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my 14 year old daughter shouldnt be shown 'The human Centipede' on sleepover

233 replies

tropicalfish · 23/10/2011 20:24

My dd went for sleepover at 13 year olds friends house and as a film to watch was shown the human centipede. Apparently downloaded.
What would you do?
Would you let your own dd for go for sleepover at their house again?
I am very annoyed about this.

OP posts:
ll31 · 23/10/2011 20:26

would be v unimpressed - horrible film...

Sparklingbrook · 23/10/2011 20:27

That's awful. I haven't seen the film but I have read what it's about and it's vile. Do you think the parents knew? I wouldn't want to send her again-and you are right to be annoyed-I would be fuming.

mamas12 · 23/10/2011 20:27

omfg
Words would be said to parents I'm afraid.
No bloody boundaries there is there.

KD0706 · 23/10/2011 20:28

Jeez. I've never watched it but have heard accounts from others. Even some fairly hard core horror fans who said it was appalling.

I'd be majorly hacked off if my 13yo had been shown it. Did the parents know? Was it more a case of lack of supervision? I would be seriously considering whether to let DD go back there. Do you know the parents at all, could you have a word? Maybe they'd be just as horrified and feel awful about it and ensure nothing similar could happen again.

Mishy1234 · 23/10/2011 20:28

Isn't that the film which was banned until recently? If it is, the description of it in the paper made me feel physically sick.

I would be very angry. That's the kind of film I wouldn't want to watch myself, let alone my 14 yo.

HauntyMython · 23/10/2011 20:29

Hmm. Well obviously she shouldn't watch it - there's no way I would having read a synopsis.

But it's a sleepover and these things happen - do you think the parents knew?

At 12 I was having horror movie sleepovers watching 18s, didn't do me any harm. Mind you they weren't as graphic, they were just gory/making-you-jump type films.

Cressida1979 · 23/10/2011 20:30

Oh my goodness, I would be furious!! I couldn't watch this film all the way through as I found it too disgusting and upsetting and I am 31! I wouldn't allow my dd to go again and would also be having words with the host parents.

Northernlurker · 23/10/2011 20:30

No I wouldn't and I would be asking the parents what the hell they thought they were doing allowing this to occur.

ruddynorah · 23/10/2011 20:32

What did your dd think of it? I expect a gaggle of girls probably thought it was totally ridiculous. Has it upset her?

SaffronCake · 23/10/2011 20:33

I'd never heard of this film before reading the thread. Human Centipede- it sounds like one of those cheap shockumentaries about rare disibilities or something, low brow but not damaging... OMG looks like I was totally wrong there then.

southeastastra · 23/10/2011 20:33

maybe the parents didn't know??

ScarahStratton · 23/10/2011 20:33

Good God I've got a 14yo DD and I would be absolutely spitting if she was shown that. Have you said anything to the parents yet? And no, she would not be going back.

HauntyMython · 23/10/2011 20:34

Having said that, having had some thoughts recently about the way my parents brought me up - not really ever treating me as a child - I shouldn't have been allowed to watch all that.

My viewing was never censored as a child - even in primary school I had no bedtime and was just sat in front of anything they were watching... I don't think it did me any major harm, but... it shouldn't have been like that.

Soooo YANBU to be fuming

SmethWitchBelle · 23/10/2011 20:34

YANBU! I'd be horrified!

If it makes you feel any better the film is meant to be laughably poor despite the horrible subject matter. Also when I was around that age or possibly younger we surreptitiously watched Texas Chainsaw Massacre at my friends house on her mum's betamax - OK not the same level of ick but we were all in it together although I was Shock at the time it didn't leave any lasting scars, if anything made me speak up and say "no way I don't want to see that" when similar high jinks were proposed in my teenage years.

EricNorthmansMistress · 23/10/2011 20:35

Did the parents know? If so - I'd tear them a new one. If not - I'd raise, with icy condescension, the lack of supervision over internet use that has allowed a 14 year old to download a graphic and perverted 18 film, and how the children were able to watch it without a parent being aware.

Moomim · 23/10/2011 20:35

good god! seriously? YANBU at all.
I would be livid, I have been studiously avoiding that movie and it's sequel (who makes two? and why? but I digress...) having spoken to people about its content. It sounds truly and unnecessarily foul and I'm certainly no prude. I would be incandescent.
Where were the parents in all of this?
I wouldn't want my DD back round there again in a hurry and it might precipitate a conversation along the lines of 'whenever and wherever you are, if something is going on that makes you uncomfortable, regardless of how others may feel about it, there is no shame in walking away-trust your instincts'. I was once given that advice and think it kept me safe(r) during my misspent youth than I otherwise might've been, never too young for good advice.

squeakyfreakytoy · 23/10/2011 20:36

Do the parents know it was downloaded? I would find out all the facts before going in with guns blazing.

helpwhatdoIdonow · 23/10/2011 20:36

YANBU, I am shocked, I haven't watched the film but the review I read made me feel sick. Have you spoken to the parents? They should be made aware of what happened.

loubielou31 · 23/10/2011 20:36

Even as a thirteen year old I would have refused to have watched it. I have never liked horror films. If she didn't know what the film was before hand then that's one thing but I don't imagine it would take long to work it out, otherwise she did know what it was and went along with it. Is she upset by it?

NinkyNonker · 23/10/2011 20:37

Hell no! I am 30 and I wouldn't watch it!

mrsshears · 23/10/2011 20:37

TBH and i will probably be flamed here but can you all honestly say that when your dd's have sleepovers that you know what they are watching? all it takes is one of the girls to smuggle in a dvd and put it on when they are meant to be sleeping,i really cant see any parent letting them watch that or being aware that they had watched it.

paranoidandroidwreckmyownlife · 23/10/2011 20:38

I'd be on the phone asking the parents what happened and why didn't they supervise the girls?
And no, she wouldn't be sleeping over again!

ButWhyIsTheGinGone · 23/10/2011 20:38

YANBU.
When I was that age we watched films that scared the crap out of us like Scream, etc ..... we loved them and in all honesty weren't emotionally scarred.
However there's just something so...foul.. and unnecessarily sick about The Human Centipede that I don't blame you for watching it. I have seen a couple of films that I REALLY wish I hadn't - and you can never "un-see" something can you?

timidviper · 23/10/2011 20:42

DS is now in his 20s but when he was about 11 and still at junior school he went to a sleepover. The boy's mother took them to the video store and was about to get The Exorcist for them, DS told her he would have to go home as he knew I would not like him to see that so she got one of the Halloween horror films instead!

DS was quite bothered by it at the time so I just spoke quietly to the other mum and told her I did not like him to watch those films and would gladly pick him up if he rang me before the movie started next time. It gave him the "let out" if he felt he wanted one in the future

I would certainly have a word with the other mother

loubielou31 · 23/10/2011 20:42

Mind you, threads like this remind me to check more often on what exactly DCs are watching and downloading, luckily atm it's just silly games but I suppose it doesn't take long for them to grow up.