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To be a bit shocked at how "mainstream" anal sex has become between couples?

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Scaredconfusedexcited · 14/10/2011 11:37

for the record i'm not a prude or against it in anyway.

I'm just shocked about how much more everyone seems to talk about it now, there seems to have been such a change in attitudes about it.

Until recently everyone seemed to think it was a bit "dirty" or "naughty" but now all my friends seem to be falling overthemselves to discuss it and I have even seem references to it on this morning the last few days.

Do you think Keith Lemmon and his smashing back doors in is to blame?

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WinterIsComing · 14/10/2011 20:23

SummerRain Sad

I had one of those (fissure not BF) after childbirth and it was horrendous. Miles worse than the stitches.

In the late-eighties when it was almost unheard of, my mate found that every boy she went out with asked for it. And given the incestuous nature of our sixth-form college it really was strange because we all ended up going out with the same people during those three years and nobody else had ever had any requests or suggestions wrt bumlove.

When we met up again after five years she was an experienced fistee! It must be like driving or something. I'm clearly not a natural catcher either.

AmberLeaf · 14/10/2011 20:26

dementedma JUST DONT DO IT SERIOUSLY

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LikeABlackFlameCandleBNQ · 14/10/2011 20:36

My cousin is very open about the fact she and her husband enjoy anal sex. Her motto is: Up the bum so no babies come.

Grin

I can barely talk about fanjo sex. Am such a prude Blush

Rivenwithoutabingle · 14/10/2011 20:51

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AngieWatts · 14/10/2011 20:52

I'm sure it is just a case of people talking about it more. Pretty sure people were doing it before, too Wink

PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 21:02

Yes quadruple - Two in the fanny, two in the bum.

I mean seriously how does everyone fit around them?

Google images failed me so either it's a urban myth or you have to pay for that sort of thing

Bearskinwoolies · 14/10/2011 21:07

Oh hell no - don't google it, I made that mistake, and will probably have nightmares

Not long after he came out, we got completely pished and had one of those conversations where nothing is off limits. My eyes were opened, that's for sure. I learned a lot about what's acceptable (insertion wise), what's definitely not, and lots about what can go wrong when you use breakable/expandable/cold things. [hshock]

SHRIIIEEEKPoolingBearBlood · 14/10/2011 21:09

"Malificence Fri 14-Oct-11 16:05:29

Where do you think the prhrase "up the bum, no babies" comes from?"

oh yes that phrase Hmm :o

PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 21:18

I read a description (just words no pictures) of it once Bearskinwoolies

Disturbed me enough i tell you

MrsPlesWearsAFez · 14/10/2011 21:20

This is one of those threads where you click on a link and then immediately wish that; (a) you hadn't, and (b) you were much more competent with computers so that when it does inevitably break and have to go into PC World you do not get met on pick-up with a knowing grin from the staff who have had a mosey through your history.

I do feel the need to point out that a nose and an arse are very different parts of the anatomy, and am amazed that anyone indulging in anal sex is not aware that there are a lot of muscles in that area.

You can sustain rectal muscle damage through constipation...

PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 21:20

Ha

Just had a thought, you know (or maybe it's just my maternity hospital) when they asked you what you are planning on doing about contraception after you've just had the baby, I wonder how many people answer "Oh anal, you know after all 'up the bum, no babies'"

dementedma · 14/10/2011 21:26

oh I SO want to google it but don't dare now!
Someone explain it to me.....

rockinastocking · 14/10/2011 21:27

Give yourself an enema??

How? Just, like, in the bathroom? With a hosepipe?

Rivenwithoutabingle · 14/10/2011 21:30

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AmberLeaf · 14/10/2011 21:30

demented, its beyond explanation!

It will haunt you.

Its really not nice!

Just imagine how bad it could be, then x1,00000 and you're nearly there.

HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 14/10/2011 21:33

quadruple? Shock

Who are these people?

I mean, that must really really really really really hurt.

HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 14/10/2011 21:36

muggle - I don't know why they ask you that question at all, tbh Grin

In my case, I had pushed a 10 and a half pound person from my body, had very many stitches, had pushed out a frigging pile and was dropping bloody clots when I walked Hmm

And they asked me what method of contraception we'd be using.

ffs. A gun. If he even looked at me sideways again, I'd shoot him in the bollocks.

PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 21:37

I googled quadruple penertration, yes, but got nothing to answer the where they torsos and legs go. Weirdly disappointed about it, I mean how's it done?

Must ask others at the next school pick up.

I think it's in wiki demented - have a look at that (no pictures I think)

PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 21:38

make that wiki answers

helpmabob · 14/10/2011 21:38

Well I dont think it is a big deal between two consenting adults but now I am wondering if so many couples are at it, am I missing something. Personally I can't bear the thought of it.

QuinnFabray · 14/10/2011 21:39

You can buy enema kits, or even ready to use enemas, online, or from the chemist. I sometimes do it even if I'm not going to have bum sex.

I never ever talk about this stuff in real life, and it's not about wanting to be seen as cool and "up for anything", just that people are making comments about not believing that any woman enjoys it, and well, some women do. Like I said, it's very intimate and results in amazing orgasms.

mosschops30 · 14/10/2011 21:50

The proper word used in the work place for those who are slack of arse is

'poor anal tone'

Which is surprisingly coomon Hmm

Rivenwithoutabingle · 14/10/2011 21:52

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PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 21:54

What's your place of work mosschops? Is it medical work place, I guess that's one place that anal tones matter?

If it isn't can you answer my question about where the legs and bodies go