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To keep 4yo DS off school for my 40th birthday?

268 replies

cadifflur · 21/09/2011 11:55

DS has just started reception class and we're keeping him off school for 3 days as we're going away this weekend, get back Monday, then Tues it's my birthday. Am I being ridiculous to worry about keeping him off school for 3 days so early in the new school year? He's settled in ok and really seems to enjoy learning, gets a little bit clingy when I drop him off but soon settles once I've gone. We just thought we'd keep him off for my birthday too as there are many years ahead now when he'll be in school for it. DH is off for the day and we'll be going out for lunch with DD (2yo) and other family. AIBU to keep him off school for the day or is this ok?

OP posts:
CrackerFactory · 21/09/2011 20:25

I really don't understand this uproar. Why are people so het up about a 4 year old having a couple of days off? I just don't get it. I hope the OP is not listening to this and takes her son and enjoys her time with her family. This will be a precious memory. Its only reception. My dh is taking a day off work for my ds's birthday. Maybe he should be fired!!

LadyBeagleEyes · 21/09/2011 20:28

Yes, I must be too baguette and Shirley.
OP I know you've left the thread as you had so many negative posts.
I hope you're reading this and see that you have just as many people that agree with you too.
Hope you come back and let us know how it all went.

Floggingmolly · 21/09/2011 20:28

Clumsymum, While I appreciate the point that we could all die tomorrow, spending as "much time as possible" with our kids surely has to have some limits, and I think actually missing school to do so is a bit bizarre, sorry. Where would it end?

WhollyGhost · 21/09/2011 20:30

Bloody hell, there are some bitter, angry people out there. I don't know why they get their kicks by being nasty to a stranger over the internet. I suppose at least it diverts their venom from the unfortunates who have to deal with them in real life.

OP - hope you have a lovely holiday and birthday celebration. Do what you like, whatever is in the best interests of your family. Missing a couple of days really won't matter.

GingerWrath · 21/09/2011 20:30

I must be slacker than a slack thing, took dd out regularly on a Friday to go camping. Now she is yr1 I have knocked it on the head.

We had some awesome weekends!

CrackerFactory · 21/09/2011 20:32

I actually don't know any mums with school age children that would have an issue with this and I know a lot of people, its just too bizarre. "Where would it end?" Really? Where on earth do you think taking a 4 year old out of school for a few days is going to lead? Long term truancy leading to crime and a life spent in prison perhaps...

BimboNo5 · 21/09/2011 20:32

Oh purlease! If you dont subscribe to taking a child out of school as and when you want for pathetic self indulgent reasons you are bitter and nasty?
The OP asked for views, she got some she didnt like, thats life.

2rebecca · 21/09/2011 20:35

I've never taken my kids out of school for my birthday, chances are if it's during the week I'd be working anyway and husband definitelely would. I would delay the celebration until school finishes and go out for high tea so everyone can go.

GingerWrath · 21/09/2011 20:35

It isn't pathetic and self indulgent. It is to have a family get together after recently losing her FIL and with her DF suffering alzheimers. It just happens to be for her 40th!

BimboNo5 · 21/09/2011 20:37

I think thats what most people would do, you dont have to celebrate on ONE day, you are 40 or whatever age for a whole bloody year why does everyone have to down tools for the day are you the queen or something OP?

ShirelyKnottage · 21/09/2011 20:37

Yes BimboNo5. Your posts on this threads have been very enlightening. There's no need for all the "pathetics self indulgent" shit though is there?

usualsuspect · 21/09/2011 20:37

why so nasty?

GenevieveHawkings · 21/09/2011 20:38

Funny how the people who want to educate their children completely on their terms, and schools have to fit in with them and thier wants and needs, are always the ones to shout the loudest when they feel the education system is letting them and their beloved DCs down isn't it?

usualsuspect · 21/09/2011 20:38

that was to Bimbo

GingerWrath · 21/09/2011 20:39

But her family took the time off without her asking them to, her ds is having a couple of days off for a family holiday (first one) so what is another day going to matter, he is 4 and not missing out on coursework for his GCSE's!

BimboNo5 · 21/09/2011 20:39

Oh god some of you going on about being bitter nasty etc are usually the most cunty and vile in certain other threads so pot, kettle and all that

usualsuspect · 21/09/2011 20:40

you talking to me bimbo?

ShirelyKnottage · 21/09/2011 20:41

What a charmer you are!

BimboNo5 · 21/09/2011 20:42

You have been known to be usual though I dare say you will deny it

usualsuspect · 21/09/2011 20:43

I'm only a cunt to cunts though

GingerWrath · 21/09/2011 20:44

Subtle as a brick, there is truthful and forthright, and there is downright rude. Not directed at anyone but...

CrackerFactory · 21/09/2011 20:48

Just to bring back to the discussion, I believe reception is very hard going. The kids are always exhausted and the long days are too much for that age imo. Many countries do not start kids as early as the UK and I don't like the system here but do not want to keep my kids out of the school system later on so accept it. However, if I then keep them off for the odd day here and there I think it is actually beneficial for the child to get some more space and time to recoup their energies.

BimboNo5 · 21/09/2011 20:49

Its not downright rude to state someone seems to be self absorbed and a bit childish.
God knows enough others brand people it often enough

ll31 · 21/09/2011 20:50

hope your taking him out and enhoying your birthday - hope you ignore the particualrly nasty post re the "bisto family" etc.

happy birthday

GingerWrath · 21/09/2011 20:51

You answering my post speaks volumes Bimbo