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To be a bit shocked at how "mainstream" anal sex has become between couples?

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Scaredconfusedexcited · 14/10/2011 11:37

for the record i'm not a prude or against it in anyway.

I'm just shocked about how much more everyone seems to talk about it now, there seems to have been such a change in attitudes about it.

Until recently everyone seemed to think it was a bit "dirty" or "naughty" but now all my friends seem to be falling overthemselves to discuss it and I have even seem references to it on this morning the last few days.

Do you think Keith Lemmon and his smashing back doors in is to blame?

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MsScarlettInTheLibrary · 14/10/2011 19:16

Well I've no personal experience TSC but I guess they do whatever they feel like doing. Don't reckon it's that common. More common would be using a vibrator for one and a man for the other.

I hear if you've a vibrator up one it give pleasure to the man too as the two places are so close he can feel the vibrations.

Again this isn't something I've done!

Bearskinwoolies · 14/10/2011 19:28

Ok - I'll admit to being an enjoyer of bumsex. It's ok as long as you and your partner are relaxed about the whole thing, and are using lots of lube.

My beloved cousin who is gay would like me to add the following:- regular bumsex does not leave you with a slack arse, or incontinent or needing tampons shoved up there. Only bumsex users who have a fetish for more than a penis/penis shaped item up there go on to experience those kinds of problems.

SummerRain · 14/10/2011 19:31

One partner did it accidentally when I was a teen and it did me serious damage, to this day I get anal fissures regularly and that's when it started.

I can't imagine doing it for fun (especially as dp is well endowed and vanilla sex can be bloody painful)

hadagutsfull · 14/10/2011 19:33

Ooh bearskin you've got me wondering about what "a fetish for more than a penis/penis shaped item" would be now ... Blush

Rivenwithoutabingle · 14/10/2011 19:36

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catgirl1976 · 14/10/2011 19:36

love it on an occasional basis

don't think its about trying to show you are "up for anything" etc - is very pleasurable. wouldnt do it all the time though and even i was a little scared of that toy!

TheSecondComing · 14/10/2011 19:38

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moondog · 14/10/2011 19:38

Yes, but whose penis was it MoFo?
You don't say...Grin

Bearskinwoolies · 14/10/2011 19:47

Hadagutsfull I would recommend NOT googling it, but using your imagination instead

SummerRain · 14/10/2011 19:51

Riven.... really? you can't figure that out? Hmm

Man on top from behind, lying down, over enthusiastic thrusting, pulled too far back and it slipped out, thrust forward and it went in the wrong hole, I screamed, he pulled out and apologised.

Feel better now you have details?

GossipWitch · 14/10/2011 19:53

I want a tattoo on my ass saying one way system, they might get the message then.....

hadagutsfull · 14/10/2011 19:56

Bearskin am most definitely NOT going to google it - that's all I need, DS finding it on the PC history! Grin I've heard lots of A&E stories about loo brushes, aerosol cans etc etc ... that's more than enough information for me!

SummerRain · 14/10/2011 19:57

lol Gossip.... one of those 'no-entry' signs would make a good tattoo Grin

PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 19:59

Oh deary me

Curiosity has killed the cat here

Just read about double stuffing.

Have to admit that i've sometimes wondered how logistically a triple entry, not the accounting sort, is done, where does every thing go (I don't mean the willies but the rest of the man that is attached to the willy)

AmberLeaf · 14/10/2011 20:01

I think its always been mainstream for some couples/people, its just more talked about these days.

The fact that we are talking about it on an internet forum is an example of that.

I dont blame porn, I 'blame' the internet for bringing it to the attention of the masses.

If you dont fancy it, dont do it. If you try and dont like, dont do it.

If you want to and enjoy it, do it! Smile

Lots of do women enjoy it.

TiggyD · 14/10/2011 20:01

I've had anal sex up to here. [gesticulates]

AmberLeaf · 14/10/2011 20:02

Re double penetration; 1 man 1 dildo

AKissIsNotAContract · 14/10/2011 20:03

I've done quite a bit of bumsex. My deal is that if a man wants bumsex he has to let me bum him first. Bumming men is great fun!

PureBloodMuggle · 14/10/2011 20:03

OK just read about quadruple penetration.

Mind boggles, where does everyone fit?

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aldiwhore · 14/10/2011 20:04

Course you can do it accidently, unless you have a man with a precision penis (ie, small one).

Now I'm a die hard Vanilla girl at heart but I have also drunk too much fruitjuice at times, and ocassionally tasted other flavours... and mostly they have in fact been purely accidental (at first Wink)

Bearskin I have actually spoken to my gay friend THIS VERY DAY and randomly asked if man bumholes are less elastic than lady bumholes because of the suggestion bumholes may get saggy... well apart from calling me a dirty bitch and being disappointed that I'm only talking about it on a freaking forum (and am therefore a sad twat too) he says the same as your mate, and although he has absolutely no idea about female bum holes can't imagine you becoming saggy from sex, regardless of which ever hole.

Its like my Gran saying my nostrils would expand if I picked my nose... well DUH, I had to try just to see if she was correct, and I can safely say my nostrils are normal (even though I don't pick my nose these days as I'm far too ladylike... honest).

ScarahStratton · 14/10/2011 20:07

I don't think 4x penetration is possible at all. [hhmm]

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Bearskinwoolies · 14/10/2011 20:11

Aldi - I wish my cousin had said something similar to me, but he already knows I'm a dirty bitch Wink and it's easily NOT the worst conversation we've ever had about this Blush

ScarahStratton · 14/10/2011 20:12

Kerrist, what else has he told you?

QuinnFabray · 14/10/2011 20:19

I like it. It's incredibly intimate and intense, and orgasms are really good. I always give myself an enema before hand.

dementedma · 14/10/2011 20:22

what is one man one jar? Dare I google it?