A relative pinched my 14 month old baby on her face

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My partners sister pinched our baby on the face, causing a bruise that lasted 10 days. I saw the aunt pinch my daughter just as I walked past the room. I assume my baby might have pinched her first (but that's no excuse as the aunt is 43 and my daughter is only 14 months old). My baby daughter screamed in pain and sobbed for several minutes afterwards. As soon as I saw it happen I scooped her up and removed her from the room but now I don't trust this woman with my kids. I have 3 Pre-schoolers and this aunt has moved in with us for 12-18 months!
I didn't say anything to the aunt at the time as I was too shocked and upset. I haven't mentioned it since & it was 2 months ago. I asked my partner to speak to the aunt (his sister) which he did & she seemed surprised about the deep blue bruise on baby's cheek. He apparently said that only we (parents) are to discipline the children.

My daughter also had a large cut on her top lip a few weeks before (obviously a fingernail cut from the aunt) which the aunt said was caused by baby's fingernail. She had only been with the aunt for an hour. It definitely wasn't from baby as it was too wide/thick to be from a baby's fingernail. I couldn't understand why she would lie about an accident. I wouldn't have been upset/angry about an accident! Why lie about it?

However, I don't trust her now & I sure as heck don't want my kids to have to live with her if something ever happened to me & my partner (that aunt is in our will as being guardian and I want that changed now).
Has anyone else had something similar happen? How did you handle it? Thanks for any advice.

Oh dear I am afraid this is a wind up? Hope it is. You can't be for real?

And what will you be saying to her? "Fancy a curry? Have another naan bread! Go on go on go on!" Or "You have to move out."?

"Battered mars bar, Aunty?"

hully loves the takeaway idea, oh ok go for it.

Also, you could put loads of Daddy Longlegs in her bed and mix up her socks in th ewash.

Wouldn't it be easier just to tell her to get the fuck out of your house?
Couldn't she go to a B & B or summat?

So who's with your dd while she sleeps her morning nap and you got out? Not sure I understood correctly..?

go out

crazynanna - oh come on, where's the fun in that?

Just wondering that too petisa, its such a flawed plan. Just want to scream HELLO op

Rest assured Petisapumpkinhead that my daughter always has a long morning nap, there is always an angelcare monitor on downstairs and DP is in the house (albeit asleep but he knows I do not allow SIL alone with the children. He would wake up if our daughter did because I move the baby monitor into our room if I pop out. SIL would have to go into our room to turn off the monitor (if not, the alarm would go off), thereby waking him up.

Bloody hell, door out auntie bYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

OP i am lost for words. You have been given some great advice on this thread. Please take it!

I'm tearing my eyeballs off this bonkers thread and am offski for a cuppa and a penguin...

I finding this hard to believe.

No Op really is this real. Your DP seems reluctant to back you up, ypu have said he's really tired - prehaps he will just let auntie deal with baby. My god what will it take?

But isn't he away?

What hold does this woman have over you?

Dear lord the leftie, homie we are are the moral highground will be along to soothe you at some point in the meantime take the good advice given and (shouts) GET RID< GOODBYE AUNTIE.

Showed DH this thread earlier and asked him if his mum did this what he would do and he would send her away and never see her again.

Would Auntie like a cream puff?

OP, why oh why will your husband nit take this seriously and kick the nasty woman out. So what if shes his sister. She bloody should not be in your house and near your children.
You both need a good shaking and talking to.

not

OP I really do feel for you that you obviously feel you have no other option than to resort to all this desperate plotting and planning rather than speak up in your own home over something as serious as this.

Anyway, and beckon.

Eeek - don't make me be serious, I very rarely come on here to be serious, having just, for the first time, read the whole thread though, I am horrified by Birdsgottafly's assertion that a child with a mark would spark an investigation.

My children frequently have marks on their faces, all of them made by eachother. I hope to God I never go to the doctor & he saw fit to involve SS because they were covered in sctratches & nips. Birds I am so glad there are social workers like you around who give credence to your profession, thank fuck we can trust you would make no hysterical descisions & would therefore approach you with our concerns.

Phew.

OP - I think you're being very measured, maybe too measured. You are clearly, rightly, concerned about her behaviour, you must speak to her or give her her marching orders. You can't live like this can you?

Morning nap is after SIL wakes up. It's then I can have a shower (2.5 year old outside the ensuite if DP is at work, or with me in family bathroom if DP asleep. When I take my 4.5 year old to school I take all 3 children, even if the youngest 2 haven't had breakfast (they'll have it when they get home).
I've also stopped biting my Tongue over everyday annoyances (such as SIL putting frying pans & wooden spoons in dishwasher). I figure the less time she wants to spend around me, the less time she will be around my children (as they are always with me). I hear what you are saying ("why not just tell her to #### off now"). She will be told to leave, but in the interim, she knows I've had enough and am no longer running a familial B&B.