AIBU to want to lose baby weight asap

[kiki22]

i'm thinking of joining slimming world pretty much as soon as babys here maybe after 2 or 3 weeks start the classes a friend done this and has lost all her baby weight her ds is only 15 weeks and tbh she looks better now that pre pg, but quite a few people have said it's far to soon and can't believe i'm even thinking about it yet (34 weeks) some have even suggested it wouldn't be healthy. DP's aunt (5 yrs older than me) had the cheek to suggest i should be focusing on my baby not myself like she did 4 dress sizes ago. Really want to know if i'm the only one that thinks it's ok?

To try to field any questions i won't be BF and if i did i would alter plan to allow for it (MW will advise), i want to do it because tho i am happy to get chubby in pregnancy i don't want to be afterward i want to feel attractive again (vain but i miss it) and i usually struggle to lose weight so don't want to leave it months gain more be unhappy and have a huge struggle to get loads of weight off.

Can i get some opinions on this??

I really am not sure why this is something you need to ask others about- talking about dieting to all and sundry is a bit- well undignified. Far better to just get on with it then wait for the compliments.

But basically agree with everyone else - don't overeat during pregnancy and sw will be fine- it's basically healthy eating. You have to perplex when you live in a country where healthy eating is frowned upon because you have a newborn.

I started SW when my 7 month old baby was 3 months old and I breastfeed. The diet is good as, although my diet wasnt full of crap by any means I wasnt eating as much 'good' stuff as I could/should have been.

The only problem with starting it when baby is 2-3 weeks old is that the diet is quite time and head consuming for a while. It takes a few weels to really understand it and get your head around, to find recipes, and look for the foods and all the planning and researching meals and syns. Thats why I personally waited months and not weeks to start the diet. Those first few weeks, for me, are about being all encompassed by your new baby. Not a silly diet that will happily wait.

For fear of being shot, bf had all my baby weight (bar a wobbly belly, but no-one can avoid that!) off within a month, and boy was I eating. I continued losing weight to the point I was nearly 2 sizes smaller than pre preg by about 4 or 5 months. No dieting required!

Give yourself a break, and focus on learning the ropes of motherhood if I were you...enjoy newborn life!

I also lost loads of weight BF. I lost over 30lbs and I did absolutely no exercise other than heavy-lifting chocolate on the sofa! I'm now lighter than I've ever been so I'd recommend it

I panicced when I was pregnant last time to and went out and brought a crosstrainer for when I had the baby. I never even ended up usng it and lost all the weight in a couple of weeks ad was back to 7 stone 3. I didnt breastfeed or eat aything special but if you only put on a bit by the time the baby comes out you will haave lost most of it. Just stay active during pregnancy running about as normal and dont get unhealthy.

As soon as I found out I was pregnant with DC2 I joined SW. It's the only "diet" that will let you continue through preg and bf- that's got to tell you it's healthy!

I was fed up with doing stupid short term diets and worrying about my weight and wanted a lifestyle change.

So far I am 6 mths pregnant and 2stone lighter than when I started! (I still have 4 stone that I want to lose post pregnancy but I had more than that pre pregnancy!)

My aim was to maintain my weight and eat healthily so a weight loss is fab. I eat healthier than I ever have and have actually stopped thinking about dieting etc, this is just how I eat now. Obviously if I do want the odd deviation I do have it as I am not aiming for weight loss at the moment just healthy eating/maintenance.

I would say don't stress about baby weight- you'll have other things to focus on but if you do want to get into good habits (and see a weight loss as a natural result) go to SW now.

I don't see any problem with it at all OP if you've actually gained weight during your pregnancy.

I'm not a fan of 'diets' though but if you are, as long as you're getting all the nutrients you need, then good luck to you.

Depending on how much 'chubby' weight you've gained, you might not have to though....as often the weight drops off itself after a week or so.

If you eat sensibly during pregnancy, you won't pile on weight and will be back to normal without any special effort - particularly if it's your first baby.

However, you are probably being a bit unrealistic to factor in special diets and gym sessions within days of giving birth. Once your baby is born, I would be surprised if you were that bothered actually.

thanks for the replies - i already was heavier than i wanted to be when i fell pregnant and was working on losing it but then fell pg and had terrible MS for 21 weeks but not actual vomiting just feeling sick and heaving all the time so i ate whatever sounded good put on more weight and got into really bad habbits :( I doubt it will fall off tbh because i was already to big for my liking.

I might go join just now so i have the plan nailed for when babys here and get a handle on the BF side of the plan incase. It's more i want to start off with a healthy lifestyle for us all (wouldn't kill DP to lose a bit).

As for time away from the baby the classes are for an hour once a week and are 5 mins from home so don't think that will be an issue will prob be good for me to get some time out once a week my mum and gran want to join with me so will give me some time with them too.

AnxiousElephant i am being vain i did say in my post but i like to look good and feel good nothing wrong with that and if i want a lecture advice on BF i will ask for it.

Can't remember who but whoever wanted to know why i'm asking about diets on here i was under the impression that people posted here for opinions or is that not the case?

Good luck to anyone still trying to lose it and congrats to those who have.

just wait and see how u feel when the baby's here. if you tell everyone what you're planning, everyone will tell you that u can't do it and then you'll feel even worse if you do struggle. when i was expecting my DD i was really bloated (ankles, fingers, hands, neck, chin etc) and then about a week after i had her i became even more bloated (and i wasn't eating anywhere near as much as i was when pregnant). i was up and down for a couple of months. i tried loads of diets when my DD was iddy and they didn't work because i wasn't in the right frame of mind. when my DD was eight months i joined Weight watchers and set myself a reasonable target of losing 1lb a week, i had lost over a stone by DD 1st bday and was slimmer than i was pre-pregnancy by the time she was 14 months (then i went and got pg again lol). in all honesty, i think although u could lose the weight, i think you would have more success if you waited a bit longer.

btw don't get hung up on mum's who seem to spring back into shape within a month, some women are just lucky and the rest of us have to grit our teeth and work at it! we're all different! and from what i have seen breastfeeding doesn't make a great deal of difference. (btw another mum who isn't planning on BF, tried it with my first knowing it wouldn't be right for me and it got me really down, you do what is right for you!)

