A relative pinched my 14 month old baby on her face

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My partners sister pinched our baby on the face, causing a bruise that lasted 10 days. I saw the aunt pinch my daughter just as I walked past the room. I assume my baby might have pinched her first (but that's no excuse as the aunt is 43 and my daughter is only 14 months old). My baby daughter screamed in pain and sobbed for several minutes afterwards. As soon as I saw it happen I scooped her up and removed her from the room but now I don't trust this woman with my kids. I have 3 Pre-schoolers and this aunt has moved in with us for 12-18 months!
I didn't say anything to the aunt at the time as I was too shocked and upset. I haven't mentioned it since & it was 2 months ago. I asked my partner to speak to the aunt (his sister) which he did & she seemed surprised about the deep blue bruise on baby's cheek. He apparently said that only we (parents) are to discipline the children.

My daughter also had a large cut on her top lip a few weeks before (obviously a fingernail cut from the aunt) which the aunt said was caused by baby's fingernail. She had only been with the aunt for an hour. It definitely wasn't from baby as it was too wide/thick to be from a baby's fingernail. I couldn't understand why she would lie about an accident. I wouldn't have been upset/angry about an accident! Why lie about it?

However, I don't trust her now & I sure as heck don't want my kids to have to live with her if something ever happened to me & my partner (that aunt is in our will as being guardian and I want that changed now).
Has anyone else had something similar happen? How did you handle it? Thanks for any advice.

It was Fabbychic not Freakendblue who mentioned GBH.

Sorry to introduce a tangent, but I would be very much interested in Shoni's views on the imminent collapse of the worldwide economic system as explored in Emmerdale.

Thanks wellwisher Thats me out. Flounces.

It has been useful. In future, when faced with a crisis outside my own meagre experience I can close my eyes and quietly ask myself "what would Dot Cotton do'
I can then face them with a fag and a dour yet ultimately stoic demeanour.
All helpful.

Haven't read the whole thread but I would confront her and threaten to call the police, what the hell?! Pinching & scratching a baby is abuse, surely?!

if this isnt a wind up, i am homer simpson

doh!

Pag, I think Dot would roll her eyes, fasten a headscarf under her chin and 'ave a faaaaaaaaaaaag. It's a lesson for all of us.

Hully, I think it would be summed up thus, "aye, we're neck 'igh in't muck and no mistake".

What an amazing thread. Thank goodness the PARDs came on eventually because RIZZO was holding out alone for a long time.

OP, If you are still reading, well done. Hope you get some sensible and calm RL help to resolve your family situation.

Yes, Rizzo spoke sense from the start, good on her.

I am roaring at 'what would Dot Cotton do?'

I am assuming that Shoni is on a wind up as a mad frother, as nobody could genuinely believe that telling Ben Mitchell from easetenders story could be viewed as anything other than ludicrous.

Oh pour me a sherry someone. This thread is just doing my head in

Me and dsis always used to have a bottle of Harvey's whilst preparing christmas dinner (when we lived together). One christmas morn I got up and had a wee glass and began to sew up the turkey's arse (despite being a veggie) and drank more and more. By the time she came down at 10.30 I was lying sobbing on the floor with the turkey half sewn up and had to go and have a lie down.

happy days.

So snickers, how is it going since you posted this thread. Have you spoken to your husband yet about his sister and maybe about this thread.

Maybe he could read it and se for himself that his sister really does need to move out so that you can both relax look after your children and not feel on edge all the time.

Hully! What a vision.

Xmas with Hully

Oh. My. Actual. God.

Have just read whole thread.

Can I share your sherry please?

Crazy crazy thread

Can I just say that Shoni's post of 23:08 on 5th October was the funniest thing I have ever read, a few choice phrases if you like:-

'It was even broadcasted in eastenders one time!!
'he'd of [sic] dragged her out by the cruff of her neck and let me kick f**k out of her!!'

In addition, that is simply the most '!' and '?' I have ever seen in one post, the only sentence that wasn't a '!' or a '?' had a '...'

If this isn't hysteria I am not sure what is.

It was superb.

gosh what an amazing thread. It is interesting though that there is rarely any middle ground - it is either flame the op for not acting or kiss her arse for not using creches and therefore clearly being an excellent mother etc. Bizarre.

OP FWIW I am a little bit more middle ground - you need to tell her to leave -you are not comfortable in your own home and that is unacceptable. No need for a big scene, just simply state that you are unhappy and that is reason enough, it is your home after all.

oh stop being so reasonable. you didn't see that in a soap opera did you?

hully I have no time for such things as soaps, they eat into my 'pondering the world in a very sensitive way' time... and my merciless mumsnet scouring!

Ohhh I'd missed that post.

Yes, as Shoni so eloquently said, why on earth has OP not 'removed her out'