To think DH's ex wife is taking the piss regarding maintenance?

[StickyBlisteredShitHole]

DH gives his ex wife £150 a month maintanance for their 2 DCs. Just lately she's been asking for him to contribute to this, that and everything else despite the fact that she's got the maintanance. Last night she got her DS to text DH asking him to contribute towards a school trip abroad and now today she's sending him a message asking him to contribute towards a school trip for their other son. Despite this she's booked a holiday abroad for next summer hols and no doubt we'll be expected to contribute towards that too despite the fact that we, as a family can't afford to go anywhere!
AIBU to think she's taking the piss?

Wow we pay almost £110 a month for one to dp's ex. We are on benefits now dp is blind, but when dp was working we were paying out a hell of a lot more and I do not begrudge a penny of it. DSS is seventeen now in college came to us only last week to ask for anther £15 for college stuff, his mother had paid for his yearly administration fees already, again not a problem (apart from him not even looking for a job but thats another thread )

All I can say is that your ex is an arse and his wife no better. I feel for you, being in a very similar situation.

kayano,
I never said that the 19 year olds income should be taken into account. But as the OP said the last assesment was done when he was 11, it should make a difference that he is now an adult as the op said the reason ex paid so little was that he had np's children living with them. And I was asking if the joint income was taken into account, as I know someone who this occurred to, but cannot remember if they were in the UK then, I was not saying it should be taken into account.

MJ,
How does it work if the ex has remarried, and their new partner has assets, which presumbaly belong to them both? I can imagine if an ex married a multi-millionaire, and decided not to work, it would be rather unfair if they did not have to pay maintainence (completely random hypothetical situation, but just wondering how this gets dealth with).

This is not a wind up. I'm on the other end of this situation. My ex pays £50 per month for our 13yold daughter. I ask him for extra all the time because it's a fucking pittance. He works part time as a postman cos he's too delicate to work full time, and knows that my husband and I will pick up the tab rather than see her go without.

Sorry but YABU. I know many other dads who don't live with their kids (including my own brother) and they all pay a VAST amount more than that! Of course your DH ought to be contributing to school trips etc. That is not excessive at all.

StickyBlisteredShitHoleThu 15-Sep-11 17:14:40

Well we're not exactly living a life of luxury either. If she's struggling maybe she shouldn't be booking foreign holidays when she can't afford to pay for school trips.

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What a nasty piece of work you are.

When you get with someone who has DC you have to grow up face reality and accept HE has a responsibility to his children.

Not be a selfish twunt who thinks it is wrong for him to have to contribute financially in as many ways as possible. If you are struggling financially you need to look at ways to deal with that not look at cutting what he pays for his children.

Maybe she has paid off for the holiday over a period of time, surely she deserves to have a holiday with her children.

Can you explain why you think your DH, her childrens father shouldn't be contributing to their school trips? Do you think that since he is with you he is no longer responsible for them?