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People who spend ages at the checkout because they are so slow rearranging their bags, putting change away, putting their...

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belledechocchipcookie · 25/10/2011 15:55

purse in their bag, zipping their bag up, faffing around really annoy me. Can't they just move to the side so someone else can get served. AIBU to be pissed off with them? (Yes, I do have PMT)

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CardyMow · 26/10/2011 00:20

No-one has given me an answer as to why these tasks have to be carried out 4 feet away rather than at the till...

And ouyrve - If I had a pound for every time I had to tell my dc to wait (at least the 2 with asd), then I'd be a blinking billionaire! But now my 13yo and my 7yo are very strict enforcers of the 'rules'...someone getting ON the bus before they have got off results in a meltdown because those people aren't following the 'polite' rules...

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belledechocchipcookie · 26/10/2011 00:22

No Bup, that topic seems to have been neglected Grin

As I do keep saying there's a huge difference between someone dawdling and holding the queue up and someone who's going slow because of a medical condition!

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CardyMow · 26/10/2011 00:23

My DD will NOT be able to do those tasks away from the till - even as an adult, I expect - because she would be in a state of frozen panic if she didn't complete these tasks in the order she needs to to feel secure that she has completed the WHOLE task properly. You would NEVER know that by looking at her though...

CardyMow · 26/10/2011 00:26

But Belle - you haven't answered my question about how the blooming heckity you would know, just by being stood behing them in a queue? Would anyone be able to look at you and say, without a shadow of a doubt, that you have MS? Would you be able to look at a seemingly average 13yo and KNOW just by looking at them in a queue that they had asd? Or epilepsy? Or EDS? Or Diabetes? Or MH issues? Or LD's? Do YOU have a sign over your head that flashes to tell everyone you may ever meet, even fleetingly, that you have MS?

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belledechocchipcookie · 26/10/2011 00:26

You can usually tell from the interaction the customer has with the cashier if the customer has SN or not. Usually.

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belledechocchipcookie · 26/10/2011 00:29

It makes no difference whether I have MS or not, I don't dawdle in the queue. If I need to check something I will move out of the way.

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Bogeymanface · 26/10/2011 00:32

Belle, you've lost this one....step away from the thread!

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belledechocchipcookie · 26/10/2011 00:33

Grin No, I've not lost it. I've told no one to fuck off yet. Wink

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Bogeymanface · 26/10/2011 00:33

You can usually tell from the interaction the customer has with the cashier if the customer has SN or not. Usually.

Not only have you lost but you have made yourself look very very bad.

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belledechocchipcookie · 26/10/2011 00:36

Really?

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CardyMow · 26/10/2011 00:49

HOW do you tell, then? Could you enlighten me? Because I would have thought that it is not always possible to tell by sight or even mannerisms, what disabilities people have got - hence them being called hidden disabilities...

CardyMow · 26/10/2011 00:50

Yes, but you have MS, not ASD or OCD or a MH problem...

limitedperiodonly · 26/10/2011 00:51

Belle you keep asking people to read the thread. I have and I find you to be a cantankerous drip-eeder who wasn't Superdrug's employee of the century.

I keep asking you how often people hold you up and how it affects you in the scheme of things and you haven't replied.

You are a right little moaner.

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belledechocchipcookie · 26/10/2011 00:57

No limited, you've written a sarcastic post that I've not answered because it's rude, as is your post above.

I did say up there that I worked with people who had SN Hunty. I'm not an expert but I have more experience then Joe public.

I am going to bed. Goodnight.

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limitedperiodonly · 26/10/2011 01:03

Sleep well

Bogeymanface · 26/10/2011 01:04

I call your "I'm not an expert but I have more experience then Joe public." and raise you a "bringing up a disabled child since birth" on behalf of everyone who had called you on this.

CardyMow · 26/10/2011 01:12

Ok, you have worked with people that 'had' SN. (did their SN get better then?). I admit I missed that bit. But do you have experience of EVERY disability or SN that can affect humans? If not, then I reiterate - how can you tell. Especially as one person with asd can present in a totally different way to another, a girl different to a boy with asd, and each may have different co-morbidities, or no co-morbidities at all. My 7yo DS2 with asd presents TOTALLY differently to my 13yo DD with asd...

You would tell by lookng at my 7yop DS2's behaviour for just 2 minutes that he has asd. You could look at my DD for 2 hours and not know...

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belledechocchipcookie · 26/10/2011 01:13

I can't find where you said that limited, I do find your last 2 or so posts a tad on the rude side though, sorry. I've been using the phone to read and answer some of the messages and it's sipped a few, it can't keep up. I worked hard when I was at Superdrug, it was a holiday job to help me through Uni. We didn't sell swimming costumes. Wink I can't see how I'm drip feeding, if I am I appologise, I don't really want half of mumsnet knowing personal information. There's no need really. How often do I get held up? Once a week. I missed the bus last time, despite putting my lunch back, so I was late collecting ds from school and bloody hungry. A little moaner? I don't really start threads moaning (apart from ones about my feckless brother), feel free to do a search. You'll actually find that I'm considerate and try to be helpful.

I am off to bed, sleep well. Smile

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belledechocchipcookie · 26/10/2011 01:19

No Hunty, I don't work with them now. You think you're right, I think I am. There's really no point in discussing this because we're not going to get anywhere. Here, please accept a Brew Smile

Bogey, my child is disabled. He's unable to walk without being in pain. My mother has mental health problems and is seriously disabled, my nephew is on the autistic spectrum. I'm not getting into an argument on here, nor am I trying to raise the stakes by having a shittier life/harder/more experience of sn then you.

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CardyMow · 26/10/2011 01:20

Sleep well too, Belle.

I seem to have spent my evening arguing about shopping queues and circumcision - not the most productive evening. Blush.

You feel 'faffers' need to have more consideration to the people behind them. I feel 'rushers' need to have more consideration to the people in front of them.

Maybe we ALL need to consider everyone around us more?

CardyMow · 26/10/2011 01:22

And THAT was probably the most insightful thing I have ever posted on MN...

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belledechocchipcookie · 26/10/2011 01:23

I agree with that Hunty Smile I lose a lot of time on here, it seems silly when you look back at it. I missed the circumcision thread though, I can imagine that going pear shaped. They usually do.

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belledechocchipcookie · 26/10/2011 01:24

Hey, if it's got you (and I) to think of the ones in front and behind then it's a good thread Grin

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yellowraincoat · 26/10/2011 01:32

Whether or not it is selfish or unselfish in other parts of the UK, I think London should be declared a non-faffing zone, where only the super quick are allowed to shop, work and walk.

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belledechocchipcookie · 26/10/2011 01:35
Grin

Night.

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