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my 14 year old daughter shouldnt be shown 'The human Centipede' on sleepover

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tropicalfish · 23/10/2011 20:24

My dd went for sleepover at 13 year olds friends house and as a film to watch was shown the human centipede. Apparently downloaded.
What would you do?
Would you let your own dd for go for sleepover at their house again?
I am very annoyed about this.

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ElaineReese · 23/10/2011 21:17

Oh dear god, do NOT talk to the parents, you will acheive NOTHING! If they let the film be on, they are not going to be amenable to your reasoned objections!

It sounds like a vile film, I wouldn't want to see it or for my children to - but honestly that's what we did at 14 (puppet masters and all that.....) - talk to your dd about it, tell her maybe she should think twice about going there again, but I really really wouldn't go and talk to the parents unless you want them to think you're a prick ... which will do your dd no favours at all.

SardineQueen · 23/10/2011 21:18

When I was 13 I went on a sleepover and we watched porky's and the exorcist

My parents were not impressed

V posh people, the mum knew

It happens...

I think your DD will be fine. What you decide to do re letting her go there again etc is another question

ScarahStratton · 23/10/2011 21:18

Agree with you Cheep. And yes I do know what my DDs are doing/watching etc. They are sensible, far, far more sensible than I ever was, and I trust them. It's just me and them, we are close, trust each other and I have never known them to abuse my trust.

SardineQueen · 23/10/2011 21:19

They wanted to watch it as banned
I suspect they will have been giggling at the horribleness all teh way through
Having said that even the synopsis made me want to hurl

cantspel · 23/10/2011 21:21

When she said it was downloaded she proabably means it was downloaded to the hard drive of sky box as this film has been on sky scfi a couple of times over the last few months.

It is a pretty crap film and just uses the shock factor of the so called story line to try to hook people in.
I wouldn't let my 14 year old view it but i am sure they have seen alot worse that i dont know about.
The story line is pretty sick but i wouldn't term it a graphic film in terms of gore ect.

SixFeetUnder · 23/10/2011 21:22

I watched the trailer for this and seriously wished I hadn't! as someone else said you can't 'un-see' things but this is one I wished I could. I wouldn't worry too much about the next sleepover cos surely there isn't anything worse out there!

Really makes you wonder about the mental state of the people who dream this crap up. Glad your daughter isn't traumatised by watching it, a word with the parents just to make them aware they had it wouldn't be amiss though.

cantspel · 23/10/2011 21:24

SardineQueen it is not banned and was passed uncut by the BBFC but given a cert 18

Housewifefromheaven · 23/10/2011 21:34

Yanbu!!! My parents watched this (60's, so not easily shocked) and my mm said she would never forget the images!!! Quite upset her tbh, even my dad thought it was very unsettling.

I'd be peed off but it was probably done without parental knowledge, so what can you do? Hopefully it scared the crap out of them so much they won't do it again.

mrsshears · 23/10/2011 21:45

Going off on a bit of a tangent but i have just watched the trailer to see what all the fuss is about.
While it is obviously disgusting nastiness i cant say personally i found it scary or was affected by it,i just thought what a load of vile out to shock rubbish.
Imo the scariest films are the more subtle ones with things in that could really happen.

A1980 · 23/10/2011 21:47

My dds impression of the film well ..' not very believable.." Shes not upset.

That's what I thought too. I didn't really find it chilling. TBH films of Nazi Germany freaked me out more than freaky fantasy films when I was younger. Children being gassed, beaten, tortured, becasue that actually happened.....

Whether you let her go there again is another matter.

BluddyMoFo · 23/10/2011 21:49

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ravenAK · 23/10/2011 21:51

I think the sequel was banned. It was just more people in the chain, apparently (a human millipede perhaps?) & the BBFC decided it had no purpose other than to shock & revolt...

