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Original poster

Who is stupid enough to send cash by post ?

161 replies

shaketheshame · 17/12/2011 14:35

My mil is. She sent 60 pounds by post and my dh lost it. He put it in his wallet and he must have lost it to the shop.

So I'm pissed off with Mil for sending £60 by post when she could have made a transfer and I'm pissed off with dh for losing it.

Now my shopping day is cancelled, the 60 pounds were a contribution to our ds's xmas gifts.

AIBU ?

OP posts:
Sparklingbaubles · 17/12/2011 14:45

*show for it, sorry.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 17/12/2011 14:46

I get that it is frustrating, but honestly, it is your DH to blame here ... how did he lose it?

TheOriginalFAB · 17/12/2011 14:47

Why should your MIL have to go to the extra effort of doing a bank transfer just because your husband doesn't care enough about your finances to be careful with money you say you need>

WhereYouLeftIt · 17/12/2011 14:47

"he must have lost it to the shop."
Would that have been the betting shop? Hmm

You are being beyond unreasonable regarding your MIL. She sent you money. Your DH lost it in a particularly unbelievable way. I suggest you stop slagging her off about something she had nothing to do with.

Is there some reason why you are blaming her, rather than your clearly culpable husband? Why is he off the hook from your spite? You have every right to be angry with him, yet you are targeting her. Why? I suspect there is more to this than just this £60, and you don't want to start on him because the chances are you won't stop.

And FYI, my mother sent me cash for Christmas, by post. It got to me. I put it away safely. I will phone her and thank her, and let her know it got here safely. I suggest you do the same.

LadyBeagleBaublesAndBells · 17/12/2011 14:48

What an odd thread.
Your MIL sounds lovely though.

tinselstix · 17/12/2011 14:50
Biscuit
AlpinePony · 17/12/2011 14:50

The money just fell out of his wallet, out of his pocket and flew off down the street?

If you love something let it go, if it comes back to you it is yours, if it doesn't it never was.

Original poster
shaketheshame · 17/12/2011 14:51

Oh come on, not all men are gamblers. Anyway, he is just found it, it was in his dressing gown. Thank you for all your support and have a lovely rest of the day !

OP posts:
OldLadyKnowsSantaClaus · 17/12/2011 14:51

Leave the bastard.

Sparklingbaubles · 17/12/2011 14:54

So did he go to the shop in his dressing gown? So many questions. Confused

SauvignonBlanche · 17/12/2011 14:55

YABU - your poor MIL.
Please be more careful with it now.

valiumredhead · 17/12/2011 14:58

YABU - how is that her fault? It's your dh that lost it!

Sparklingbaubles · 17/12/2011 14:58

He's found it now valium. In his dressing gown!

WhereYouLeftIt · 17/12/2011 15:00

It just gets worse - it was in his dressing gown? So he didn't lose it on the way to the shops after all. Because he didn't have it on him in the first place, but pushed your blood pressure up by telling you that he did.

And still no sign of anger at the DH; not for losing £60, not for having worried you that he'd lost £60 when he hadn't, not for behaving like a fart in a trance.

Seriously weird.

valiumredhead · 17/12/2011 15:01

Oh ffs that will teach me to steam in Grin

So he didn't lose it at all? You are still being U.

Sparklingbaubles · 17/12/2011 15:02
SacreLao · 17/12/2011 15:02

Poor MIL.

She was very kind to send you money and you are blaming her because your DP lost the money. How the fuck is that her fault?

lborolass · 17/12/2011 15:02

So he told you he lost it on the way to the shops despite it never having left his nightwear.

I think you other issues to worry about Grin

MabelLucyAttwell · 17/12/2011 15:04

Your MiL was a fool to send cash by post (only nincompoops do that) but it wasn't her fault that your husband lost it. He's the one who should replace it, if necessary.

Sparklingbaubles · 17/12/2011 15:05

Mabel-it was in his dressing gown!!!!

HecateGoddessOfTwelfthNight · 17/12/2011 15:06

I am pleased he's found it. But it was 100% unreasonable of you to lay any blame at all on your mil.

Actually, sending cash through the post unless it's that really expensive next day signed for tracked whatever - is actually foolish, because cash can and does go missing in the postal system.

However, in this case it arrived. What happened to it (or didn't in this case) once it was through your door and in your hands is nobody else's fault. If she had handed him cash and he'd then lost it, would that have been her fault for passing actual notes into his hand?

Like I say, it's great you've found it. But it was wrong of you to blame your mil for sending it, like she was somehow responsible for what happened to it after it was physically in your hands.

Finally though, I would suggest that you advise her against sending cash through the post again, because it can get lost.

ImperialBlether · 17/12/2011 15:07

No wonder so many mums of men are worried about becoming a MIL.

Groovee · 17/12/2011 15:07

It's your dh you should be angry with. It's not MIL's fault your dh lost it.

Sirzy · 17/12/2011 15:07

I feel sorry for your mother in law. She went to the effort to send you something and you just complain - nice!!

ImperialBlether · 17/12/2011 15:08

I doubt the OP will come back - she'll be off spending her MIL's money.