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A relative pinched my 14 month old baby on her face

532 replies

Snickers25 · 04/10/2011 22:20

My partners sister pinched our baby on the face, causing a bruise that lasted 10 days. I saw the aunt pinch my daughter just as I walked past the room. I assume my baby might have pinched her first (but that's no excuse as the aunt is 43 and my daughter is only 14 months old). My baby daughter screamed in pain and sobbed for several minutes afterwards. As soon as I saw it happen I scooped her up and removed her from the room but now I don't trust this woman with my kids. I have 3 Pre-schoolers and this aunt has moved in with us for 12-18 months!
I didn't say anything to the aunt at the time as I was too shocked and upset. I haven't mentioned it since & it was 2 months ago. I asked my partner to speak to the aunt (his sister) which he did & she seemed surprised about the deep blue bruise on baby's cheek. He apparently said that only we (parents) are to discipline the children.

My daughter also had a large cut on her top lip a few weeks before (obviously a fingernail cut from the aunt) which the aunt said was caused by baby's fingernail. She had only been with the aunt for an hour. It definitely wasn't from baby as it was too wide/thick to be from a baby's fingernail. I couldn't understand why she would lie about an accident. I wouldn't have been upset/angry about an accident! Why lie about it?

However, I don't trust her now & I sure as heck don't want my kids to have to live with her if something ever happened to me & my partner (that aunt is in our will as being guardian and I want that changed now).
Has anyone else had something similar happen? How did you handle it? Thanks for any advice.

OP posts:
ShroudOfHamsters · 06/10/2011 15:13

'Shurrup or I'll remove you out'

A truly terrible threat

Pagwatch · 06/10/2011 15:27

Are you saying my posts were not reasonable, excitedlj?

excitedLJ · 06/10/2011 15:35

not at all pag, in fact you were my favourite of all posters... < clutching at straws>

LapsedPacifist · 06/10/2011 15:54

Christ on a fucking bike, seldom have I had the privilege of reading so much hysterical claptrack on one thread. All the crying and the !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!s

Most entertaining.

OP, you are obviously on top of the situation, you are not leaving your kids alone with perp and I'm sure you start working on removing her from the household. Family can be shit eh? Best of luck.

GetOrfMo1Land · 06/10/2011 15:56

Perp!

Surely nobody outside of Hill Street Blues says that word Grin

Pagwatch · 06/10/2011 15:59

You only have to say I was reasonable. No need to read anything. But favourite was a nice touch.
Here Thanks

Pagwatch · 06/10/2011 16:01

Yes. Hill street blues. They shout ' I have the perp !!!!!!" and then remove him out.
And then those two get in the bath.

JamieComeHome · 06/10/2011 16:10

Let's just be careful out there

TheControversialJessie · 06/10/2011 16:17

Is Snickers still reading?

If she is, then I say: you need to get your SIL to leave. You cannot live for over a year feeling worried for your baby's safety within your own home, and constantly chaperoning/monitoring her.

You will be on your knees within months, if not weeks.

Pagwatch · 06/10/2011 16:43

[contented sigh] Jamie is back.

freakendblue · 06/10/2011 16:55

op What the actual fuck are you talking about? Evils of the world, creches, other children , smoking, drinking around children - in your view neglect but you have failed to remove a women who has injured your child from your home?

freakendblue · 06/10/2011 16:59

And what I don't understand is how you know she held the pinch for 30 seconds if you intervened immediatley - holes.

Proudnscary · 06/10/2011 17:04

I'm going to remove you all out by the cruffs of your necks if you don't stop the piss taking ok?!?!?!?!?!?!!!!!!!!!!!

Pagwatch · 06/10/2011 17:06

Ah. I will need more sherry soon I think.

ScarahStratton · 06/10/2011 17:07

When will I learn that lots of posts = fight thread/bloody funny thread.

Proudnscary · 06/10/2011 17:10

Here have some of this until you can get to the sherry shop - Wine Wine Wine Wine

RIZZ0 · 06/10/2011 17:34
whattodoo · 06/10/2011 17:36

Groan
I have read the thread.
waded through the hysteria, rooted for Rizzo who was talking sense. Seen the calm return when day broke and a little bit of sense come in to play.
All was beginning to appear 'right' again. I have faith that snickers is addressing this in the best way for her circumstances.
And then ...
You just wouldn't let it lie, would you?
(!!!!!!!!!!!)

GetOrfMo1Land · 06/10/2011 17:40
  • holes

- holes

HOLES

Someone called us Holes. Do you think she meant ARSE holes? Or hos.

RIZZ0 · 06/10/2011 17:48

I remember my early days at MN...

Back when summers were hot, politicians were honest, and MN'ers accepted none of us are perfect and calmly tried to guide each other through life's SNAFU's....

GetOrfMo1Land · 06/10/2011 18:17

The first thread I ever posted on in 2007 was a frothy mad row thread.

Plus ca change Grin

Pagwatch · 06/10/2011 18:21

The first thread I read was a Madeleine McCann thread.

I suspect some of the frothers from there are on here

GetOrfMo1Land · 06/10/2011 18:26

They were the proto-frothers.

FabbyChic · 06/10/2011 18:33

Okay it might not be GBH but it is certainly actual bodily harm.

And I stand by what I previously said if anyone staying in my house assaulted (because that is what it is), a child of mine they would be out the door without hearing a word from me ever again.

That is not hysteria that is fact, and I'd not believe for one minute that a parent who did not do that, had their childs best interest at heart.

hiddenhome · 06/10/2011 18:49

If somebody sees bruises/injuries on your baby's face and report you to social services, you'll have a heck of a lot of explaining to do.....with the aunt sitting in the corner sniggering of course.

I can't believe you are putting your family at risk by having this person under your roof.

You'd better watch that some over zealous GP or nurse doesn't start asking questions Hmm