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to ask you if you are hairless down there??

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melzyR · 26/10/2011 01:44

a drunk conversation on a girls night sparked the conversation of shaving down there.... i was very surprised to hear that out of 11 females only 3 still had hair down there.... Its not something i ever thought about before, and in the conversation i was 1 of the 3 that wasn't completely bare down there lol i am now the center of several hairy jokes, which doesn't bother me as they are quite funny... But anyway, as none of us no each other on here my question is are most people bare down there?

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catgirl1976 · 26/10/2011 09:56

I don't really Kat but they will be the first people to see my fanjo for months so I would like it to look naice. Although I have a friend who is a (student) midwife and always recounts tale of women with full on bushes with horror - you would think she would see much worse in her line of work so as not to be bothered, but there you go.

TooEasilyTempted · 26/10/2011 09:57

All off at the moment. I'm 33. DH loves it.

EllaDee · 26/10/2011 09:59

I'm sorry catgirl, but I hope that student either learns some professionalism or gets kicked off the course. I would be so hurt if I knew a midwife were talking about my body like that!

I was going to come on here and post cheerfully that I am 27, have a full bush that I occasionally trim, it's nice and soft and furry and I like it. There is no way I want to take it off because that is just not me and I would feel horrible ... lovely to know I might get judged by a midwife for that, even if I were 9 months gone and unable to see the area. Hmm

Anyone else really shocked by that?

KatAndKit · 26/10/2011 09:59

How unprofessional!!
Although if she is a student perhaps she is young? It seems to me that under 25s tend to think pubic hair is some sort of horrific thing to have.
I tried having an inch waxed off the edges in the past but I really can't be arsed keeping that up. I am not spending my hard earned cash on having my pubes ripped out. That is not what I go to work for.

MistyMountainHop · 26/10/2011 10:01

i use a bikini trimmer to get it down to nearly bare

i wonder if i should just have it all waxed off but i daren't!

catgirl1976 · 26/10/2011 10:03

She is young - she'll grow out of it...

aldiwhore · 26/10/2011 10:03

If you think people in certain professions don't make judgements and have a laugh at your expense, you're being a bit niave really... so long as they don't do it in front of you!

Black humour keeps many people sane, so think of your lovely soft bush as something that helps relieve the stress of NHS staff Wink I wouldn't be too horrified by that really.

I dread to think what my midwives said about me as I poo'd on them then puked. Blush Ah well.

EllaDee · 26/10/2011 10:05

I really do not agree that every under 25-year-old is like that. It's one thing to think that it's nicer to be hair-free. It's quite another to judge women in your care when they are vulnerable. You do not have to be over 25 to realize that is wrong.

Besides which, I think plenty of mates wouldn't have it off - it's quite expensive and if you're a student, you budget.

LadyWord · 26/10/2011 10:05

Never tried it without, don't want to, I like mine as it is. Although I'm not a v hairy person - I might trim it a bit if was MASSIVE like in :) but I don't like the idea of baldyness. Or DP waxing his either - urgh. He's never asked me to either.

slightlymad72 · 26/10/2011 10:06

I'm jealous of all these soft bushes, mine has bald patches, I want a bush that I can lovingly prune.Sad

catgirl1976 · 26/10/2011 10:06

You should see what the med students I know say and do Ella........they are FAR worse!

EllaDee · 26/10/2011 10:07

aldi - happy to be naive, then.

I get that professionals will have a giggle and I'm sure there's plenty about a labouring woman that just makes you want to laugh at her/her partner/whatever made woman that shape. But it's not nice for the labouring woman to worry about that, is it? It honestly did not occur to me anyone might expect me not to be as nature intended at 9 months pregnant. How it feels like one more thing to feel self-conscious about. Call me a delicate flower, but yes that is upsetting, surely?

