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To be a bit shocked at how "mainstream" anal sex has become between couples?

246 replies

Scaredconfusedexcited · 14/10/2011 11:37

for the record i'm not a prude or against it in anyway.

I'm just shocked about how much more everyone seems to talk about it now, there seems to have been such a change in attitudes about it.

Until recently everyone seemed to think it was a bit "dirty" or "naughty" but now all my friends seem to be falling overthemselves to discuss it and I have even seem references to it on this morning the last few days.

Do you think Keith Lemmon and his smashing back doors in is to blame?

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mosschops30 · 14/10/2011 21:55

Yes medical, sorry cant answer the legs and arms dilemma

HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 14/10/2011 21:57

anal tone?

Confused

Is that the quality of the sound your farts make?

EricNorthmansMistress · 14/10/2011 21:59

Whhhyyyyyyyyy would you give yourself an enema? just why?

Anal sex is a special treat (for both of us) and we don't do it often enough to risk damage. But you only do it if you don't need a poo. Unless you need to poo you do not need to perform an enema

RoyalWelsh · 14/10/2011 22:02

I'm oddly fascinated by it. DP has always been a bit keen with the finger and even though it took me about a year and a half, I finally admitted that I quite liked it. Not all the way in, but just... I think the technical term is 'rimming' Blush so one night I finally thought "well, in for a penny..." and we tried it.

Needless to say, it didn't work - I thought he'd managed to ram the whom thing straight in but it turned out he'd barely entered. I was site for two days afterwards.

dementedma · 14/10/2011 22:08

its no good, I'm going to have to look......

AmberLeaf · 14/10/2011 22:10

demented, dont say I didnt warn you Grin

QuinnFabray · 14/10/2011 22:10

Well, obviously it's a very personal thing, and I've learned through experience, that giving myself an enema really is the best thing to do, for us. Really it's no big deal. Why do people shave themselves in preperation for sex? Why do people do anything? I'm a bit surprised that people are so aghast at the thought.

I'd much rather do it myself than go to a clinic and have a colonic ( I know that's got nothing to do with bumsex, but really, why do people do that? )

Moominsarescary · 14/10/2011 22:13

I have offered dp my armpit tonight, he looked at me as if I'd gone mad

AmberLeaf · 14/10/2011 22:16

Re armpit sex; Doesnt it tickle?

Bearskinwoolies · 14/10/2011 22:16

I was foolish enough to google it - have to say how impressed I was that the bloke remained soooo calm [hshock] But am definitely never ever ever googling things like that again. (ever)

PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 22:16

Have to say Quinn it's be a tad odd to respond to a raised eyebrow 'shall we' with 'sure I'll just book an appointment for the colonic'

One thing I do recall as bit odd when it came to other peoples sex lives was reading (can't remember if it was here) someone saying that they thought it was disgusting not to have a shower before sex. Or possibly it was after, can't overly recall, either way I thought it was odd

scarlettsmummy2 · 14/10/2011 22:16

haven't read all the posts, but was wondering what age the OP is?? this is the kind of thing my friends and I would have discussed in our early twenties when we were all a bit more curious, however certainly not ten years later when married with kids. I honestly can think of nothing worse in the bedroom than having my husband attempt to it lol

dementedma · 14/10/2011 22:16

ok, I googled what it was about and that was enough. no way I'm going to watch that [puke]

PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 22:17

not it's but it'd - because you don't respond like that (I think)

AmberLeaf · 14/10/2011 22:17

Im still having eyeball bleach baths over it demented.

You did the right thing believe me!

Moominsarescary · 14/10/2011 22:18

Don't know if the armpit tickles but I'd have histerics if he tried

fastweb · 14/10/2011 22:21

ffs. A gun. If he even looked at me sideways again, I'd shoot him in the bollocks

Grin

Sounds reasonable to me.

TheSecondComing · 14/10/2011 22:22

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QuinnFabray · 14/10/2011 22:24

I could explain what happened that lead me to start doing the enema's, but really, that would be way too much information, even for an anonymous internet forum.

But it's really no big deal, they are ever so quick and easy to do, and rather satisfying! grin

PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 22:26

LOL

just spotted the gun comment

Too true!!

Though in all honesty my answer when they asked me that question was to point at the baby and say 'him'

HeadlessLamAAARRRGHHHH · 14/10/2011 23:07

PureBloodMuggle the term you don't want to Google is DVDA. Honestly, just don't. No, I haven't Googled it either, I just reckognise the acronym as what you were on about.

As for bumsex, an ex of mine lived in Greece for a few years and had Greek bfs. She fucking loved liked it most nights occasionally. She introduced me to it, I'd never thought about it till then. As Sade put it, "The Sweetest Taboo". I also know men who are repulsed by it. Until 2001 I never thought about it. Then I was introduced to it and it was a part of my life for 5 years. Nowadays I don't bother, you can never tell who likes it and who doesn't. And I'm not looking anyway.

PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 23:14

Can work out what DVDA means.

Tempted

Though DH is back home now so might wait till he's off again, might get ideas!!

Moominsarescary · 14/10/2011 23:21

Well I had to look dvda up, is it realy possible? Luckily my phone won't let me view

PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 23:23

Dunno Moomin

Google is not my friend tonight

Could be an urban myth, I just can't figure out the logistics of it.