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To be furious that neighbour put letter through door at 5am complaining about dd crying..?

470 replies

cheaperthantherapy · 27/09/2011 09:03

i need some perspective I think... Am 12 weeks pg, so hormones contributing to irrational emotions -AIBU....

We moved to new house in July, semi detached in London. Poor dd, 14 mo, has been unsettled since move and has woken up average twice a night crying. I soothe and put her back down within 15 mins. The past week she's been teething and waking screaming 6 times a night. So I have get in with me to quickly calm and try teething gel.

Last night 5am our neighbour (mid 20s woman) put a letter through our door saying she is fed up with dd crying, she has gone to doc for medication, and asking if she needs to move to get sleep...

My reaction was to write a note back suggesting in an offended and grumpy tone that she clearly has more issues if she needs to see doc because of crying baby and recommended she buy earplugs (I attached a packet of ear plugs for her).

Dh didn't let me put the note in her door - but am still fuming... AIBU?

OP posts:
EmpressOfTheSpartacusOceans · 23/05/2017 06:57

Must be, I think. There was a recent Wimbledon troll who was resurrecting zombie threads & got banned.

I miss the real Zombie though.

NotYoda · 23/05/2017 06:57

me too
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NotYoda · 23/05/2017 06:57

shall I stop now?

Legma37 · 23/05/2017 06:58

Lol! I know what a snowflake is, it's used ALL THE TIME, and it is not a particularly nice term. It's still meant as an insult. Grin

user1487175389 · 23/05/2017 07:01

She's a fool. You're the one actually having to deal with the crying. She can just put the earplugs in. Just ignore her. She'll be unlikely to get any sympathy from the councils noise abatement team or anything like that, so I'd just ignore her and hope she fucks off soon.

NotYoda · 23/05/2017 07:02

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user1487175389 · 23/05/2017 07:05

I see its a zombie thread, but I really hate these neighbours. Have one myself and she's an utter cunt. What do they expect us to do - gag our kids for them?

doesntsurprisemeanymore · 23/05/2017 07:10

I think that would be taking it far. What mothers with noisy babies could do however, is don't get surprised or offended if a noise that goes for weeks or months or even years isn't going to make someone so fed up that they need medical help, or are even considering moving. THAT is extreme.

NotYoda · 23/05/2017 07:13

start your own thread Smile

HeadShouldersYonisAndToes · 23/05/2017 07:21

Chill out with the rights stuff. This is MN, not a court of law. No-one has the 'right' to post on MN for goodness sake HmmGrin

As it goes, in my opinion, hanging round six year old threads to offer your sage advice, but hey, if that's what floats your boat. Takes all sorts I suppose.

Oh, and for those who haven't noticed...

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HeadShouldersYonisAndToes · 23/05/2017 07:22

As it goes, in my opinion, hanging round six year old threads to offer your sage advice, but hey, if that's what floats your boat. Takes all sorts I suppose.

Should say 'is about as unconstructive as you can get^

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Lostinaseaofbubbles · 23/05/2017 07:54

What did you say that was constructive?

EmpressOfTheSpartacusOceans · 23/05/2017 07:57

you can't say something contructive on social media or anywhere on the internet without having your head bitten off.

Which does seem kind of appropriate for someone who chooses to reanimate a zombie.

CHOMP.

NotMyPenguin · 23/05/2017 08:01

People talk about screaming babies like they are some kind of weird rarity that mothers (note: never fathers too!) have been selfish enough to produce and yet are unable to 'control'.

A quick reminder that we were ALL screaming babies/toddlers at some point, including your neighbour and all the PP on this thread. It's how they communicate!

Rather than saying "I'm sorry my baby is crying", I would probably phrase it slightly differently so you are apologising for the effect on her but not actually apologising for a totally natural fact of life, and say "I'm sorry that your sleep is being disturbed, I know how you feel because mine is too and I'm hoping that little XX gets over this teething too as soon as possible."

NotYoda · 23/05/2017 08:06

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Thinkingblonde · 23/05/2017 08:11

If it's bad for her how much worse is it for you? Does she think you're letting the baby cry just to annoy her?
I wouldn't send her a note, its better to go and talk to her face to face. Apologise to her but at the same time explain that baby is teething, is in pain and crying is her only form of communication to let you know that she is in discomfort. You do your best to settle her but some nights are worse than others. Offer her the ear plugs as a kind gesture.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 23/05/2017 08:16

ITS A FUCKING ZOMBIE

GrumpyOldBag · 23/05/2017 08:23

The baby is probably at primary school now!

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 23/05/2017 08:26

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ShatnersWig · 23/05/2017 08:35

Can I join in?

IT'S A FUCKING ZOMBIE THREAD

And proof that HUGE proportion of MN don't ever bother to read a fucking thread.

EmpressOfTheSpartacusOceans · 23/05/2017 08:40

I have written a haiku.

This is a zombie
Foolish re-animator
Do not wake it up.

Starlighter · 23/05/2017 09:20

If it's been going on for months and keeping her up at night, then I do think she has a right to be a bit annoyed. It must've taken a lot of guts to post that letter through!

But, you can't help the noise! Kids and babies are noisy! We had the same. Our two were both bad teethers and we had night terrors, all sorts - for years! We went round to both neighbours with earplugs and wine and apologised for the noise and said we're doing our best and they were fine!

It's nobody's fault, it's just one of those things. And it's no reflection on you as a mother. Keep things friendly. Hope you all get some sleep soon Flowers

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 23/05/2017 09:25

NOBODY CARES - IT IS A ZOMBIE!!!

RhiWrites · 23/05/2017 09:27

They probably did get some sleep as this thread is 7 years old.

ZOMBIE THREAD move along.

WindwardCircle · 23/05/2017 09:31

For the love of god it's a zombie, the baby in question will be at school by now.

To be furious that neighbour put letter through door at 5am complaining about dd crying..?