I'm going to come out with the obvious and say...just eat healthy stuff in reasonable portion sizes. Nothing wrong with that. Also, I don't think you're being vain at all. I'd say it's normal to want to shed the excess! FWIW I'm back in my old clothes and DS is 8 weeks. I DO now have massive boobs but that's fine with me. I always wanted some. Good luck!

Breast feeding is the best way to lose weight after having a baby, if you can.

I have never been so skinny as post baby, and it happened really quickly. It was a combination of busyness, BFing and not drinking booze!

The best way to not be fat after having a baby though is to not put on too much weight during pregnancy.
Just eat 3 sensible meals a day and lots of fruit, veg and eggs, and lay off the cake!

How about not putting shit-loads of weight on in the first place?

Find some of your comments so offensive.

I put on loads of weight in both pregnancies due to half hourly snacking being the only thing that stopped me vomiting all day. It was bloody awful - was so sick of food but if I didn't eat I began to vomit and couldn't function for the rest of the day.
Also the breast feeding thing does not apply to everyone. I bf my first for 2 years and was a lot heavier by the end of it. If you feed on demand you spend a lot of time sitting down feeding - ds1 fed houly at times which is a lot of sitting down. I know aswell that I am not the only one of my friends who has experienced this weight gain during bf.
So get off your high horses - it is not the same for everyone.

I'll second that nativitywreck. BF works, it's nature's liposuction if you like. I found that as long as I kept to a healthy balanced diet and ate like a field hand I lost all the baby weight, and more. Cannot back this up because I do not have the time to dig out the studies, so please do not flame me, but, there was research years ago, looking into how lactation could be induced, without having been pregnant, as an aid to weight loss

If you feel up to it then of course it's fine for you to start going to SW/diet asap after you've given birth. Try and get a handle on your eating habits now, rather than waiting till after the birth, as you will have more time and energy now!

all these smug people who don't put on weight when they are pregnant are making me rather annoyed.

frankly I am thin enough when not pregnant, but when I do get pregnant I am so fucking miserable from feeling sick and unable to move (spd) that I gain a lot of weight. It is one of the reasons why I really hate being pregnant.

Breastfeeding didn't help with weightloss either.

OP I would just get on with whatever you want to do and stop discussing it with anyone.

I actually lost loads of weight when I was preggers because I was really sick. Afterwards people kept on telling me I looked great - I wanted to hit them. Why is it that nowadays being skinny is assocated with "looking great"? It isn't when you have actually been throwing up for 5 months and you feel like shit.

TBH I am of the view that you should not worry about it. Weight is a subject that is talked about far too much nowadays and you should worry more about why it is you are so determined to lose it so quickly.

while you are pregnant your body is preparing for 6months of bf (storing extra fat to provide you with extra energy), whether you bf or not.

it takes 9months for your body to grow and support a baby, it will take several months for things to return to 'normal'.

you will be in labour for anything form 6 to 48hours, it will take weeks to recover from that. you will only give birth once and you will only have one chance to recover properly. if you push your body to hard it will take longer to recover.

having had 3 babies with no complications, drugs or intervention i think you are being very naive and unrealistic to expect to be pushing yourself to loose so much weight so soon. however, i've heard that all the mainstream weightloss programmes have programmes for bf mothers and women who have recently given birth so i'm sure they will understand your needs better and be able to provide a proper plan.

i did a lot of walking after giving birth (and ate like a horse) and have ended up underweight (and exhausted).

how is it cheeky to say you should be focusing on your baby? somebody has to! giving birth is hard work, looking after a newborn is hard work. your priority should be to get yourself and your baby settled and sorted first. that could take a couple of weeks, it could take months!! my babies slept for 2 weeks - things were 'easy', then the fun started!

if it's that much of an issue for you then you should be eating healthy and excercising now. the bonus is it'll make your labour go much easier.

it is bloody cheeky to tell someone to focus on their baby because it implies that the person concerned WON'T be focusing on their baby. What a rude thing to say about anyone.

TBH I am of the view that you should not worry about it. Weight is a subject that is talked about far too much nowadays and you should worry more about why it is you are so determined to lose it so quickly

Worry more about why she's determined to lose it so quickly?

How about because it's something she wants to do to make herself look and feel better?

Just because people can and do, look after their appearance and their bodies, doesn't mean anyone else should feel they're being 'smug'.

If you're happy with your own body, then pay no mind to anyone elses.

I have a feeling it's more of the way OP presents in real life, and that's what elicited the "Focus on your baby" comment from the aunt.

tbh, OP, I think you're going to find having a baby a bit of a shock; it really is very hard for most of us to just leap back into things. I expect you to come back on here in a year laughing at how naive you were.

I started my diet when DS2 was 6 months old and I stopped feeding.

I ended up being overweight for an extra 6 months but honestly having the motivation to stick to a diet when you are up in the night (whether breastfeeding or not) just isn't worth it IMO. Your body needs extra nutrition post birth (even if not bfing) so I think best to wait a bit.

I lost the weight at a rate of 2lbs a week and now am slim and keeping it off.

i think its too soon but you can do some gentle exercise rather than full steam ahead.