To think that the withdrawal method is a suitable form of contraception?

[RebelFromTheWaistDown]

DH doesn't want to use condoms or have the snip. I do not want to use the pill or get sterilised after 3 DC so this is the best alternative for us. Has anyone else found it a reliable method. Or AIBU?

haunty no it isn't just you, it is nice. And I would not relax and enjoy sex if I was relying on withdrawal to prevent pregnancy, I would just be worrying too much about it not happening on time. So not very satisfying for anyone really.

I agree with Billy Connolly who thinks withdrawal is a duff method. But he does mange to be funny about it.

Have used it for 10 years with no problems. Ds was comceived within 6 weeks of not withdrawing, so not lack of fertility leading to us 'getting away with it'. I agree is user error that causes the accidents, with people who think they are withdrawing.
My dsis got pregnant using withdrawl. Mind you she also got pregnant from anal sex < the mind and the medical profession still boggling over thar one >

Yes, Hayley, anal birth is very rare in our culture.

She is clearly clueless , though there was mention of splashback an accident ...

It may have been a case of doing it in the dark; and forgetting to say Please turn over.

OP --- ever tried a diaphram?

SlinkingOutsideInSocks Tue 18-Oct-11 00:16:48

"This thread makes me bewildered and sad, over-reaction maybe, but I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone - have had children with someone - who thinks it's OK to refuse a condom, and know his partner will passively accept this. Won't argue back or resist."

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Hear, hear Slinking. I made rougly the same point myself.

It is shocking and to think this woman still feels like having sex with this moron.

maybe those who've had better luck with this method could be down to how well the man controls himself and is better at the technique perhaps?

snoozin I agree.

I said as much earlier...it has to be done properly and lets face it, its the man who needs a to have great technique!

Ido think the worst aspect of it is how much it impacts on the enjoyment of PIV - him desperately trying not to spurt, you asking him every three seconds if he's nearly there and hissing 'Don't forget to pull out!' in his ear between thrusts... Eurgh! I know I did it in my younger days but that was when I was young enough to find the concept of shagging exciting and less bothered about the reality of the experience.