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AIBU to be irritated by this mum at DD's school? (Nativity play related)

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sloppyguiseppe · 05/12/2011 19:28

DD is playing a star in the school nativity play (reception age) There are two other stars. When the letters were sent home to say who was playing what, DD's note stipulated that all she needed for her costume was yellow clothing and it suggested t-shirt and leggings. After trawling shops for a week for yellow arseing leggings, I finally found some today, along with a yellow top (harder than you might think in winter Angry)

Then at the school gate today, one of the other star mums said that she'd been to Tesco and bought a star costume for her DD. Now, I am annoyed for two reasons; 1. Her DD will look like the main star, the Beyonce of the stars and my my DD and the other girl will look like Kelly Rowland and the other one, and 2. DD is feeling hard done by that she has yellow clothes and a tinsel headband. I can see her point. I feel pressured to buy DD a star outfit now.

AIBU to think that the other mum is a show-off and a bit of a nob? It's a reception nativity play ffs. Just get the cheapo yellow clothes and stick some tinsel on yer kid's head.

Yes, I DO have bigger problems to worry about, yes I AM childish and I probably do need to suck it up. (Am a regular under a nc, by the way)

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Hulababy · 08/12/2011 20:42

sparklythings - lots of elf costumes around, inc Tesco. I got DD's - she was one of FC's elves last weekend - from ebay. One of the Y1 children in my school wore her costume, albeit a bit big, today in our nativity show.

5Foot5 · 08/12/2011 20:48

When DD was in pre-school she was a star (well she was the only star but I didn't want to say she was the star in case that sounded showy-offy)

I got a note saying she needed a costume but there was no guidance about what was required and I was a complete novice at this sort of thing so didn't know how much effort was expected.

In the end I got two big bits of cardboard from a flattened box and cut out two star shapes which I covered with silver foil and glitter. These were then fastened together with tape so that she could wear them as a sort of tabard over cream-coloured tights and top. It looked quite effective, cost virtually nothing and then lasted as a Christmas decoration for several years after.

JustifiedAncientOfMuMu · 08/12/2011 20:55

My verdict is:

Beyonce's mum works full time and took the easy option cos she doesn't have the time or energy to be trailing round looking for yellow tops and leggings. She will see Michelle's lovely home made costume and be Envy becuase Michelle's mum is one of those mum's who has hours to spend fashioning star costumes out of tinsel and sequins.

Michelle's mum is SAHM and a bit skint. She is Envy of star costume from supermarket. She thinks Beyonces mum is cheating and competitve cos she flashes her cash and buys a posh star costume.

So basically it all goes back to the old SAHM WOHM debate.

FIGHT!

PomBearAtTheGatesOfDoom · 08/12/2011 21:08

When my DD (only DD with four brothers) got to be Mary in the "big" Nativity in the church I got all excited and overwrought was DYING to buy her the Woolies Mary costume with the little squashy baby papoose Baby Jesus and got all sentimental and then the school said no, we have a costume and I had to watch my DD being the only Mary we will ever have in the family in a twenty year old sheet/sack and curtain cried real tears and was utterly arsey about the whole thing including glaring and pointed remarks and everything Blush The whole thing was very shameful and totally out of character for me.

GwendolineMaryLacedwithBrandy · 09/12/2011 17:25

Ok, I take it all back, sorry. DD's little concert this morning (they're 3). No costumes, no parts just arsing about singing. I put dd in a festive t shirt, so did some other parents, some just had ordinary clothes. And amongst them, 3 fucking angels with tossing halos and wings, a Christmas pudding courtesy of Sainsburys costume dept and 2 elves. I inwardly seethed and thought of this thread!

spiderpig8 · 09/12/2011 17:29

YABU.She probably hasn't the time you have to spend hours hunting for yellow leggings.

sheepgomeep · 09/12/2011 17:40

id have bought the star costume if it was cheaper. I have 4 dc, I neither have the time or money to faff around town looking for stuff thats hard to find and if a star is cheaper than so be it.

dd1 is a chimney sweep in mary poppins play in the juniors this year. Ive had to find a flat cap, waiste coat, black leggings and a white t shirt which Ive done but many of the children in the play are struggling for stuff. If there was a ready made costume I'd have bought it.

dd2 is narrator so easy peasy.

I expect ill be slagged of because dd1 has got a really nifty brand new flat cap Grin

Dozer · 09/12/2011 17:51

Yabu, is not like the star costume was crystal-encrusted dior!

spiderpig8 · 09/12/2011 17:53

I think you are a bit too over-involved

crazycrackernanna · 09/12/2011 18:00

My grand daughter was an Angel...and dd spent a week looking for a long flowy Ivory dress.
It was all a bit pointless,as my grand daughter spent the whole performance yawning and doing hand rabbit shadows on the screen behind her.

'Twas so funny Xmas Grin

scottishmummy · 09/12/2011 18:05

I'm lovin your posts op you're a funny lady!

ilovesprouts · 09/12/2011 20:20

my sons play was today he was joseph i was sooooooooo proud Grin

PrincessScrumpy · 09/12/2011 20:28

as you said - it was hard to find yellow leggings and top, so the other mum saw a star costume and her dd is being a star... makes sense. Don't think she's being deliberatley nasty but I would probably get a star costume for dd too or tinsel dd up big time and let her wear a bit of sparkly make up, glitter in hair etc so she stands out and looks fab.

justonemorethread · 09/12/2011 20:34

Tell your DD that she's a SURVIVOR and she's GONNA MAKE IT. After all Beyonce's mum made all destiny's childs costumes on her sewing machine before they made it really big, you should tell the other mum that.

Maybe get together with the other star mums and secretely teach the girls a destiny's child routine so they can hijack the whole nativity play? (You'll need to supply the music)

lurkinginthebackground · 09/12/2011 20:38

I think it is difficult.
The school probably wants to put parents to the least trouble by assuming that a pair of leggings and t-shirt will be easy to get and can be worn again, whereas it is very unlikely that a child will have an angel costume hanging in their wardrobe.
My son's school seem to have lots of dress in a specific colour days. Ok you might think but not when the colour is purple or orange and he is a typical boy who is only interested in wearing navy tracksuits!
I don't think anyone will register that one star has a shinny, sparkly costume and another doesn't. Rather they will remember the kids who are doing the funny stuff ie what they shouldn't be.

gaunyerseljeannie · 09/12/2011 20:38

My DD2 is the bloody desert wind!!
T shirt dyed with t bags as good as it gets in our house.... doubtless some arse better mother will have their DD done up as Salome or something

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