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Original poster

Who is stupid enough to send cash by post ?

161 replies

shaketheshame · 17/12/2011 14:35

My mil is. She sent 60 pounds by post and my dh lost it. He put it in his wallet and he must have lost it to the shop.

So I'm pissed off with Mil for sending £60 by post when she could have made a transfer and I'm pissed off with dh for losing it.

Now my shopping day is cancelled, the 60 pounds were a contribution to our ds's xmas gifts.

AIBU ?

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newbiedoobiedoo · 17/12/2011 18:19

I think is a wind up! Either that or OP is a raging bitch... Xmas Wink

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shaketheshame · 17/12/2011 18:24

Oy I'm not a raging bitch ! I was just angry but still I didn't shout or swear! Instead I vented on mumsnet ! You are all entitled to your opinion and I also admited I was abu !

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shaketheshame · 17/12/2011 18:30

I didn't call my mil a twat, a bitch or else not like as I have been called on here ! I happen not to like my mil, but I have tried ! I don't like her but I also don't hate her ! I hope one day we can be sort of "friends" but it is unlikely !

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zukiecat · 17/12/2011 18:42

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MabelLucyAttwell · 17/12/2011 18:49

No. Never send cash in the post. Too risky. Send a cheque or bank draft. I would not give my bank details to anyone either even if they were close relations or friends.

Molehillmountain · 17/12/2011 18:50

Me

Molehillmountain · 17/12/2011 18:51

Oh and sometimes my mil. Sorry.

PetiteRaleuse · 17/12/2011 18:54

My mum hides cash in presents she sends for dd. Sometimes a couple of hundred. And sends by post from the uk to france. I have a mini heart attack every time a battered parcel arrives.

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 17/12/2011 18:56

There's no way you are ever going to be 'sort of friends' while you persist in blaming her for your DH's shortcomings. A grown man losing (or not Hmm) £60 in cash has nothing to do with his mother, nothing.

mynewpassion · 17/12/2011 18:57

Until your are 18:24 post, you never admitted you were being unreasonable.

And you still don't get it. Your MIL did nothing wrong because you got the money just fine. Yet, you still blame her more than your DH.

You are just upset that you didn't get to the post before your DH did. And I hope you did call and thank her for the money.

squeakytoy · 17/12/2011 19:08

I don't like her but I also don't hate her ! I hope one day we can be sort of "friends" but it is unlikely

Well until you start liking her, how about stopping poncing money off her.

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shaketheshame · 17/12/2011 19:10

It is not her fault, I know it isn't ! My new passion I admitted I was abu @ 14.42 ! Dan will call her to say thank you from both of us, I won't !

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Sparklingbaubles · 17/12/2011 19:20

I still want to know if he went to the shop in his dressing gown.........

Sirzy · 17/12/2011 19:24

You won't thank her for money sent to you both. Says a lot really!

lborolass · 17/12/2011 19:29

Yes, come on, put us all out of our misery about Dan and his dressing gown Grin

TheOriginalFAB · 17/12/2011 19:53

Oh my! You do realise you won't be getting any more money from the MIL you don't like if she is a MNter as you have just identified yourself Grin
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diddl · 17/12/2011 20:01

Hope MIL reads this!

Was just thinking that if husband was only popping out for milk in his dressing gown why would he have taken all the money with him?

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shaketheshame · 17/12/2011 20:02

Ok I'm sorry if I sounded like a bitch ! He didn't go out with his dressing gown, he got the letter, opened it, read it, put the money in his dressing gown as he was still not dressed !

I don't mind if she doesn't give money. I honestly wish I had a ok relationship with her, I'm just unable, I do think it is 80 % my fault and 20 % her fault. My problem is that I hold grudge !

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shaketheshame · 17/12/2011 20:03

Dh saw the thread while I was out, he told me some of were mean and very insulting. Oh well, I can take it.

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squeakytoy · 17/12/2011 20:06

Why not try building some bridges then if you know its 80% your fault. YOU ring her and thank her for the money. Its a start at least.

blackoutthexmaslights · 17/12/2011 20:08

well in that case send the money back

crazycrackernanna · 17/12/2011 20:11

My mum is sending me £100 by post/Special Delivery on Monday....and a dressing gown Wink
I better be careful....

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shaketheshame · 17/12/2011 20:16

I'll speak to her when dh calls her. The money is for the kids, not for me.

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WhereYouLeftIt · 17/12/2011 20:17

Excellent suggestion squeakytoy. Consider it atonement, OP - for blaming MIL for something that in no way was her fault.

(And I'll bet OP's still not vented at her DH for his gross stupidity part in this fiasco.)

BaroqueAroundTheClock · 17/12/2011 20:22

God that poor MIL. No wonder you don't have a good relationship with her if you blame her for your DH's cock-ups!

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