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my 14 year old daughter shouldnt be shown 'The human Centipede' on sleepover

233 replies

tropicalfish · 23/10/2011 20:24

My dd went for sleepover at 13 year olds friends house and as a film to watch was shown the human centipede. Apparently downloaded.
What would you do?
Would you let your own dd for go for sleepover at their house again?
I am very annoyed about this.

OP posts:
LDNmummy · 23/10/2011 22:24

Gah! i am 25 and just the trailer was too much for me. i would not be happy.

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tropicalfish · 23/10/2011 22:36

And there I am getting films like rango out to watch.
I am so out of touch !

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bananamonkey · 23/10/2011 22:39

When I was 11 I went to a sleepover where the mother of the birthday girl got one of the chucky films from the video shop for us to watch, it freaked me out. Thinking about it now I am Shock and that was a supervised party.

At 13 I went to lots of unsupervised sleepovers, even my mum would go out for the evening, but we were sensible and just watched music videos, ate sweets and stayed up late gossiping and being silly.

My dad would often watch horror films when we were still up, I think he thought it was fine because he would just laugh at them and point out how silly they were Hmm

ShirleyKnot · 23/10/2011 22:44

And there we are. "We" can't check up on our children all the time so let's just forget it and not give a shit.

Excellent plan.

No, seriously, I love it, never mind the fact that the shit we were smuggling past our parents' was massively tame by today's standards; I think the best idea is to not give a shit and let our kids play the games/watch the films until they are completely in tune with today's society.

After all, it's much more important for our kids to be culturally in touch than for them to be adhering to some kind of moral opression.

I bore myself with all my "it's not cool to be killing someone with a gun" and "If you punch someone, it HURTS, punch yourself...YOU LIKE?"

scotchmeg · 23/10/2011 22:47

My DSD's mum showed this at DSD's 12th birthday sleepover Shock I was mortified at the thought of what the other parents must have thought andmore to the point angry that for the follwing weeks I had to talk through all sorts of gross stuff with DSD who was traumatised!

ElaineReese · 23/10/2011 23:02

I think it's an AWFUL film, I'd be upset if my child had seen it (and I am upset that my 10 year old was told the plot of it by a more knowing friend!) - and I would consider trying to persuade an older child not to go to sleepovers in a house where it had been shown - I just don't honestly think you will ever achieve anything good by confronting the other parents.

TheLadyEvenstar · 23/10/2011 23:21

I am now too scared to read up on it let alone watch the trailer!!!!

off to watch bambi

ravenAK · 23/10/2011 23:34

No, not confront them, just 'Oh btw, dd mentioned that she watched at yours, I wasn't sure if you knew about it - apparently they downloaded it...'

Other parent reacts with Shock - you've done them a favour.

Other parent reacts with 'yeah, AND?' - you know they don't share your values re: younger teens watching gross out 18 films...

...I might not, FWIW - I watched all manner of horrible scary movies at a similar age & in similar circs, & I wouldn't wig out if a teenager of mine did likewise - but I wouldn't be OKing them for a sleepover with other children unless I knew for definite that the other parents were equally lax relaxed about it.

maighdlin · 23/10/2011 23:34

if its the 1st one YANBU if its the 2nd one YADDDDDNBU. i have seen the first few times (Hmm i know) and its not as bad as you would think but only if you take it from a grown up "knowing its a film spot the crapness" way. the second one however i have not seen and from what i hear makes the first one look like teletubbies.

fortifiedwithtea · 23/10/2011 23:49

My DD told me about this film, she was told is was gross and scary. Alot of her friends had seen it. I couldn't believe a plot so silly and got uncontrollable giggles. This pissed DD off no end.

The film was on normal telly (very late) afew months ago, so curious I watched. What aload of crap! Bad acting, silly plot. Note the baggy bandages so you're never going to believe the actors are not sewn together.

DD still hasn't seen the film, but if she did I know she would have the maturity to be bored by it. She is 13.

Relax kids generally do see films rated older than their age, not just at sleepovers but also on telly maybe without you realising. They come to no harm so relax. Don't speak to the parents, no good will come of it.

fortifiedwithtea · 23/10/2011 23:55

Should have said never going to believe the actors are sewn together.

