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To keep 4yo DS off school for my 40th birthday?

268 replies

cadifflur · 21/09/2011 11:55

DS has just started reception class and we're keeping him off school for 3 days as we're going away this weekend, get back Monday, then Tues it's my birthday. Am I being ridiculous to worry about keeping him off school for 3 days so early in the new school year? He's settled in ok and really seems to enjoy learning, gets a little bit clingy when I drop him off but soon settles once I've gone. We just thought we'd keep him off for my birthday too as there are many years ahead now when he'll be in school for it. DH is off for the day and we'll be going out for lunch with DD (2yo) and other family. AIBU to keep him off school for the day or is this ok?

OP posts:
Ifancyashandy · 21/09/2011 21:52

I made everyone come to a very boozy Sunday lunch for my 40th. Hired a private room in a Michelin starred restaurant, had a cake with my name on it, balloons and presents galore! Much alcohol was consumed and I do believe a few people called in 'sick' the following day Grin! and there were kids there, while we were drinking! I had a fabulous time and eveyo e made a big fuss of ME!

BimboNo5 would have shit a brick! Oh, and I'm doing it again in a few months time!

OP, go, have a fabulous birthday and kick start your 40's with a lot of fizz!

BimboNo5 · 21/09/2011 21:57

Ermm thats a Sunday, can you not see the difference Ifancyashandy? And im not the only one who thought the OP was being precious but as usual im the only one getting hammered for it...meh

Ifancyashandy · 21/09/2011 22:16

Yes but Sunday is a faaaaaaaamlee day, innit. Selfish me, making my birthday was all about me.

And you're getting a flaming because you used such unpleasant language / terms in your posts. Not just because you disagreed. Can you not see the difference?

CheerfulYank · 22/09/2011 06:36

Kids here get taken out of school to go to Disneyworld or whatever all the time. Confused

CheerfulYank · 22/09/2011 06:39

And furthermore I do expect the world to stop on my birthday! My two best friends and I take birthdays extremely seriously. :o

wildhairrunning · 22/09/2011 13:38

I am going to give you a really stern talk now and say...

I really hope you don't reconsider your plans based on a few people's opinions over something like this. They don't know you! Please enjoy your birthday with your children and don't give it a second thought! The school are fine with it and do a few replies here that disagree (especially the silly, nasty ones) really matter?!

Enjoy your birthday!

Andrewofgg · 22/09/2011 15:31

YABU even if the shcool would allow it. Get him into a routine and stick to it.

GenevieveHawkings · 22/09/2011 17:13

There see BimboNo5 I was the one who said that adults celebrating birthdays unless they were 100 were self absorbed and juvenile and they've completely ignored me - who knows why?

I'd consider yourself well and truly cyber-bullied if I were you.

Do you have history with the mob here...?

AmazingBouncingFerret · 22/09/2011 19:24

"And as for the DH having a day off work, is anyone else just feeling slightly nauseated at the though of the Bisto family all gathering round to coo over Mummy bisto and her wonderful array of show stopping gifts and gestures for her 40th birthday"

That is a quote from BimboNo5. There was no need for it and was probably what set everyone off and made her name stick in people's minds. It was certainly what riled me up.

ll31 · 22/09/2011 19:34

yep i agree amazing bouncing ferret = very nasty

PrincessTamTam · 22/09/2011 19:51

Wow this thread has got WAY out of hand!!?... Really Bimbo and Genevieve you are being ridiculous about this, and yes that Bisto post is very nasty indeed.
I hope the OP has stopped reading this nonsense, there are far more important things to worry about.

CheerfulYank · 22/09/2011 20:17

Why wouldn't you celebrate your birthday, Genevieve ?

Cripes, what a joyless lot!

GenevieveHawkings · 22/09/2011 20:42

"Why wouldn't you celebrate your birthday, Genevieve ?"

I do celebrate my birthday in my own way thank you CheerfulYank. I'm just not all that bothered about it and would certainly not consider keeping my child off school so that he could celebrate it with me.

Nor would I make a statement like we just thought we'd keep him off for my birthday too as there are many years ahead now when he'll be in school for it. That took the biscuit for me and made the OP sound pathetic, precious and self absorbed.

Ifancyashandy · 22/09/2011 21:17

Hmmm, didn't read like that to me at all. More like 'he's rightly going to be in school in future years but this year, he's only 4 and it's my 40th so why the hell not?'

LadyBeagleEyes · 22/09/2011 22:07

I so hope the OP hasn't come back to this thread, and has a fab birthday with her extended family.
So many unneccessary bitchy comments.

CheerfulYank · 22/09/2011 23:43

Celebrating in your own way is fine of course Genevieve. But why can't others without being judged self-absorbed and juvenile?

GenevieveHawkings · 23/09/2011 16:35

If people are acting in a way that appears to me to be self absorbed, juvenile and precious the I reserve the right to express the view that I think they are.

Why do people always use the pejorative word "judge" when they disagree with others' views? Just suck it up CheerfulYank.

This is an open forum and people are entitled to express their own personal views and opinions - even if others' don't like them or want to hear them.

baguettecut · 23/09/2011 17:48

I think you need to suck up the fact that the OP is going to enjoy her 40th Birthday with her DS and family, Gen. But I don't think you're going to let this one go, somehow!

GenevieveHawkings · 23/09/2011 22:24

Well, if the woman knew that from the outset it begs the question why did she bother asking a bunch of cyber strangers about it?

CheerfulYank · 23/09/2011 22:30

"I was the one who said that adults celebrating birthdays unless they were 100 were self absorbed and juvenile."

That's what I was talking about, Genevieve. And then you went on to say that you celebrate in your own way. But apparently others can't.

GenevieveHawkings · 24/09/2011 13:04

Yes, I do celebrate in my own way CheerfulYank - a way that is understated, in keeping with being an adult rather than a child who expects to be the centre of everyone's universe and in a way that doesn't involve keeping my child off school when he's supposed to be there and making others use their leave from work.

People can, and clearly do, celebrate their birthdays in whatever way they wish. It doesn't mean I can't comment on it or express my opinions does it?

Feminine · 24/09/2011 13:09

5 pages? Shock

All because op wanted to keep her little son at home for her B'day?

Life is full of horrible things,why is so offensive to celebrate a lovely thing?

Bitchy and I would guess Envy from many.

FlossieFromCrapstonVillas · 24/09/2011 13:34

''People can, and clearly do, celebrate their birthdays in whatever way they wish''

I'm sure we can all breathe a huge sigh of relief now we have GenevieveHawkin's approval. Bravo.

Floggingmolly · 24/09/2011 13:38

She also said "it doesn't mean I can't comment on it or express my opinions, does it?"
That is also very true. Leave her alone.

FlossieFromCrapstonVillas · 24/09/2011 13:45

And this is AIBU. If you are generally humourless and a little bit sneery when people think you ought not to be humourless and sneery then you will be picked up on.

That OK with you, Flogging?

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