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To have a baby at 45?

606 replies

Hope88 · 05/10/2011 14:53

I am thinking about having another child. But I would like to have a bigger gap between children which means I would be getting near 45. If it all goes well. Do you think it's selfish to have a child at 45? I just think I would be a better mother if I wait opposed to rushing into it and being really stressed out. Your thoughts please.

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Theala · 06/10/2011 20:41

Yeah. Hmm. My mother was 24 when she had me. I still thought she was an annoying aul wan when I left to go to uni as a stroppy 18-year-old.

45-year-old MILF with a son at university? Pull the fucking other one, darling. Those teenagers are laughing at you not with you. Try to comport yourself with a modicum of dignity.

AnyCorpseFucker · 06/10/2011 20:45

brilliant

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 06/10/2011 20:46

arf

BabyDubsEverywhere · 06/10/2011 20:52

Gob smacked this thread hasnt been pulled yet!

CristinadellaPizza · 06/10/2011 20:55

It's like we've unearthed a whole new seam of SAHM vs WOHM, BF vs FF etc

I feel all refreshed and full of vim and vigour (despite my advanced years) :o

Aislingorla · 06/10/2011 20:57

AF seriously needs to get out more! (she has many reasons to have a 'go' at me due to being upset at my posts in an older thread) She said I was a MILF, not me. (projecting her desire to be considered one I think)
I work with teens and therefore get on very well with them. If some of my son's friends 'like' me, so be it! I certainly don't encourage it.
4mad, I am 46, never said I was 36, Uni grants never existed in Ireland where I, did indeed, go to Uni.
I am a cow and 45 is too old to have a baby no matter how you try to rationise it.

AnyCorpseFucker · 06/10/2011 21:01

I feel sorry for you, Aisling

I wouldn't be so crass as to post the reason why here

But we both know what it is

Deux · 06/10/2011 21:05

Of course 45 is not too old to have a baby, but really, Aisling, I do think that 46 is too old to have those kind of attitudes.

Come on, the rest of us are quite mellow. Hormones giving you some trouble? Smile

brdgrl · 06/10/2011 21:07

Uni grants never existed in Ireland
excuse me? no grants for university students in ireland? never? this is completely untrue.

but then, so is a great deal of what you've said. surprise, surprise.

4madboys · 06/10/2011 21:12

what deux just said!

ledkr · 06/10/2011 21:24

tbh if you think your sons teenage friends are lusting after you then A,you need to look at what messages you are giving out and B,they are probably taking the piss.
Also earlier you said you dont live your life through your kids but then said you have all the neighbourhood teens in your home,are you mad?

thefirstMrsDeVere · 06/10/2011 21:24

Hang on. You are 46? So you are older than a lot of us?
So wtaf have you been banging on about all this sodding time?

You are dealing with teens? You are older than me so does that mean I am better at dealing with my teen than you are?

Your grip on reality has been a bit shaky but given your actual age I think you have now lost it completely.

You are an older parent than me yet you are lecturing all and sundry about the evils of older parenthood.

Well confused.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 06/10/2011 21:27

Ah aisling is menopausal.

Face it love.....your past it.

ledkr · 06/10/2011 21:29

deux I am an old-er mum of an 8 month old but i am already a granny too.Does that make me a gilf? Grin

Deux · 06/10/2011 21:35

ledkr, your GILF must surely trump Aisling's MILF Grin

Crikey, look at the time. I am soooooo exhausted by my young children, I'd better get to bed. Smile

AnyCorpseFucker · 06/10/2011 21:39

deux you should stick around more Smile

ledkr · 06/10/2011 21:46

Yeah you should do if you have the energy after running around in your tenna lady chasing your young uns.

MamaMaiasaura · 06/10/2011 21:47

Lol @ hobnob... Grin

deux's posts.

Deux · 06/10/2011 22:28
Smile
MamaMaiasaura · 06/10/2011 22:29

Shouldn't u be in bed Wink

Aislingorla · 06/10/2011 22:37

The teens at my house are over to see my teen and in his room, not hanging around with me!

Of course I'm old at 46 but not planning to get pregnant! I had my children at a relatively young age , ie, 27 to 35.

AF, threathening to expose me? How silly? I've never namechanged, so people can look up my previous posts.

brd, my parents could not get a grant for me or my brother, not sure what the system was, income related, I think.(I'm from Southern Ireland)

hob, it's 'you're/are' not 'your' (menopausal).

Oh and didn't one of you order the others not to communicate with me?

brdgrl · 06/10/2011 22:58

brd, my parents could not get a grant for me or my brother, not sure what the system was, income related, I think.(I'm from Southern Ireland)

yes. exactly. so your previous post was incorrect and misleading. why not say 'i could not get a grant', rather than saying that 'uni grants never existed in Ireland'?

oh, right - because your MO is to make baseless generalisations based on incorrect observation, with a dose of gratuitous rudeness thrown in.

couple that with your contradictory posts here, and your credibility is pretty much zilch...
right. waste of space, waste of time. let's just agree that your claims that '45 is too old to have a baby', etc etc are about as factually based and well-argued as your claim that there were never university grants in the Republic.

Yellowstone · 06/10/2011 23:04

Aisling I haven't read the whole thread but how come you're still here? You've spent the entire day on this thread!

Surely a MILF like you should be going downtown, hanging around Park End for the freshers?

Aislingorla · 06/10/2011 23:04

Oh calm down, Jays! I meant unlike in the UK when Grants were available to most. So sorry I was not exact and misleading .
Have I hit a chord here, brd? Thinking of having a 'late' baby? Or just having a 'pop' (and getting very worked up) at a stranger on an internet forum because you are bored!

Aislingorla · 06/10/2011 23:09

So I have Yellow( well, on and off ) I have been out early evening and came back to lots of silly comments aimed at me. How easily riled some people are. Hope you are not too upset and sleep well.
As I've already said (sigh) AF decided I was a MILF, not me.