Mumcentreplus · 24/10/2011 00:06

ahhh what a shit movie and totally over the top..not suitable for 14 yr olds..but then I'm not liberal parent...seems fucked up ...

electra · 24/10/2011 00:07

Ewww, horrid film.

YANBU

margerykemp · 24/10/2011 01:03

I think you are being precious. She isnt upset so why should you be?

Tortoiseinadarkspell · 24/10/2011 02:57

I agree absolutely with Shirley.

I also think that on the few occasions I did manage to sneak something past my Mum, it was important to me to know that she disapproved. So if she'd decided - oh well, impossible to supervise everything so let it go - that would have sent out an awful message. I felt much safer, much more loved, much more protected, at the knowledge that she would have gone absolutely fucking batshit with rage if she'd known I'd [x].

iscream · 24/10/2011 03:16

Yanbu. I'd be really mad and would let her know.
The mum told me she would be there the whole time
but instead went out drinking. So she is a liar. Which means, untrustworthy. She let her dd have a party and was too self centered to even stick around.

Whatever guidelines a parent chooses for their own kids, doesn't mean that they can decide it is ok for someone else's kids to have those same ones. I did not allow my kids to watch over 18 films and would be really annoyed by this. I phoned up a parent once when I heard of them watching something and they called me after that to ask before putting any films on. I would never do that to someone else. It sows no respect at all for other parents.
That particular film is disgusting and sick.

HairyBeaver · 24/10/2011 06:14

After watching Jaws when i was 7/8 I was petrafied (sp) of the plug hole for years as I thought Jaws would come and get me through it.

Once i'd managed to get over this fear at about 12 I then watched Stephen Kings "IT" at a sleep over and my fear of plug holes came back again.

I'm still weary of storm drains though [hhmm]

porcamiseria · 24/10/2011 09:13

whoaaaaaa!!!!! but I bet you anything the parents did not condone so I would not blame then for this

Rollon2012 · 24/10/2011 09:34

I can understand your anger it is quite scary for a 14 yr old, well its more gruesome than scary.

but teenagers are devious and rebel they probably didnt go up to their parents and go 'yeah, just going to downlaod the human centipeded, alright mum?'

Is ur daughter upset by it? I was watching hardcore horror when I was 14 , but kids are more sophisticated now they arent as 'delicate' as previous generations.

TeamDamon · 24/10/2011 09:54

I agree absolutely with ShirleyKnot's last post. Those of you who are saying it's no big deal...Well, it just makes me feel so sad about the world our teenagers live in.

ScaredBear · 24/10/2011 10:02

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Sleepyspaniel · 24/10/2011 10:02

That's a disgusting film that a lot of adults would struggle to watch let alone a 13/14yo.

Definitely have words with the parent, even if they didn't know the girls were watching it then they should be shocked/disgusted themselves and have strong words with their DD about it. I would be furious if my DDs were responsible for showing this type of film in these circumstances and they would be punished for it. It's not right and viewing things like this can affect people badly for years.

I am pretty broad minded but even I am still affected by only reading the synopsis of one particularly disgusting, depraved and repellent film ( I won't give title because if you Wikipedia it you will read the synopsis too and it is just the most awful thing I think my eyes have ever read). Imagine if THAT was shown at a sleepover....

JohnStuartMills · 24/10/2011 10:05

I wouldn't be happy. When my son was seven, he was exposed to Grand Theft Auto on WII or Xbox at a friends house. The friend was the same age and had all his stuff in his bedroom. I asked the mom to remove it on future dates.

I think some people just aren't concerned with the material or just don't see it as a possible source of worry.

The 'over 18' GTA had been acquired as a job lot of discs along with the hardware and not specificially purchased.

It only came to our attention as my son mentioned it to my husband. I would have been unaware of it's content. Having said that, I brought my boy (now 9) to 'over 12' Harry Potter but covered his eyes for the bit at the start (teacher being tortured over table). It was age appropriate Coraline which gave him the creeps and sleepless nights.

Sleepyspaniel · 24/10/2011 10:06

ScaredBear - just because YOU think it's tame(!) doesn't make it so! and the fact you feel it's tame compared to "many other horrors" shows you have seen so many you have become desensitised to it, which is fine for an adult who already has (presumably) morals and values in place, but what for a young and impressionable teenager??

The more people condone it, the more this crap will be made. It does no good for society and brings NOTHING positive or worthwhile.

ScaredBear · 24/10/2011 11:04

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