AIBU to expect people to buy 2 presents for my daughter who's birthday is 23rd December, and not one joint one for Xmas AND birthday?

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This is starting to make my blood boil, as a few family members have said about buying a joint present for her, however surely nobody would say this if her birthday was in June? Am I just being super sensitive???

I no longer live in the UK and my son is 6. In his class, when there is a party, more often than not the invitation says that instead of presents, please donate to XYZ charity (e.g. New Zealand or Tsunami disaster). It's not the parents saying this, from what I can see it's the kids who get involved in a lot of community work locally where we live.

When I read these threads I really I get a bit annoyed. Seriously your kids do not know how lucky they are to be getting so many presents. If I am right, given half the chance, my son would get 20-30 presents for his birthday of he had a party and from relatives and I wonder how many of them are pointless and wasteful. If you want to see someone hard done by then take a look at some of the charities that work in the Philippines where USD100 pays for a 6 year old to go to elementary school for a year and they are given a nutritional lunch as well, which is the only decent meal they get.

Honestly, I despair at you guys. Instead of bleating on about how little your kids get, why not do something else for someone less fortunate than yourselves for a change.

Thank you to everyone for their opinions, I have read all of them, lots have made me giggle and smile, I will def be treating it as TWO different celebrations, and have already purchased some arsenic for the relatives that come on the 23rd with a Bday pressie wrapped in Xmas paper, or if i see a hint of a xmas card with 'Happy Birthday' written in it, I shall be slipping a heaped teaspoon straight into their tea, with a broad smile on my face!!! Obv I am joking but we'll see.
To be fair, WE wont join the two events, until she asks for a joint present when she is older.
Merry Birthday! one and all haha!

readinamazement we are not saying people have to buy them presents but those that CHOOSE to do so should be fair and that means if you buy a bday and xmas present for one child in a family you do the same for others!

and we donate to charity both financially and with giving stuff to charity shops, my kids regularly help me go through their clothes and toys and we give stuff away to charity, they also fundraise for local charities by doing sponsered events etc. my dp will be running the london marathon for chairty next year. its not one or the other imo.

oh and they actually get charity things as gifts, they have had those goats you buy for a village in africa? and the children got a little toy schleich goat and a postcard explaining that a real goat had gone to someone who needed one.

Agree with everything you have just posted 4madboys.

There have been quite a few comments like reeding's in the past few days. Just because someone posts about presents does not mean they do not give to charity.
I was told yesterday that instead of giving a christmas shoebox to charity I should support a local charity instead and send money abroad. We already do both of those things.

Maybe if commenting on present giving/buying, we should all declare in the post how much we give to charity. That should stop people feeling the need to declare how selfish we are and have we ever thought about giving to charity.

my nephew has a december birthday.
he celebrates in june because no one would come to his parties because of the holidays...

YABU

Thank you 4madboys and quicklookbusy, we are not a materialistic household at all, we give to charity when we can, have monthly standing orders etc etc, even though I dont need to justify that blah blah.

As i have added in a few previous comments, I may have worded the initial message wrong, I am a strong believer in fairness, and I hate to see people or children being treated differently to others, and yes at the end of the day presents are present and not THAT important, but hey, I just wanted to get people s feelings on the topic