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Original poster

Too not move in this cafe.

263 replies

toobreathless · 15/10/2011 20:33

First post in AIBU, just curious to hear what others think.

Had a lovely day wondering around a pretty local town. Time came to feed DD, who was getting a bit noisy. Went into the nearest cafe (there are about six) & sat down at a table to feed DD while DH got in the queue for drinks.

Had DD firmly attached when two ladies approached (in their 50s?). I was sat at a table for two. One said to me 'you will have to move we have already bought our drinks & have nowhere to sit.' Stunned, I looked up & realised this was true. I wasn't the only one 'saving' a table.

I politely suggested the ask the gentleman sat alone at a table of four if they could share. They gave me evil stares & swept off.

I feel a bit mean now. Was I BU?

OP posts:
pink4ever · 15/10/2011 21:50

Ah here comes the backtracking....

MrsBaggins · 15/10/2011 21:50

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thesurgeonsmate · 15/10/2011 21:50

Mammonite sounds like the job of table monitor at your local M&S might be a bit of a thankless task Grin.

MrsBaggins · 15/10/2011 21:51

Oh its a wind up -so funnyHmm

KittyFane · 15/10/2011 21:51

mosschops you obviously need to look at a dictionary:

Moron (psychology), disused term for a person with a mental age between 8 and 12, and a common insult for a person considered stupid (or just a generic insult)

mosschops30 · 15/10/2011 21:51

Yes you probably have cos ive been here considerably longer thsn yooowwwww!

No backtracking, i stand by what ive posted!

squeakytoy · 15/10/2011 21:51

In a cafe, in the UK, usually people sit down and then are given a menu and drinks/food are bought to them by staff.

Very few cafes are like this in the UK. That is much more the norm in the USA.

I do think it is rude when people are standing in a queue to go and reserve a table. Bloody rude actually.

NoNoNoMYDoIt · 15/10/2011 21:51

mosschops - i battled long, really REALLY long, to feed my DS and i could NEVER have fed standing up. i spent 12 long weeks traipsing 20 miles each way to see a lactation consultant 3 times a week in desperation to find a position where i could get a latch that wasn't excrutiatingly painful. so - i am a moron for not having been able to feed standing up then? [hhmm]

mosschops30 · 15/10/2011 21:52

I think im going to report that post because the twat comment was directed at me and thats a personal attack which i find very offensive

Hmm
pink4ever · 15/10/2011 21:53

Good for you mosschops stand by what you posted. It was so nice after all....

pink4ever · 15/10/2011 21:54

Done mosschops

MrsBaggins · 15/10/2011 21:54

Reported it myself !

ShellyBoobs · 15/10/2011 21:55

If I owned a cafe I would be considerably pissed off at anyone taking a table before purchasing food, while my already served customers were left stood there like lemons.

KittyFane · 15/10/2011 21:55

mosschops - been here longer than who ??!! :o
Are you ok? You sound a bit Confused - bad day?

MrsBaggins · 15/10/2011 21:57

Tbh I think mosschopsis going to cringe when she reads this in the morning.

mosschops30 · 15/10/2011 21:57

Yes quite uncharacteristic of me i know. Had a great day actually. But some threads catch you, and i do normally get one good thread thrashing per year (remember the walk to work in the snow thread last year) so it might as well be this one.
Ive started so i'll finish Grin

helpmabob · 15/10/2011 22:00

As far as I could tell this wasn't a bf thread, it was about a woman being asked to move who happened to be bf. You seem to be incredibly defensive about people who bf. BF can be difficult and can need support which includes old battleaxes not picling on you because you are an easier target.

mosschops30 · 15/10/2011 22:00

nonono i hear you, i couldnt bf sitting down or standing up Wink

KittyFane · 15/10/2011 22:01

I thought that some bugger may have nicked your table whist you were in the queue at M+S cafe or something :o !

mosschops30 · 15/10/2011 22:01

Why oh why would a bf woman be 'an easier target'?

Original poster
toobreathless · 15/10/2011 22:02

Can't believe I stimulated quite such a debate :)

Mosschops: I can actually bf standing up but probably can't push a buggy at the same time & carry drinks. Plus I like to be fairly discreet & think the whole cafe would get several eye fulls!

For the record the lone man did have a drink, but was sat at a huge table with three empty chairs. There were other customers saving tables though. Some students (?) & a family with some colouring books.

I do seem to be 'an easy target'. Off to perfect my death stare :o

OP posts:
whomovedmychocolate · 15/10/2011 22:02

I am the slightly pissed off woman in M&S (minus 30 years). It is annoying when there are lots of tablelurkers who are waiting for someone who is behind me in the queue. However I stand and loudly say 'excuse me, is there a table here I can sit at with my rapidly cooling coffee'.

But even I would not shift a newborn and a mother. Fucking hell it's knackering being a new parent. Also would not shift someone in a wheelchair/with a broken leg/trio of tots in tow etc.

But that man with the checked cardigan he's going dahn ! Grin

pink4ever · 15/10/2011 22:03

Actually I have clearly read this thread all wrongly as I didnt think the bf was the issue at all. Op was sitting and her dh was queuing for their order-that is perfectly acceptable in my book. Though I have to admit I may be spoiled as my local cafe has the best service-they know our orders by heart and bring them over without even having to askGrin Even though they dont do table service. We are their best customers though.

helpmabob · 15/10/2011 22:04

Not an easy target because she was bf but an easy target being a lone woman as opposed to a lone man which the old biddies would maybe have found more intimidating

mosschops30 · 15/10/2011 22:04

See this is what i mean, i would never ask a feeding woman to move (bf or otherwise), i dont find it offensive and think we should be able to do it everywhere and anywhere.

However this 'oh dont speak to me im bf', 'i cant move im bf',.

No normal person with any manners would ask a feeding woman to move, but if they do, youre not incapacitated, youre just feeding your child, get over yourself

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