communication

[AIBUmememememe]

we live a ten minute walk from school. there are few busy roads on way. also some drug addicts/drinkers hanging on corners etc. do u think a husband and wife should talk about whether or not their young (both under 10) kids should be walked or driven to school? or should one parent make the decision and not offer the other one any consultation reasons and behind it?

cheeseandonion

Why are you focusing along with others on what I want the mother to do? Its about communication or lack of therefore. Please dont lose focus of the original post

I don't understand the purpose of the link or most of the language on said link I learned about critical thinking at school and college, and fail to see it's relevance here!

I live in Central London. I'm really confused at how a 10 minute walk at busy times of the day, could be that hazardous

JamieComeHome Wed 02-Nov-11 18:19:39
I live in Central London. I'm really confused at how a 10 minute walk at busy times of the day, could be that hazardous

ANSWER

it is not just a ten minute walk it happens twice a day so adds up to a lot. FYI it takes same to dirve due to one way streets etc

the person doing the school run has the final say in how it is done

what the fuck is the rest of this thread about

So you think she should do whatever you tell her to do, and you're angry because you wanted us to back you up?
You can discuss as much as you like but the final say belongs to the person who is actually taking the dc to school.
Why do you feel you need to micro-manage what your wife does?

activate Wed 02-Nov-11 18:23:06
the person doing the school run has the final say in how it is done

what the fuck is the rest of this thread about

FINAL SAY YOU SAY. SHOULD THEY DISCUSS BEFORE FINAL SAY IS HAD THOUGH?

DP or elder brothers take younger 2 to school, I pick them up

we don't even discuss it

for we are adults and trust each other's judgement

It takes longer to drive to our school, if you factor in getting children strapped in! DC insisted we raced Grandma once! Me and DS2, on foot, won, easily!

Yes, I remember what I said- it was only a couple of minutes ago

My point still stands. 10 minutes, twice a day, at busy periods.

IMO driving that distance is more hazardous to the environment, to other people and to your own children. Unless there are other factors which need to be taken into account

Are you making your DH read this too? Can't believe you're squabbling over such a tiny non-issue.

and you are swearing now. Which is ironic.

giyadas Wed 02-Nov-11 18:23:47
So you think she should do whatever you tell her to do, and you're angry because you wanted us to back you up?
You can discuss as much as you like but the final say belongs to the person who is actually taking the dc to school.
Why do you feel you need to micro-manage what your wife does?

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

i want us to discuss and apply critical thinking to the descicion. Take your blinkers off please. I dont want her to do what I want. I want us to talk about it and use logic and verbal reasoning to come up with best descicon for children. Not for me or for her. Capiche???????

AIBU, some matters are important enough to warrant a discussion before the final decision is reached. How the children get to school (in the OP at least) ISN'T!

AIBU YABU a) because most on here think so b) I also think so and I'm always right, and c) because your attitude stinks

JamieComeHome Wed 02-Nov-11 18:26:49
and you are swearing now. Which is ironic.

I NEVER SWORE THAT WAS THE POSTER I RESPONDED TOO. SECOND ONE TODAY IM AFRAID. #POTTYMOUTHS

AIBUmememememe, of course communcation is important in a relationship. That doesn't mean that every little issues needs to be discussed. In any case, judging by your posts on this thread, I would guess that communication with you might not be that easy. You don't seem to listen to anything that has been said so far, have dragged up irrelevant 6-months old posts and are still using capitals and confusing quotes. Posters on this thread are trying to communicate with you, but it seems to be quite pointless.

FWIW, I think logic should govern this decision. But you sound so angry. So assuming you are the one arguing for the logical choice (walking, IMO), the ^way6 you do it is going to have an impact too.

Yes. They should discuss a situation and exchange points of view before coming to a decision - together.

I think parents should always discuss things that matter to them about the children and try to reach an agreement.

I'm a bit baffled tbh. I thought it was fairly standard to discuss things that you felt strongly about and try to come to agreement.

If this is the most the op has to worry about then they're lucky. Noone is losing sight of the original post, just answering the question.

Op has been told a number of times that it's not a big deal but clearly we're all wrong.

AIBU, do you really think that getting the children to a school 10 mins away needs a whole discussion with 'logic and verbal reasoning' when everyone on here has told you that LOGICALLY it is up to the parent doing the school run!

YANBU, OP.

Clearly the rest of the posters on this thread are failing to take on board how vital and important an issue this is. Probably because they are worrying about tea-bags back in May.

I am happy to discuss this rationally and logically with you. Here is my take on the matter:

Clearly the appropriate course of action is the one decided upon by the person making the appropriate decision and acting upon the deciding factors outlined by the contributing partner, who should of course only contribute based upon the factors decided upon by the deciding partner. Unless of course the decision-maker fails to contribute to the appropriate course of action and in doing so reaches a decision that is not indicated by the contributed factors by the non-deciding partner.

What do you think?