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AIBU to be irritated by this mum at DD's school? (Nativity play related)

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sloppyguiseppe · 05/12/2011 19:28

DD is playing a star in the school nativity play (reception age) There are two other stars. When the letters were sent home to say who was playing what, DD's note stipulated that all she needed for her costume was yellow clothing and it suggested t-shirt and leggings. After trawling shops for a week for yellow arseing leggings, I finally found some today, along with a yellow top (harder than you might think in winter Angry)

Then at the school gate today, one of the other star mums said that she'd been to Tesco and bought a star costume for her DD. Now, I am annoyed for two reasons; 1. Her DD will look like the main star, the Beyonce of the stars and my my DD and the other girl will look like Kelly Rowland and the other one, and 2. DD is feeling hard done by that she has yellow clothes and a tinsel headband. I can see her point. I feel pressured to buy DD a star outfit now.

AIBU to think that the other mum is a show-off and a bit of a nob? It's a reception nativity play ffs. Just get the cheapo yellow clothes and stick some tinsel on yer kid's head.

Yes, I DO have bigger problems to worry about, yes I AM childish and I probably do need to suck it up. (Am a regular under a nc, by the way)

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OliviaMumsnet · 05/12/2011 20:24

what IS the other one from Destinys Child called?!
Xmas Grin

NorfolkNCarolSingers · 05/12/2011 20:26

Michelle Williams, twas on Pointless

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sloppyguiseppe · 05/12/2011 20:26

Michelle, Olivia. Just had to Google it myself! Xmas Grin

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Hulababy · 05/12/2011 20:26

sloppyguiseppe- that is the only star costume on Tesco. There is an angel costume though.

mockingjay · 05/12/2011 20:26

YABU. The whole nativity costume thing sound like a total pita though. When I was at primary school, the school had a stock of costumes for every class. Solved problems with the casting too, as it was usually whoever fit the costume best got the part!

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sloppyguiseppe · 05/12/2011 20:27

Kelly, can you handle this? Beyonce, can you handle this? Mee-chelle, can you handle this? I don't think you can handle this! Whoo!

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DamnBamboo · 05/12/2011 20:27

Errr, no. I just did as I was asked!

Indeed sloppy you did, as did I. But it doesn't mean they weren't a bit more sensible in just buying one off the shelf.

I never asked if I could buy one. It didn't occur to me.

They probably give out these crap homemade costume guidelines so people don't have to spend too much on a costume although who the fuck has yellow leggings in your case, or spare black felt for ears in my case, is anybody's guess.

Wait until you get to competitive jolly-jarring if that hasn't happened yet. Oh yes, if this annoys you, that will also wind you up.

cocoachanneloffestivecheer · 05/12/2011 20:30

If you get a star costume how will the third star feel?

Tonksforthememories · 05/12/2011 20:30

Someone in our school has handmade an Owl Hmm costume for their DC. I think they have too much time on their hands. DD2 is a snowflake.

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sloppyguiseppe · 05/12/2011 20:30

What is jolly-jarring please?

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DamnBamboo · 05/12/2011 20:31

Ha ha.

Looked at those two links and can safely say, those costumes are not a patch on mine, oh no!

Shakirasma · 05/12/2011 20:33

My children's head teacher once said 'christmas isn't christmas until you've seen an infant child sing Away in a Manger, with tinsel in their hair or a tea towel on their head.'

Well christmas wont be christmas for me, because my reception age son has got Autism and he has not been able to cope with rehearsals, let alone an audience.

So whilst all the other parents are watching their little angels forget their words, look everywhere but at the audience, innocently pick their noses and generally look adorable, making memories for their parents which will last a lifetime... my son will be happily ensconsed in the book corner and I will be at work.

Now I have lost the opportunity to see my youngest in his nativity, i realise what it is all about, and its nothing to do with who has got the best costume.

festi · 05/12/2011 20:33

I bet the other star will not have a chance to wear it as they will probably have a couple of pillow cases sewn together and dyed yellow to go over the tights.

SuePurblybiltbyElves · 05/12/2011 20:35

What the buggery bugger is a jolly jar?

I spent all day sewing an angel costume for that authentic, slightly shit look. Tis the rule.

DamnBamboo · 05/12/2011 20:36

Jolly-jarring, filled jars also probably known by several other names.

Made by 'the children' and brought in, sometimes in exchange for a mufti day.

Idea is you get an empty jar, fill it with treats (crayons, sweets, cards, party favour like things) and then decorate the jars and it goes in display at the Christmas/Summer fair for all to see where it will be bought/won.

But my god, some of the decorated jars you see, the poor child didn't get a look-in, the mother has clearly helped, a lot, and the masterpieces that are produced are quite breathtaking!

Then my boys show up jars covered in stickers and maybe a sticky bow on top if they're lucky Grin

You can see people eyeing up the jars in the playground before school starts and the makers mothers of the children with the best ones, sometimes break into a sweat if they think they have been "out-jarred"

halcyondays · 05/12/2011 20:37

Yanbu, dd is being a sheep this year and even though I have a sheep costume (can't even remember why I have one), I went out and got her white trousers and top as that's what we were asked to bring in and I don't want her to look differerent to everybody else.

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sloppyguiseppe · 05/12/2011 20:39

We don't do jolly-jarring at DD's school and long may it stay that way. It sounds like a new circle of hell.

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SuePurblybiltbyElves · 05/12/2011 20:40

Oh yes, them. Our PTA suggested helpfully we might like to fill them with hairclips. I estimated around £15 for a jam jar Grin and so bought a tin of Roses instead.

MrsCampbellBlack · 05/12/2011 20:40

Sloppy - you're my current favourite poster Smile

DamnBamboo · 05/12/2011 20:42

sloppy if the kids do it, which they're meant to, it's quite fun because they really love it and it's lovely seeing them all lined up.

I don't go for competitive anything with them and so theirs always looklike a jar from litttle boys should.

But as with everything, there are some who take it much much further.

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sloppyguiseppe · 05/12/2011 20:44

Why thank you, MrsRCB. Don't mind if I call you Taggie, do you? Wink

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jamdonut · 05/12/2011 20:44

Has the teacher actually agreed to her wearing it,or is she going to put her foot down and "find" her a yellow top and leggings to go with whatever rest of the costume is planned? Wink

PresentsRibbonsAndMerrySantas · 05/12/2011 20:44

can you buy those jolly jars, if not i am stuffed Xmas Grin google is a powerful tool though. god i am dreading the play tomorrow both mine have shop bought outfits, i can just hear them now, oh see she has not bothered, oh shes trying to out do the others Xmas Blush never thought of it before now, just gone out and got it, never crossed my mind someone would think that.