For thinking DP is being really controlling here?

[CoffeeColdTurkey]

Firstly we don't live together, he lives about 15 minutes in car from me.
Now a few months ago I went on a night out with people from work. It was the first night out without him I'd been on since we got together. He insisted on picking me up for my own safety but I told him I was fine and would be getting a lift but he was going off on a major strop over it so I just agreed. Well within an hour of me being out he started texting me asking what time I needed picking up. I text back and said not for ages as we were going to a club (I said here if it was too late for him I'd get a lift, he said no, he'd pick me up). So 11pm came - another text "where are you? shall I pick you up now?" I text back "no, going to the club now" so he replied that I'd said I wouldn't be out late and he was getting worried. I ignored this and enjoyed my night. 1am I checked my phone and there were 4 text messages and 4 missed calls from him!!! so to cut long story short, he picked me up at 2am.

After this I said I would make my own way home in future.

Second night out I went on he again said he'd pick me up. I said no, it was fine - I could make my own way home. He got all arsey etc and asked if he could stay at my house whilst I was out so he was there when I got back. I didn't really know how to say no without it sounding like I was just being awkward for the sake of it so I agreed.

Trouble is now he's expecting this set up everytime. I went out with friends 3 weeks ago and he insisted on staying at my house whilst I was out and picking me up afterwards.

Now I'm going out this coming weekend, I tried to keep it from him but he found out and started going on about picking me up. I said no and that I was staying out at a friend's house (outright lie ) and he went in a massive mood over it, then started whinging about what I was planning to wear saying he wouldn't let me walk around like that and would insist on picking me up for my own safety etc and now it's basically gone back to him staying here while I'm out. I'm feeling a bit suffocated and as if I'm being watched over by my dad. He says it's purely for concern over me but I feel so controlled by it all.

AIBU?

curiouser and curiouser .......

All seems very odd

I was going to write that AnyFucker but I couldn't spell it

it took me awhile...

I'll tell you what doesn't sit right.
It's the knowledge that this is a load of old bollocks.
I'm done here.

Oh I totally believed it up until the 'drink spiking' incident. What a fucking muppet I am

Ditto.
Ach well.

OP - never over egg the pudding dear.

schoolboy error

OP (and anyone else reading this who has decided to give an abusive bellend another chance) ; Just remember this. When the day comes, there is help out there.
When the day comes, when you've given up your job and dropped all your friends and walked away from your family because he says that all you need is the two of you, help is still out there.
When he's burned your clothes, smashed your mobile and locked you into the bedroom so you can't 'flirt with other men', you can still break the window and scream for help, and help will come. Help will always come when you ask for it. Remember this fact for the day when you need it.

well said SGB

SGB, bravo.

Great words SGB

Well said indeed SGB.

Excellent post SGB.

Very true SGB!!

And OP, if you are telling thr truth, there is always someone here to listen and help.