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AIBU?

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Who is stupid enough to send cash by post ?

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shaketheshame · 17/12/2011 14:35

My mil is. She sent 60 pounds by post and my dh lost it. He put it in his wallet and he must have lost it to the shop.

So I'm pissed off with Mil for sending £60 by post when she could have made a transfer and I'm pissed off with dh for losing it.

Now my shopping day is cancelled, the 60 pounds were a contribution to our ds's xmas gifts.

AIBU ?

OP posts:

Bearcrumble · 17/12/2011 20:24

Now will you do something for me? Would you check the walls for red wine?

lborolass · 17/12/2011 20:26

Does your DH think people have been mean to you or to him?

Has he given any explanation for why he thought he'd taken the money to the shop?

LoveInAColdClimate · 17/12/2011 20:36

What an odd thread.

I dread the day I become someone's MIL...

HarrietSchulenberg · 17/12/2011 20:45

In answer to the thread title, lots of people send cash through the post, and I think they are pretty stupid to do it. Unless it's sent recorded/registered whatever it is where the letter is tracked, in which case it's only mildly stupid (letter could still arrive but minus cash and hard to determine the point at which it was stolen).

In my old job I used to receive passports, cash, birth certificates etc through the post, hardly any of it sent by secure means, just an envelope with a stamp on it. Usually addressed incorrectly too. God only knows how much didn't arrive as I only saw the stuff that was delivered.

Nice to know that people still have such faith in the Royal Mail, though.

LydiaWickham · 17/12/2011 21:01

The thread title should be "who is stupid enough to lose £60 within minutes of being given it?" because really, it's not your MIL's fault your DH can't act like a responsible adult with money, or is it? Is this is you are angry that she raised an idiot who can't be trusted with a bit of cash? Ah, that makes more sense now, you are actually angry at her lack of parenting skills that have lead to your DH being a fuckwit with money.

skybluepearl · 17/12/2011 21:07

it's you hubbys fault, not your MIL. She didn't loose the money

Original poster

shaketheshame · 17/12/2011 23:32

Please stop saying "poor mil", she is not !

OP posts:

squeakytoy · 17/12/2011 23:35

Maybe you should explain why then? Because so far, all we can see is a woman has very generously give you some money, but because you dont like her, you think she is stupid.

1Catherine1 · 17/12/2011 23:43

Oh dear.

I can understand that it is easier to be annoyed at your MiL than your DH as you already don't get along with the MiL. You know your DH is to blame and have acknowledged that. So I'm not going to give you a hard time over what you said to start with as it is quite clear you said it out of anger.

I hope the money turns up. Quite often it does. Often when you don't need it though. I'm sure you will still have a fantastic Christmas anyway. There was a survey done recently on what kids want for Christmas, apparently most would prefer more time with their parents, according to the radio. Keep this in mind and it will still be great!

Sausagesarenottheonlyfruit · 18/12/2011 00:02

Chortle

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 18/12/2011 00:05

Try reading the thread catherine.

KittyFane · 18/12/2011 00:22

Your Mil was totally unreasonable sending cash through the post.
To you
You sound ungrateful and unkind.
She should read this thread, maybe she wouldn't bother next time.

1Catherine1 · 18/12/2011 00:49

hmm... I read the first page and half of the 4th page then flipped through trying to read OP posts only (who has the time to read 5 pages of posts) but missed the one on the second page.

Pandemoniaa · 18/12/2011 02:27

I hope that next year she has the common sense to keep her money. You clearly don't deserve it.

SchrodingersMew · 18/12/2011 02:37

You sound horrid.
Your MIL was nice enough to send you money and £60 is a fair amount and instead of blame your DH for losing it, you blame your MIL for what was a lovely act of kindness.

Bogeyface · 18/12/2011 02:38

Please stop saying "poor mil", she is not !

She is if she has you as a DIL!

empirestateofmind · 18/12/2011 02:46

Catherine if you are on a computer change your settings so a thread is just one long page. It is then much quicker to read down and you don't miss vital clues.

If you are on a phone this doesn't work- I don't often open long threads on my phone for this reason.

NoOnesGoingToEatYourMincePies · 18/12/2011 05:24

OP I cannot stand my MIL and have perfectly good reasons for feeling this way about her.

Even so, I think I'd have a very hard time in making her (and the postal service) the people to blame if DH lost money which she had kindly and safely sent and they had safely delivered.

I'm glad the money turned up though.

AlpinePony · 18/12/2011 07:19

How the flippery fuck is it now 80% your fault and 20% MIL's?

Only one person lost the money - the muppetron you refuse to blame.

ageperfect · 18/12/2011 08:53

i just can't believe that you are blaming your mil.It's just unacceptable....it's your dh to be blamed.I would be thankful to mil and very upset with dh....

Sparklingbaubles · 18/12/2011 08:55

If the money was found in his dressing gown why did OP think he had 'lost it to the shop'. He presumably said this??

ThePathanKhansWitch · 18/12/2011 08:59

I can't understand why MIL is getting blame.

You sound very ungrateful and quite awful OP.

YABU.

ageperfect · 18/12/2011 09:04

There is lots of inconsistency in op replays-actually her husbands. Agree with Sparklingbaubles----one thing then another thing. He is lying and op doesn't want to admit, he wanted to spend money on himself or he went to bookies,spend it over there and when op made a fuss about it ,he took it from atm and made up the story....{la la la][Poirot]

LoveInAColdClimate · 18/12/2011 09:09

I wonder if you're right, AgePerfect... the gambling DH just replaced it when the OP kicked up more of a fuss than he expected. "Lost it to the shop" does sound like "to the bookmaker".

Sparklingbaubles · 18/12/2011 09:10

I have a very suspicious mind too age.

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