EllaDee · 26/10/2011 10:08

cat - the only med students I know are those I slept with. No complaints there. Grin

startail · 26/10/2011 10:12

At the moment I'm furry from my big toes upwardsGrin
I'm very unfit and need to get back to swimming, so hedge cutting will occur after half term. It will stop at the edge of my costume.
I have a teen and a preteen daughter, trying to look like them would be just weird.
Anyway I'm not fair, I have thick dark hair so I think the result would be a speckled badly plucked turkey.

LadyWord · 26/10/2011 10:12

Re med students, well they've got a lot to learn, by definition. And health professionals do laugh about their patients for whatever reasons - it's stress relief and I can understand that. Tbh if I was in labour and thought some 23-yo was laughing about my pubes, I'd rise above. I'd probably be sorry for her that she was an oblivious victim of the pornification of society and obviously has only met porn-addled blokes who expect her to be bald. It's sad.

aldiwhore · 26/10/2011 10:15

I do understand Ella. Bottom line (no pun intended) is that your midwifery team will be expected to give you brilliant, respectful treatment. ANY indication that they're mocking you or behaving inappropriately or unproffessionally and you have cause for strong complaint.

However, you cannot alter what anyone might say about you in a pub later that evening at the end of another crazy shift.

By the way, I was untrimmed! Both times. Tbh, with my first child, I worried about EVERYTHING. And whilst you don't 'need' to add "is my bush funny?" to that very long list of worries, you also can't change the fact that some professionals, well they can behave professionally and also have a laugh when their shift is over. Its really not something to worry about.

EllaDee · 26/10/2011 10:18

Yes, and I wouldn't want to aldi - I'm just surprised (maybe naively) that a midwife wouldn't just see loads of furry bits and be ok with it. Seems odd to go into that job if you don't like the look of women's bits! But you're right, they'd probably manage to be respectful even if they were going to pisstake either.

TBH, I wish we could get to a point where it just wasn't seen as an issue what you do with your bush. It's ridiculous that anyone should care.

EllaDee · 26/10/2011 10:19

*either?! I meant to type 'later'! Blush

loveglove · 26/10/2011 10:19

How do the ladies who remove all find the look?

Mine looks like a plucked chicken, itches and I get ingrown hairs et al.

Are you just lucky ladies who have no such worries? Or do these things disappear with perserverance?

My partner isn't a fan of the bald lady parts, feels it's too childlike and so a turn off. Keep it neat with my very own lady bush clippers and epilate the bikini line when I remember.

MrsOzz · 26/10/2011 10:20

My med student friends were most shocked at the hairy marys when they did their Obs and Gynae placements. And many of the said hairy marys were talked about in the pub afterwards. Obviously they never ever mentioned names like the professionals they are, but they did still laugh. By now they will almost be fully qualified and have seen it all before, but that doesn't mean they can't think 'wow that's a hairy one!' from time to time!

worraliberty · 26/10/2011 10:21

42 and totally hair free

If anything, I can live in denial about going grey Grin

MrsOzz · 26/10/2011 10:23

I should add I'm 25.

Ingrown are an issue if you shave, less if you wax (properly) and non existent if you have laser treatment.

crunchbag · 26/10/2011 10:25

All there, just do my bikini line :)

countessbabycham · 26/10/2011 10:31

I love the references to yoohoo's and wookies! I'm a bit of a wookie at present - I find it quite odd that some seem to find the sight of a good old fashioned bush so offensive.

Having said that,I am alarmed by the amount of rogue hairs sticking out of my swimming costume - FFS some have even 'crawled' out and are sprouting not far above my knees!!!I feel something must be done.

What exactly happens when you have a Brazilian?Not worried about the pain - but is it a little -erm - embarrassing?

giyadas · 26/10/2011 10:35

It doesn't matter really if you choose to keep your hair or not, as long as you are doing it of your own free will. Your friends shouldn't be making jokes at your expense because you choose to keep the hair that it's natural to have.
Are they insecure? Are they doing it because they feel they should do it, so are trying to pressure you into doing it too?
I find it odd that some women are so invested in policing other womens bodies in such a way. If you are happy with your own choice then it won't matter if another woman chooses something different.

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