Would you send your kid to a bday party without a present?

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If it was a v v v close friend I might say "I know it's not your DCs bday till whenever - is it OK if I drop his present in on the day?"

If it's a bday party I would send my kid with £10 in a card (aged 12). Or £5 in a card. But not nothing. Even if they turned up with a Mars Bar I wouldn't think anything.

I recently had a bday party (which cost about £45 per kid) for my DS and 2 kids from the same family turned up with nothing and said "Mum will drop his present round tmw" I said "how lovely to see you! Come in!" One of the kids from the same family same to DCs party last year empty handed.

TBH I would rather they turned up as they are good mates. I know their financial circumstances aren't great, but nor are mine. I also know that they eat out a lot and do an expensive hobby (which I won't name) at least twice a month.

I just wouldn't have the brass neck to send my kid with nothing.

I would love if people sent kids to my daughter's party without a present, we have enough plastic tat in the house. It sounds like they are going to give a present just not on the same day, though? What's wrong with that?

she said she'd give a present last year and then never did.

Every year my youngest invites his friend who has never brought him a gift. The first year I was a bit shocked, but really had to get over myself when I heard my son say 'it's ok, I'm just really glad you came'. He was 6. I knew that he did mind little but he also knew how awful it would make his friend feel to go on about it. This kid is not well off, and I'd hate him to miss out because he thought he wasn't good enough. I agree that I!d hate to turn up without a gift, but I would never make someone feel bad about doing so, especially if I was hosting an expensive party...

OP I think your point is actually that it is manners that cost nothing. I think if you'd been thanked by the kids mum you wouldn't had minded about any gift really. But she didn't say thanks after you treated her kids to a day out. So that makes her extremely rude in my eyes. I think you're right to be peeved (but I think you're lying about being peeved about no gift, you're actually peeved that she wasn't just polite & said thank you).

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