to be irritated by sil getting pissed while still bf her dd.

[mrszimmerman]

I mean she must have had 3 or 4 units, she was starting to really raise her voice and look lairy.

(btw she's awful when she's had a few)
But she did then give dd a forumla bottle and probably went 8 hours before feeding her. But still. It seems a little incautious to me.
BUT no offence to the bf drinkers, the research is not hugely clear about this is it?

mrs come out, come out! I agree that alcohol is way too dominant in UK culture. DH and I hardly ever drink - we just aren't that bothered about it either way. And neither of us particularly enjoy the feeling of being pissed.

You would think that was fine, yes? But it's not apparently. Whenever we go for a night out, or round to certain family members' houses, particularly if it's for Christmas, a birthday, etc, we get nagged endlessly when we refuse 'just one more drink'. Apparently not wanting to have at least more than two makes us miserable buggers. Which we are sometimes . But drink has nothing to do with it ha ha!

op you are just not getting it are you. You sounds nasty because you judged your SIL over something that is quite widely accepted as a non issue- she waited the right amount of time before she fed her baby. She wanted to have a drink, and from what you have described did so responsibly.

What does your DBro think of all this?

FFS she had a drink and she was actually cautious enough to not bf for 8 hours. If she got tipsy its probably precisely because she has not been drinking regularly. Give the woman a break.

Most posters disagree with you and you are still sounding judgey. You also don't seem to know if you are more irritated with the drinking whilst bf or that she's not a great drunk. Which is it? You don't drink, good for you. With knobs on.

FWIW I rarely drink either but if I was socialising with you I might change my mind.

I broke my no-drinking rule when my bottle-refusknik DS was eight months old and I had a weekend tooth abscess which nothing would touch except vodka. And I did try everything.

It started on Friday evening as these things tend to do and by Sunday morning I would gladly have ended my own life rather than endure any more pain / sleeplessness.

DH fed me the medicine and supervised DS. No carrying him, no overlaying and I thanked GOD for the informed MNers (did the calculations myself in fact) who had posted that a certain amount of alcohol by weight, by timing would not have harmed my son.

yabu
and judgy
she BF afterwards anyway

YABU - SIL was really responsible and cautious.

Just because your SIL annoys you doesn't mean everyone who enjoys a few glasses of wine is a dickhead or alcohol dependent and unable to enjoy themselves without it, ffs! YABvvvvvvU there!

None of your business, concentrate on your own children. You are being very unreasonable acting as if it has anything to do with you.

YABU YABU YABU

I am planning to sneak cider into the maternity ward when I give birth

Your SIL sounding like a 'know it all'... Btw it seems to me that she does because she did it right!

YABU!

DS loves his Boink after Mummy's had wine or whatever she's had!

You sound like a really fun and friendly person to hang around with OP!

Your SIL actually sounds very cautious and sensible!

I never gave formula / expressed milk because I'd been drinking alcohol. I did feed both DS's for quite a while, you can't sustain the caution you feel with a newborn for a year and half!

YABU. 3 or 4 units?...

Is this thread a wind up, because 4units is not even alot of alcohol just under 2 glasses of wine

YABVVU! You sound like a joy to be around . Why is it any of your business?

As with everything else in life, we make a judgement call using our common sense. A couple of glasses of wine and then not bfing for 8 hours seems like a non-issue to me.

As others have said, 3-4 units does not equal pissed!!!

With an blood iron count of 8 after having DD I discussed the pros and cons of iron tablets or guiness with the midwife. We decided that guiness was probably the better option and I was probably drinking a can - so maybe 3 units - most days for the first couple of weeks to restore my iron count.

AND that was breast feeding 2-3 hours later.

My iron count recovered; I breastfed until DD was 17 months and we're both happy and healthy.

I think your SiL has a very responsible attitude to alcohol, child care and breastfeeding.

Well judge away... The suns past the yard arm, busy day with teething 8mo old. I've just had a vodka and coke and a fag!!! Breastfeeding before bed is about to commence!

Didn't drink or smoke at all while pg until little one was 3 months. My husband is a shit and left us for another woman- now vodka, fags and my babys smile are all that gets me through. He was/ is a joy pre and post booze in the breastmilk. I wish it was different, but I give myself a pat on the back for continuing to feed this long and dealing with very painful biting on my own.

Do you judge me??

Yup. I judge you to be a trooper.

Hope life improves for you soon washing. You're doing a fab job and I take my hat off to you.

YABU

Thanks. Didn't mean to thread poach- my point was that looking after a baby is a joy but also really tough. If a glass of wine gets you through then by all means. This doesn't sound like a regular occourance so she seems to be doing a sterling job!

Am stil LOL at the poster who says a mother of toddlers needs her wine

Amen to that. DD is 2 and I still breastfeed her

YABU

I drank guiness for the first week post delivery to boost my iron

It's not like you drink and the alcohol goes directly into the milk

And I also take my hat off to you washing ...

I wish I could have a vodka and coke. Sadly I have no vodka. (and would be limited to one anyway being preg)`

I think there may be a bottle of wine somewhere though....

I had a sneaky half of cider and black at 16 weeks pg while out with my MIL

We tight

Dont worry very judgy OP, its red wine and therefore good for both me and baba