregnancy, obviously), you should be able to loose the weight without any problem. BF is relevant in that it can aid weight loss but if you want to FF, that is your choice and no one on here is going to persuade you otherwise.

By the way, I think 'fat blob' is very mean and judgemental and this is from someone who has never been overweight (size 8-10 post three DC and taller than average). It is just as judgemental as those whom you feel are criticising you for not choosing to BF. Frankly, if you choose to post on here, you have to accept that there will be critical remarks and people who will disagree with you.

hi! im with the he others on wait and see how you feel when the baby arrives. funnily enough i did my disertation on this and found you aren't the only one who worries about getting your body back! with my DS i went from about 8 stone to just under 14 , most of which happened in the last 3 months, mainly because i was banned from the gym after a bleed and also had to give up cheerleading. I was adament that i would be straight back to the gym the day he was born...it never happened, but it took me about 2-3 months to be back in a 10 and by time he was 6 months i was lighter than before.
DD on the other hand i put on just over 1 stone, only had a bump no weight gain anywhere else, went home in pre preg clothing, with a flabby stomach. by 3 months was about 7 stone its only since she turned 1 i have started to gain a bit. not really bothered by my weight now...you either like me as i am or fuck off jog on!
i breastfed both of mine, well still am with DD.

molly no worries, I don't need you to believe the medical facts given that you're not a doctor specialising in bowel conditions :)

Are some people reading a different thread to me? Kiki described herself as big fat blob (which I am sure she is not) so she isnt being offensive to anyone else. She has said herself she hasnt eaten very healthy and that is what she wants to change.

heresthething The medical facts are that there's no known cause of necrotising enterocolitis. It's true that it's 10 times more common in ff babies but it's not a cause of the condition as far as we know. And there's no guarantee that bf would prevent it either- it may lower the risks but not ever guarantee prevention.

So it was a medical fact that if you had ff your DS2 he'd have the same problems? Who was the doc, Emmet Brown?

Er, Running, I'm not sure if you're allowed to tell Kiki to run along...it's her thread.

Mixed - you are right that NEC does sometimes kill and injure bf babies as well, but the massively reduced incidence of this horrible illness in bf babies makes bf so important for early babies.

I've never forgotten a speech I heard by a specialist consultant in neonatal care. He said that at the unit he worked at parents were encouraged to see breast milk as a medicine for their babies, rather than just seeing how they fed as an adult lifestyle choice.

thanks molly i'm not all that bad but if i keep going this way i will be lol

as for thinking everyone is jealous of my beauty and body that makes no sense if i thought i was gorgeous and had a great body why would i want to lose weight. anyway your really doing my head in so am going to start ignoring you from now on.

mapleleafmay before i fell pg i had a back injury which the docs and physios thought was one thing but was another so spend about 2 years being treated for the wrong thing this lead to a lot of pain which truthfully made me stop doing any form of excerise honestly i got to the point where i was scared to do anything incase i set it off, so obviously i started putting weight on i'm not huge by any means but for my height and age should be slimmer. I was finally told what the actual problem was after years of going to see a million diff people given the right meds and the right program to follow was all going great weight started to come off felt healthier looked better and the less weight i have on the less i have to carry so back problems ease off too but when i fell pg was so sick for 21 weeks i couldn't do anything at all have now fallen into this rut of hardly any excerise and eating rubbish all the time feel like a fat blob :( was starting to feel better about my body and sort out my back probs pre pg so want to get back to that asap. I am going to have to wait until maybe 8 -10 weeks to start an excerise program plus i am becoming a carer for my gran and grandad as he is very sick so won't have much time on my hands slimming world seems easy to follow and only takes an hour out of my week so feel it's the best option for me at least until i can get moving again.

kiki - start work on your diet NOW. Honestly - you'll feel so much better for it, and your baby will benefit too.

Don't worry about calories - just dump the sugar and refined carbs. Lots of protein. Lots of veg. A little bit of wholegrain bread/oats/whole oats/brown rice.

This really worked for me. I was 10 stone 5 at my booking visit. I was 9 stone 5 a week after giving birth. (oh - and my baby was 9lbs 3oz!)

thanks shagmund i will going to a slimming world meeting tomoro so observe and have been googling away about healthy diet.

TBH before all the carry on with my back i ate whatever i wanted and stayed a size 8 so this is the first time i've had to really think about it feel i need some guidance.

"my diet now is so crap it makes me feel crap but i'm to tired and sore to care half the time needing some support and help to get back on track."

do you really think that going through the average 12hr labour is going to make you feel any better, just because the baby is out? if anything you will feel worse than you do already. you may have an idea of what it is really like to look after a baby but you don't have any idea how it will feel to go through labour and give birth, and recover afterwards.

a lot of people have agreed with you and said they started weight loss programmes soon after giving birth but not 2 or 3 weeks after.

why can't you eat healthy food now and do some excercise? giving birth is like a marathon, you need to prepare your body so sitting back and eating crap isn't going to help. if you have a difficult delivery you will have a longer recovery.

naturalbaby i know it won't make me feel better thats why i'm trying to do something about it now. The last couple of months have been full of hospital app scans and running up and down to my gran and grandads everyday so i've been so focused on that i've sort of put it to the back of my mind, but suddenly it's so close and i feel so crap i'm shitting myself.

I see, OP. I am sure that you do not look like 'a big blob' at all. Hopefully, you have a partner who can assure you of this.
My main concern with weight loss so shortly after birth would be that it could decrease your energy levels even further. You will already be exhausted with being up half the night with the baby, plus you have other family responsibilities. I would personally advise seeing how you feel for say 6 weeks post birth. If you del fine and the baby is a good sleeper, you might have the energy to try dieting. Otherwise, give yourself a bit longer.

thanks mapleleafmay i don't look that bad really but feel like it some times DP is great. One of the things i'm worried about is not having the energy on my current diet and i'm hoping a club like slimming world thats all about healthy eating can get me going in the right direction.

I have grandads scan outcome on 15th Jan which will either result radiotherapy or an operation or him dying if he refuses treatment (which he might) then baby due on 25th so am deff going to need all the energy i can get like i've said before a diet of pizza n chips will not cut it lol

it sounds like you're going through a really rough time, i can totally sympathise with the crap diet. I'm only dealing with the demands of 3 young kids at home and can't believe the amount of crap i'm eating, i'm comfort eating all day long but i'm so busy walking to toddler groups/shops/nursery and running round after them (and bf) it's not a big problem weight wise.

are you doing anything to prepare for the birth? you could really do with some time to relax and prepare your body and mind for the labour if you're dealing with so much stress. i've had a bad back before but not as bad as yours so not sure what you can do. would swimming help? i did yoga too and practiced lots of hypnobirthing relaxation at home, and had great births which i think were really helped by all the preparation when i was pregnant.

not really have spent weeks sitting in bed with grandad eating biscuits with him coz he only eats when i do lol the birth was so far away but suddenly it's gettin sooo close!

oh kiki, your poor grandad.
it feels really close till you've got a week or two to go, then suddenly time drags unbelievably slowly!