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To keep 4yo DS off school for my 40th birthday?

268 replies

cadifflur · 21/09/2011 11:55

DS has just started reception class and we're keeping him off school for 3 days as we're going away this weekend, get back Monday, then Tues it's my birthday. Am I being ridiculous to worry about keeping him off school for 3 days so early in the new school year? He's settled in ok and really seems to enjoy learning, gets a little bit clingy when I drop him off but soon settles once I've gone. We just thought we'd keep him off for my birthday too as there are many years ahead now when he'll be in school for it. DH is off for the day and we'll be going out for lunch with DD (2yo) and other family. AIBU to keep him off school for the day or is this ok?

OP posts:
baguettecut · 21/09/2011 20:53

at it not being OK to be self absorbed on one's 40th birthday.

ShirelyKnottage · 21/09/2011 20:55

"very precious"
"are you the queen or something?"
"so self indulgent."
"I wont be at all jealous when my kids get above average attendence [sic] because I dont keep them off to fawn over me and my birthday like a big child."
"is anyone else just feeling slightly nauseated at the though of the Bisto family all gathering round to coo over Mummy bisto and her wonderful array of show stopping gifts and gestures for her 40th birthday"

Stop. Step back. Look at this. It's not necessary is it? FFS.

NestaFiesta · 21/09/2011 20:57

"It isn't pathetic and self indulgent. It is to have a family get together after recently losing her FIL and with her DF suffering alzheimers. It just happens to be for her 40th!"

I agree.

He is 4 so won't be about to sit A-levels. His grandfather has Alzheimers so may not have many family gatherings left that he will be able to participate in or recall. It's a few days. He already has firm friendships from nursery so isn't exactly the New Boy at school. When there's been a death and when there's an Alzheimers case, family milestones are vital. I am sure OP isn't going to make a habit of it.

GingerWrath · 21/09/2011 20:58

It's my 40th next year and I positively encourage my family to spoil me, otherwise all I have to look forward too is the menopause, more wrinkles and Tena lady sob. (joke)

reelingintheyears · 21/09/2011 20:58

I am the self professed Queen Of Cunts....

So there.

BimboNo5 · 21/09/2011 20:58

Sorry but all the posts from the op about her bloody birthday do sound like a child who wants the world to stand still for the day to rally around her. Its just not like that when you are an adult, I dont know anybody who would make such a silly fuss over being another year old to the point of keeping children off school, DH having to have a day off work etc, even children stay in school if their birthday is in the school term so keeping them off for a parents birthday is utterly bizzare.

ShirelyKnottage · 21/09/2011 21:00

OK BimboNo5. I'm not going to get into an argument about it any further. I think you've said enough TBH.

BimboNo5 · 21/09/2011 21:01

But as I asked earlier, why can the family gathering not take place in the afternoon/evening or weekend like 99.9% of people do when they have a birthday in the week? The OP already said her DS is a bit clingy when she drops him off, I dont think disrupting his routine anymore just because the OP 'wants' to is a good reason, sorry. Call me all the names under the sun but its totally uneccesary.

LadyBeagleEyes · 21/09/2011 21:01

Oh ffs.
How does an innocent post about a family celebration turn into this.
Did the naysayers read all the OPs posts?
I hope she and her 4 year old son, and the rest of the family have the time of their lives.
Like a couple of days off school is going to make the slightest bit of difference in the scheme of things.

GenevieveHawkings · 21/09/2011 21:01

Under the circumstances most normal people would, I assume, if they must, arrange their family/friends party celebration or whatever for the nearest weekend to the date of their actual birthday. That way no one need take time off work and/or miss school.

Once they reach adulthood most people I know couldn't really give a stuff about their birthday.

Birthdays are for children and the self absorbed (unless they're 100 and then I' can let them off for being self absorbed but just for the day) Grin.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 21/09/2011 21:02

Me thinks bimbo is abviously sore because she's never had anyone make a big fuss over her on her birthday... Wink

baguettecut · 21/09/2011 21:02

Mine's next year too, Ginger. I'm having a party, (possibly), or a holiday, (possibly) and I'm going to be fanned with ostrich feathers while laying on my chaise longue eating peeled grapes.

All day.

BimboNo5 · 21/09/2011 21:03

Think what you like, im not going to lose any sleep over it! Its the typical 'u iz just jealous' response of someone with a lack of intelligence to think of anything else to say though. methinks

usualsuspect · 21/09/2011 21:05

She is wel jel I reckon

aww does no one luff you Bimbo

GenevieveHawkings · 21/09/2011 21:05

Some people really do have a problem with getting their heads around how a public internet forum works don't they?

Not everyone is the same.

Views and opinions on any given topic will differ.

You might not agree with everyone here.
You might be offended/angered/upset by some of the stuff you read here.

You might not want to be friends in RL with the people you meet here.

GET OVER IT.

ShirelyKnottage · 21/09/2011 21:05

Ginger, Baguette - I make everyone make me tea and Be Nice To Me and I always take the day off work! On my fortieth I'm planning a trip to the Fat Duck.

Thingumy · 21/09/2011 21:06

Me thinks bimbo has run out of allocated holiday for this year.

GingerWrath · 21/09/2011 21:07

40th is a milestone birthday for some normal people. OP's DH wasn't 'made' to take the day off but did it voluntarily. Possibly DF's alzheimers means lunch time is more suitable?

note to self: do not engage

CrackerFactory · 21/09/2011 21:07

I don't understand why something so minor is causing so much furor.

reelingintheyears · 21/09/2011 21:07

It's my party and i'll cry if nobody comes i want to.

Sorry Bimbono5...but it's having a summer hols birthday that makes you bitter.

AuntieMonica · 21/09/2011 21:07

back to the OP Wink

go for it, take your DC out for the day

my DD has just started reception and we're not even sure if she's going to srat f/t yet. we're taking each week as it comes untils she's 5.

have a fabulous day. i love birthdays. the one day a year that is YOURS!

and a great opportunity to show DCs that they are NOT the only people in the world, that other members of the family have special days too

BimboNo5 · 21/09/2011 21:08

Careful Genevieve you will be bitter, jealous and never have had a fuss made of you next!

AmazingBouncingFerret · 21/09/2011 21:08

Yes because having the opinion that you are jealous makes me thick as pig shit... Hmm

Twat.

mollycuddles · 21/09/2011 21:08

Ffs. Aibu at it's most ridiculous. No idea why people are getting so het up and nasty.
Fwiw I took ds then 9 and dd1 the 6 out of school for a week to go on a big holiday for dh's 40th. Was fantastic and a holiday of a lifetime with memories to last.
Don't care what people thought then or think now. Dh was so ill coming up to his 40th for about 18 months I never thought he'd see 40. But he did and we all deserved a damn good celebration.
Sounds like op deserves it too.

reelingintheyears · 21/09/2011 21:08

Meh.

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