benefits

[clairec1]

hi there, im a mum of 4 and one on the way, the father to my unborn child is also the father of my youngest, and a few weeks back we sat down and talked and we agreed on giving a relationship ago but im worried if this will affected my benefits i get, income support, child benefit and child tax credit but he doesnt live with me he lives at his parents house where he pays his bills etc............ Thanks for any advice

Hi. Sorry, but I'm not sure what the question is, can you clarify?

she thinks that she is better off being a single parent as she is on benefits

Im worried that if we give our relationship another go but he stays with his parents then my benefits might be afected.

Work it out on here. Fill out form as if DP is living with you

Does he work?

You need to tread carefully Claire, its a complex system

thanks kittyfane. i will be a single parent as he wont be living with us but i didnt know if being in a relationship with him would affect my money as he doesnt live with us.

no he doesnt work atm

If you don't live with him, being his partner won't affect your benefits.

The minute he starts living with you, it will.

(wonders how the heck I know this as never claimed myself)

phone citizen's advice tomorrow, they'll help you

ok thanks everyone.

Here are some of the criteria from their own 'in house' assessment protocol-

He must not spend more than three nights at your place;

Do not have his name on any bills/TV Licence, car details etc;

You mustn't do his washing or be seen to do other 'live in' duties;

Do not allow him to register his car, voting rights or anything at your address;

Do not let him have mail sent to your address;

Ensure when your child is at any nursery, that her DF's details are different from yours;

They may ask neighbours of family members about your relationship should they want to investigate so ensure you are perfectly clear to all about your status;

They may home visit so do not let him store property,clothing etc at yours.

So - you have one child and another on the way with this man, and you have just had a discussion about having a relationship with him?

If you live on benefits, why are you having yet another child- for the rest of us to pay for. Bit selfish, isn't it? Have you heard of contraception?

You will still get benefits if he is unemployed but you will have a joint claim. Once he gets a job you may still be entitled to benefits depending on how much he earns.
If you are seriously wanting to make a go of your relationship and want him to live with you as a proper committed couple then why not go for it ?
Once he gets a job he should really be supporting his two children anyway ?

The 3 nights thing is a myth

Aren't benefits for those in need, rather than those who have a partner who can help support them? Sorry but I DO think it's unreasonable to live apart simply so you can claim a few extra pounds from the benefits coffers.

Just take note of what nursenic said.

This thread will not end well.

Re having kids on benefits-

If we are going down that road, there is the same validity in the argument-why should childless people's taxes support child benefit payments to those who choose to have kids?

Cannot have it both ways! Especially smug middle class parents raking in £80 per month per eldest regardless of need then daring to criticise people on benefits. Not what CB was originally for.

will he be able to come round and help out tho without it affecting my benefits? we dont want to rush into anything incase it doesnt work out and then the kids are upset again, i think if he moved in now then it wouldnt work, its best we take things slowly.