to want to vent a few days after the actual event because my DD is distressed!

[LDNmummy]

I am seething!

Last Saturday DH's family all came over to see the baby and one of his aunts WITHOUT FUCKING ASKING ME IF I APPROVED (AND NO I FUCKING DON'T), took my six week old baby by the ankle and swung her upside down in mid air suddenly. APPARENTLY SHE HAD ALREADY DONE IT ONCE BEFORE WHEN I WAS OUT OF THE ROOM!

In our home country it is common with some families to do this as traditionally they think it makes the baby fearless and stretches their legs and strengthens them. In my family we would never do this and my entire family are outraged by it having been done to my DD. She was terrified and literally jumped out of her skin at the slightest thing for two days after. She still will not settle with anyone but me and cries if anyone but me handles her. She was a very happy and fearless baby before and anyone could hold her and she never fussed or cried. She didn't even cry when she recently had her first jab. Now if I leave the room for a minute or put her down, she cries. She is also comfort eating all the time.

It was so sudden and not gently done either! I am so angry because my happy and confident little baby has changed overnight. DH is angry too after seeing the effect it has had on DD and we have agreed that she is not to be left alone with his family.

This type of thing is an ongoing problem with his controlling family who keep pressurising me to raise our DD the way they think is best which includes doing things like that and letting her CIO as well as implementing a strict routine (things they wanted me to do from the moment she came home).

I am worried I am going to slap one of DH's family members in the face the next time they tell me how to parent our DD after this.

Incase any more 'proof' is needed, I have put a pic of my DD up. You can clearly see she is mixed.

cute :)

LDNMummy - Your DD is very beautiful . How did you get on at the doctors ? Is she ok ?

Oh my fucking God. I'm pretty laid back but even I am shocked by this. I don't know though why you're worried you'll smack the aunt in the face, you should go ahead and do it. I would. If it causes a family rift, so much the better, at least she'll be out of your hair.

And ignore animation. There's always one like that on most threads.

words fail Thank god you checked her out.

What a sweet little girl!

spiderpig, the point of SS involvement is to ensure OP is able, willing and supported in preventing any future incidents. For example, they'll want to know that she and her dh will feel strong and resolute enough to say no to that aunt babysitting. They'll want to check out that any other relatives who have access to the baby (particularly unsupervised) aren't likely to pull a similar stunt.

Hope you're feeling a bit better now, LDNmummy.

I am so glad your beautiful DD is ok.
I think social services will just want to support you and your DH in coping with your relatives. The GP probably had no choice but to report but hopefully SS involvement will be a positive thing.
Really glad all well..

Gorgeous picture. Glad she is OK.

She's beautiful

Let us know how you get on with HV.

Jasminerica

"And ignore animation. There's always one like that on most threads."

What did I say that you would like everyone to ignore?

"Animation please go through my posting history if you don't believe me. You will see I am very open about my African heritage and contribute a lot to threads about racism and African/ Caribbean related issues"

I said that I can't believe it's CUSTOM. It can't be. I think it got twisted into you believing it's custom. To swing a baby by it's leg is common assault!!! Anyone that does it should be reported and prosecuted.

LDNmummy.

I would also like to know HOW you responded to this woman who assaulted your baby??

animation, Genital Mutilation is custom in many parts of Africa, why on earth would this not be?!

And I think that LDN knows her cultures customs alot better than you do, dont you?

Animation, it may not have been intentional, but I inferred from your first post that you were implying LDNMummy is a troll. Others may have done the same.

just because here its assault doesnt mean it is in another part of the world! smacking is banned in a few place as here to a degree but doesnt mean it is somewhere else,an old neighbour called the police on a new neighbour when she slapped her child outside and dragged her by her ear indoors-police came but nothing was done.
new neighbour asked why the police were called,we all explained you cant/shouldnt do that to a child but as she stated in her country this was normal.

The focus here should be on protecting the baby.

What was done - or has been done about the woman who assaulted the baby??

Nothing......zilch.

This is Britain - IT'S NOT OK TO GO AROUNND ASSAULTING BABIES!!!

Custom - my arse!!!

What country do you live in ddubs?

'animation, Genital Mutilation is custom in many parts of Africa, why on earth would this not be?!;

ugh. don't make this thread about that please.

it may be but the op would need to prove it,its her word against thiers,police prob wouldnt do much,if the rest of the family gang up to protect the aunt not much the police cps can do,i doubt it would get to court,all op can do is either keep away from the aunt or make it known that this will NEVER happen again.

im in england

That wasnt my intention Jareth, merely to point out that alot of horrific things are done to children throughout the world in the name of "customs" and just because Animation doesnt believe it could happen, doesnt mean it doesnt happen. Too many doesnts there but YKWIM.

I agree that its not ok to assault babies and the Aunt should be in trouble, but as Dubs rightly pointed out, with no evidence then the police wouldnt be able to do anything.