I'd still talk to the parents ElaineReese - not to have a go at them, because I don't think that's likely to end well, but because they may have niggling doubts that this is OK but have dc telling them that 'oh everyone else is allowed vodka jelly & Driller Killer'. I'm thinking of a mate of mine who is wetter than a fish's wet bits when it comes to standing up to her own dc...

...or they may not even know what the kids were watching.

If I were the parent who'd unwittingly hosted the Human Centipede sleepover I'd appreciate the head's up tbh!

A1980 · 23/10/2011 21:59

I agree BluddyMoFo.

When I think of films I saw when perhaps too young, two scene stand out from a Nazi Germany film. One scene was a mass of naked people, men, women and children waiting to enter a gas chamber. One of the little boys (no older than 5) was scared and made a run for it. A Nazi officer set a huge dog on him to chase him. The dog got the boy and you heard the obvious sounds of the boys death by the dog mauling him. You didn't see anything but it was chilling. Another was a young teenage boy being made to clean a Nazi officers bath tub. He couldn't get the stains off the bath and the officer said it was fine. After the boy leaves, he cahnges his mind, gets his rifle and shoots at the boy out of the window, it took three goes to get him and he finally shot him dead. For not cleaning his fucking bath!

One look at the world today, people being beaten and tortured and raped all over the world in developing countries. Reality can be far more chilling than fiction I find.

The Human Centipede is just weirdness. I didn't find it disturbing at all. Just bloody stupid.

babybarrister · 23/10/2011 22:01

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ruddynorah · 23/10/2011 22:06

So your dd wasn't upset by it op? I've seen it. It is just gross, not scary. It's been over hyped.

WinkyWinkola · 23/10/2011 22:06

There are films like Hallowe'en and Candy Man that I watched as a young teen and they really haunted me. It wasn't good.

Yanbu. I would be hacked off. No more sleep overs at that house. And any others, I'd have a word with the parents about dodgy films, alcohol etc.

You need to calmly chat to these parents OP.

ShirleyKnot · 23/10/2011 22:11

Pfft to all of the latest answers about not giving a small shit.

I would go slightly totally nutso snooker fucking LOOPY.

At which point do we, as a society, say enough is enough FFS?

It's OK for 13/14 year old kids to watch a film that portrays really, REALLY, fucked up shit? BOLLOCKS

By that argument, we should be exposes our early teens to every single torture scenario, every image of genital mutilation, every image of dead kids - 'tis reality after all.

Certification is there for a reason.

ElaineReese · 23/10/2011 22:13

I don't think it's ok.

I just think you would achieve nothing good by ringing up the parents and having a problem.

ScarahStratton · 23/10/2011 22:15

Again. We need a 'like' facility. Spot on Shirley.

mrsshears · 23/10/2011 22:17

I dont think its ok either,i do however think that all the blame cannot be placed on the parents,they probably didnt know and i think a certain amount of trust is involved between parents and children.

skybluepearl · 23/10/2011 22:19

I watched some 15 and 18 films at her age and they really played on my mind - although under pressure i let everyone think i was ok with them.

mrsshears · 23/10/2011 22:21

I also think there should be a balance with things like this,if you ban something completely you often make it more desirable.
I have watched horror films myself with dd2 who is 14,however they are always ones i have seen previously,so i know if they are suitable or not and never more than a 15 cert.

skybluepearl · 23/10/2011 22:21

agree with shirly.

i wouldn't allow any more sleep overs with an untrustworthy family

gordyslovesheep · 23/10/2011 22:22

YANBU - totally unacceptable - it's a rubbish film

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tropicalfish · 23/10/2011 22:24

thank you all very much for your comments.
Im with alot of your comments in that its a naff horrow film however whilst on this occasion I am not upset, you never know in future whats it going to be on the next sleep over. They could just have watched excerpts. You cant check up on kids that often that you can be sure every minute what they're doing.
Im tempted to say all sleepovers are going to be at my housethough ;-)

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