STAND UP AND BE COUNTED AND STOP THE ATTACKS ON SN PARENTS

[4madboys]

ok NOT an aibu, but this is where it will be seen the most and it NEEDS awareness.

quite frankly, i along with others am appalled at the comments that are being made and left to stand, toward the SN community, they are downright offensive and quite simply appalling.

i am sure (or hope) that the majority on here do NOT agree with them but yet the SN community on mn are not being supported, whether this is because people do not know what to say, or they havent seen these posts i do not know?

BUT IT IS ABOUT TIME THAT THINGS CHANGED, so this a thread where you can stand up and be counted and say that you do not agree with the disregard, blatant trolling and offensive behaviour towards our lovely mn who have or are dealing with sn in their family.

they need this place for support, not the vile behaviour that they are getting.

so please post here and show your support and help make a change for the better.

all it takes is a smile next to your name to show you agree :)

FFS MNHQ! Will you get off the delete post button! There was nothing wrong with Shiney's post!

MmeLindor you are quite right there is a definite inconistency at the towers.

MmeLindor... I agree with that. Name-calling is offensive and it's intended to be. Everybody should be aware of what words are and aren't acceptable for anybody to use.

yes the holland poem is very [boak] worthy and i 'think' that even tho you didnt mean your post that way shiney, that that was how it was interpreted.

and why have you had a post on this page deleted?!!

not this page, the last one...

Why has shiney's post been deleted?

i have NO idea!!!

Most of the time (all of the time?) hateful language is deleted or rounded on though. It's the perceived slights that some people are struggling with.

Unfortunately, imo, that is a personal problem. We have to allow others opinions, we can't shoot bigots or ignorant arseholes (would be nice to slap a shitty pad on their head though)

We, as parents with a child with additional needs, do have to be more teflon coated. Yes, in the early days and when new things arise, you reel with some things that are said - but further on, you can emphasise slighty with people who just don't get it and tbh, only other parents who have been there, get it

There will always be people that believe all benefit claimants are scroungers and workshy or people that think learning disabled people shouldn't be out- that won't ever change, but we can't change those opinions and let them hurt us.

Yes, we deal with lots of shit (literally sometimes) but we can't take everything so personally

wtf?? Right (this will out me) but I have had a few run ins with shiney but come on! What on earth is going on with the delete button?????

She said nothing at all worthy of a deletion, this is all getting pathetic

why.....

I certainly wouldn't want to get to the point where certain issues were considered off limits. I don't think bring offended is the worst thing that can happen to someone. Challenge or hide the thread is my view. I don't have SN kids though, maybe I would feel differently in someone else's shoes, I'm unsure.

I can imagine the thought of your SN child going out into a world of unenlightened prejudiced people must be terrifying. And these silly AIBU threads play on that fear somewhat.

Mnhq, you need to explain that deletion. Fecking ridiculous

Mnhq, you need to explain that deletion. Fecking ridiculous

What is going on? Threads being deleted all over the place for no reason that I can understand.

Peachy - who has left MN? You say 4 have gone recently.

It is a shame that SN parents feel so ground down that they want to leave, I suspect MN is a great support for them at times and they have lost that now due to a few ignorant posters with these awful views on SN.

Why was shiney's post deleted?

You have my support

I have it on good authority that DP is back

It shouldn't take too long to spot her though so her 'clever' disguise probably won't be that clever after all. Somebody with opinions and views like hers are quite easy to spot.

Shine - there is a place and time for a joke and this is not it.

Ok have waded through thread.

I have three things to add:

1. Do we get deleted now for being patronising? Oh dear - that's me in trouble now. My inner head girl frquently runs riot....

2. There is stuff in life that people have different opinions on. All aspects of parenting, relationsips, taste in shoes, acceptable sexual practices - lots and lots of different views. Sometimes these views will collide. There is a balance to be found between removing that which is intended to hurt. That is full of hate and that which is not particularly agreeable but nevertheless stands as a point of view. Queues at theme parks have been mentioned. To post abusively about children with special needs so much as putting their nose in the door is one thing - and should be removed. To post that the queue isn't the right place for them - is quite another. Now personally I would wish to challenge the latter view and talk about changing our systems and being aware of difference and what 'accessible' really means. I can't do that if a post is deleted. Differing opinions aren't wrong just because they differ.

3. The Holland thing - gets said to people with life limiting illness too. With varying results........

My problem is that I can't just 'step away' from the more ignorant posters. It's just not in my nature...in RL as well. I couldn't stop myself from engaging with DP, just as I can't seem to stop myself from engaging with LOTM.

I am the kind of person who in RL will launch into a diatribe towards any DM-type people who comment or tut at my DD's behaviour. I just can't stop myself. And I am no different on here.

BUT it sometimes does get wearing, I can deal with it most of the time, but some days I have had a bad day, come on here for some light relief, only to be faced with this kind of twattery.

Oh, and if one more person emails me the boak-worthy Welcome to Holland poem - I WILL be forced to slap them with a wet fish! After 13 years, I think I have puked into enough buckets after being sent that poem.