To be a bit shocked at how "mainstream" anal sex has become between couples?

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for the record i'm not a prude or against it in anyway.

I'm just shocked about how much more everyone seems to talk about it now, there seems to have been such a change in attitudes about it.

Until recently everyone seemed to think it was a bit "dirty" or "naughty" but now all my friends seem to be falling overthemselves to discuss it and I have even seem references to it on this morning the last few days.

Do you think Keith Lemmon and his smashing back doors in is to blame?

Yep, done it and enjoyed it alot but my current DP doesn't want to so we don't. I'm all for not doing anything you don't want to in the bedroom dept and that works both ways. I feel like I'm missing out but hey ho...

I think it's talked about more because of porn

I suppose one of the reasons it is talked about now is because it is legal. It wasn't legal in heterosexual sex when I was a teenager. I can't remember what year it became legal in, but certainly within my lifetime.

Bluddy and Nowt - which brings a whole new meaning to the phrase "any hole is the goal."

leaves!

fortyplus refreshing to hear something not too dramatic either way... it kinda happened with DH and I the first time (imagine the scene, whoopsy wrong hole, actually that's not too bad) but I wouldn't say it was something I wanted to try again. Until we were very pissed and again the aim was off... its alright, nowt to write home about, nothing I'd really aspire to include under the heading 'normal service' but also not so repulsive either.

Doesn't happen these days thanks to two children who give me much joy but also reoccuring piles...

I can imagine it was actually more popular but less spoken about among couples pre-contraception era who enjoyed intimacy, unless they were happy with armpit sex.

And nasal sex for the small ones? Bless.

Why is being 'vanilla' such a derogatory thing?

Vanillas a very nice flavour. In fact I prefer it to chocolate

I think its best to be sceptical about what people say about their sex lives. There tends to be more humour than facts. But there is more open debate

I once heard that a prisoner had sex with a hollowed out stale bread loaf If you believe that it would put you off sandwiches for life

I agree wholeheartedly Tip :)

Was that a hairy or a shaved armpit :o

A friend of mine (honest) was at a wedding once where the newly- married bridal couple were playing 'Mr and Mrs', I think this was part of the best man's speech. Anyway, imagine the mother of the bride's embarrassment when her daughter was asked, "Where is the most unusual place you've ever had sex?" and the blushing bride replied, "Right up me bum"!

BMoFo That was hilarious! Armpit - wtf!

I didn't realise it was mainstream (anal)? Maybe I am a prude!

exaspomum...great joke.

I imagine it was far more common before reliable contraception was widely available and certainly in predominantly catholic countries.

Where do you think the prhrase "up the bum, no babies" comes from?

Each to their own but........

Have to ask tho, what's double penetration ? not two willys in one bum surely ??!

I think condoms are recommended as there is much higher transmission of blood borne viruses such as HIV with anal sex due to likelihood of trauma and bleeding.
Not for me that's for sure, it's a one way street as far as I'm concerned

I find it all childish and sniggery, if I'm honest.

And because there is bacteria / poo up the anus and you wouldn't want to get that inside the penis

Sorry haven't read the rest of the thread, but I have never met in RL a woman who actually enjoyed anal sex. My exh told me when I was 19 that some friend's gf orgasmed everytime from anal sex and loved it, even to this day I can't bring myself to believe that.

The one useful thing to come out of anal sex (except help for constipation), was my DP telling me I had haemorrhoids which I wasn't aware of. Although I could have lived without knowing that tbh. Maybe you should all be asking your OHs whether this is you aswell???

I hate those double penetration films - they are really horrible. It seems inevitable to me that most women are going to feel pain with two giant sized cocks in at once (one is difficult enough!) and cannot possibly be enjoying it.

I don't think it matters whether anal sex is mainstream or not. It's a preference like anything else. If you don't like it, don't do it but it's not necessary to suggest those that do are perverse or strange.

StickyGhost, in my own experience it is possible to enjoy anal sex if very relaxed and have already come.

apocalypse,

double penetration is one in the fanjo and one up the bum!!

Not talking from experience, haven't had single penetration for years...

I blame porn.

imo, there are 'in' holes and there are 'out' holes. someone who wanted to stick his penis up my arse would be presented with an 8 inch dildo and told "I will if you will. Bend over."

There are plenty of weirdos braggers on Lovehoney who boast of the size of toy they fit up their arse, it can't be good for you. I mean garden gnome size?

Have you seen the Lovehoney sex machine? All you need is an armpit!