to be irritated by sil getting pissed while still bf her dd.

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I mean she must have had 3 or 4 units, she was starting to really raise her voice and look lairy.

(btw she's awful when she's had a few)
But she did then give dd a forumla bottle and probably went 8 hours before feeding her. But still. It seems a little incautious to me.
BUT no offence to the bf drinkers, the research is not hugely clear about this is it?

YAB a bit U, because you're using concern for the baby as cover for the fact that you find your SIL irritating when she's had a drink or two.

I would have gone 9 years without a unit, with ttc, being pregnant and then bfing while repeating the cycle.

Think my few units per week did little to harm anyone

Probably nice WhereYouLeftit. Venting to strangers is a safe way to deal with annoying relatives. Don't you have any? It doesn't mean you hate them or are horrible to them in person.

YABsoooooooU

She had a couple of drinks and FF the baby until it had cleared from her system. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Who gets pissed on 3 to 4 units of alcohol?? I thought you were going to say she'd had a couple of bottles of wine or countless vodkas and then fed her dd shortly after.

She had a glass or two and didn't feed her dd for 8 hours. Total non-issue.

What the Wolef one said.

YABU. Thank god you're not my SIL, OP.

As a one off, really it's none of your business is it??

It's not like she's going round quaffing WKD's from noon til night with a LO attached to her.

Quite frankly it doesn't sound like she could talk to you if she did have any problems judge much?

YABU. If she was getting pissed every night (or even every few nights) then I would agree with you. But from what you said I'm assuming this isn't a regular occurrance.

I still fancied the odd night out when I was BF'ing, so would have a few drinks and then just not BF for the next few hours - much the same as your SIL. If you have to have an opinion - be glad (for the health of your niece/nephew, and of your SIL) that she's BFing at all.

I'd happily drink 3-4 units, spaced over a couple of hours and still feed my babies, even breastmilk "contaminated" by a bit of alcohol is better than formula, so I think YABU. The issue here isn't "how drunk can you be and still safely breastfeed" the issue is actually "how drunk can you be and still safely care for your baby".

Although, to be fair, when mine were small 3-4 units would've rendered me comatose, I became a spectacular light-weight after the abstinence of pregnancy and the sleep-deprivation of caring for a newborn!

YABveryU
Aim sure your SIL has read into it herself, what with it being her baby and all.

She didn't even bf the baby after so I have no idea what you are complaining about? (fwiw, I am bfing currently and I WOULD have bf'd.) sounds like you need to butt out!

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@ ruby "Do people not drink Guiness whilst BF anymore now?"

My parents brought 4 bottles of dark brown beer for me after I had DD, because apparently there is an old wives' tale that it's good for the early milk to drink dark beer. And yes, I drank them all.

My dad bought a 4 pack of Guinness into the hospital for my mum when I was born apparently!

I was anaemic at about 7m with dd1. I didn't want to take tablets so was advised by my gp to drink 1/2-1 pint of guinness a day in addition to lots of green veg & red meat etc. I did. When she was born my hb levels were very good.

And that wasn't even in the 60s or something - she's only 14

Large G&T before the evening feed works a treat. Hth.

Even if she'd let the baby drink her blood after 3 or 4 units, the baby would have fuck all alcohol.

There was no risk from breastfeeding, and the only thing I would quibble with was giving formula rather than breastmilk, when it was available.

You are a nasty, judgemental, ignorant fool. I bet your SIL can't stand you.

YABVU. Does the fact you can't find one person to agree with you not tell you that? Feel very sorry for your SIL.

YABVU- but next time you'll probably check the facts before making such judgemental comments. Do you know anything about breastfeeding?

My SIL is irritating. But if she tsked at me when I drank wine during my many many years bfing I'd have found her much more irritating.

She did used to say 'bitty' at me when feeding my 18m old son For that alone she deserved to die.....