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To be a bit shocked at how "mainstream" anal sex has become between couples?

246 replies

Scaredconfusedexcited · 14/10/2011 11:37

for the record i'm not a prude or against it in anyway.

I'm just shocked about how much more everyone seems to talk about it now, there seems to have been such a change in attitudes about it.

Until recently everyone seemed to think it was a bit "dirty" or "naughty" but now all my friends seem to be falling overthemselves to discuss it and I have even seem references to it on this morning the last few days.

Do you think Keith Lemmon and his smashing back doors in is to blame?

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HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 14/10/2011 17:37

Is it true that if you have a lot of anal sex you can end up with faecal incontinence as you bugger up your sphincter?

HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 14/10/2011 17:38

erm. Unfortunate choice of words there. You damage your sphincter.

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 14/10/2011 17:48

Up both ?

Jesus, that must be agony.

SeveredHeadsDragonTheFloor · 14/10/2011 17:49

"imo, there are 'in' holes and there are 'out' holes"

Of course a vagina is for both in and out

Berries · 14/10/2011 17:51

Well, I enjoy it and usually orgasm through it as well. Although only done with current partner. Very common on the continent apparently (says french dp)

HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 14/10/2011 17:51

Grin so's the mouth.

Still. I stand by my point.

The anus is an OUT hole. Grin

slightlymad72 · 14/10/2011 17:54

I have just been informed by DD(19) that agony aunts are now recommending/suggesting that if vaginal sex is painful you should offer your man your knee, elbow, armpit or even your neck. She doesn't remember anal or ear sex being recommended. I thought I knew it all

hadagutsfull · 14/10/2011 18:08

It's definitely not for me thank you! Brings tears to the eyes just thinking about it. I was also told some years ago, my my lovely male gay hairdresser, that he knew of men that had to use tampons after years of having anal sex. I don't think he was winding me up but you never know ...

Malificence · 14/10/2011 18:38

www.bedtimeheaven.co.uk/product_detail-prodID~12101.htm

I'm wincing just looking at it!! Shock

WHY. THE. HELL.???

fastweb · 14/10/2011 18:47

my eyes are watering.

StickyGhost · 14/10/2011 18:50

I stand corrected, thank you Berries & Electra.

ScarahStratton · 14/10/2011 18:52

I've heard the tampon thing too, from a pretty reliable source.

durhambound · 14/10/2011 18:57

A friend of mine said her boyfriend kept asking for anal sex. I told her to tell him "my bum is for poo, not for you" think I heared it from mumsnet. Grin

durhambound · 14/10/2011 19:00

out of stock. Grin

TheSecondComing · 14/10/2011 19:01

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MsScarlettInTheLibrary · 14/10/2011 19:03

'Advanced dildo user' Shock Grin

ScarahStratton · 14/10/2011 19:03

On top of the fanjo one, bum one from behind. And I have not indulged in this practise.

MsScarlettInTheLibrary · 14/10/2011 19:05

Well on guy lays down on a bed with his legs dangling off it and the woman sits astride him and leans forward and the other guy kind of sneaks up behind and kneels in between the other guy's legs for backdoor access.

Apparently Blush

said · 14/10/2011 19:06

Grin @ "Very common on the continent apparently (says french dp)" - that'll be teh Catholic, not allowed to use contraceptive part of the continent, I suspect

ScarahStratton · 14/10/2011 19:07

It sounds horrendous. Confused

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BertieBotts · 14/10/2011 19:12

Malificence!!! Shock

I hope DP doesn't look through my internet history to find inspiration for my anniversary present now Grin

This will be my first... um... "outing" on a bumsex thread. Blush I was always really adamantly against it. Said I would never try it. Couldn't understand why or how it could be at all pleasurable. But did enjoy some mild anal stimulation, which DP enjoyed as well, so he just kind of.. kept going. And then one day I was getting really into it and I told him I wanted to try anal sex. So we got set up with some pillows, I used a vibrator on my clit, and he went in, pretty much just that, and I had probably the most intense orgasm of my life in the next 3 seconds. I literally couldn't speak and my vision blacked out for 30 seconds or so. I was crying and laughing at the same time and he was SO worried in case he had hurt or upset me, and I couldn't get the words out to say it was fine, it was amazing, for about two or three minutes!

We've done it a few times since then and it's always just been the pressure for me (and vibrator combination Grin) - the one time he managed to stay in long enough to do any movement I found the moving made it just feel like vaguely uncomfortable, not-orgasmic doggy style. So completely pointless. And once we did it and I hadn't had the build up and was possibly a bit nervous and it hurt, a lot, and that put me off for ages. But in those rare sessions with lots of build up, when I've suggested it rather than DP, with a decent vibrator, and just the pressure rather than movement, the orgasms can be explosive. (I suspect I might have a problem if DP was too large as well, thankfully, he's not!)

And actually, bizarrely, I find it massively empowering. Which is probably just because it's the first thing I've ever actually suggested for myself, really wanted and been in control of, and enjoyed the first time I did it - for everything else I've always felt like I was doing it because that was what you did and it took me a while to get used to it.

Rivenwithoutabingle · 14/10/2011 19:13

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ScarahStratton · 14/10/2011 19:14

do the blokes chat over your shoulder or snog or whatever

Just when you thought it couldn't get any worse...

oneofthosedays · 14/10/2011 19:16

Loving how that dildo is out of stock [hgrin] - couldn't believe how much other stuff there was on there!!!!