STAND UP AND BE COUNTED AND STOP THE ATTACKS ON SN PARENTS

[4madboys]

ok NOT an aibu, but this is where it will be seen the most and it NEEDS awareness.

quite frankly, i along with others am appalled at the comments that are being made and left to stand, toward the SN community, they are downright offensive and quite simply appalling.

i am sure (or hope) that the majority on here do NOT agree with them but yet the SN community on mn are not being supported, whether this is because people do not know what to say, or they havent seen these posts i do not know?

BUT IT IS ABOUT TIME THAT THINGS CHANGED, so this a thread where you can stand up and be counted and say that you do not agree with the disregard, blatant trolling and offensive behaviour towards our lovely mn who have or are dealing with sn in their family.

they need this place for support, not the vile behaviour that they are getting.

so please post here and show your support and help make a change for the better.

all it takes is a smile next to your name to show you agree :)

I'm in on that.

I called someone a fool!

I'm so sorry to hear that SN netters are leaving. I didn't go on any of the threads, but have commented on blue badge as my husband has a dis.

Count me in.

It's a little impossible for me to mention my kids ro home lilfe without bringing Sn into it, even DH now admits he has some pretty strong traits going on.

Do I catrry a cross? not as a martyr no becuase I genuinely don't feel that, I probably do go on though because quite simply i'm a little screwed up and struggling with ds4's loss of abilities and the failry traumatic way it has manifested (he is scared of so much and it's really upsetting when he screams with real fear just on the way to Wilinsons) and I don't have anyone much to go on about it in RL. It's not intentional, just the way my struggling shows itself. Was same with the otehrs, hit rock bottom when i realised my own tendencies then got really going and quite otehrwise- occupied and then bang. This week ds4 has satrted nursery (going OK) preschool gym (needs a LOT of help) and ds1 has started an SNU after primary in MS (not so positive, needs dealing with tomorrow); it's all a bit in my face.

TBH if someone isn't willing to give a little leeway then - well I can honestly say i would for them.

I'm appalled that posters feel they have to leave because of a few twats, I will admit that I don't click on SN threads, because I don't know enough about it. Dh has just been offered a TA's job in an ASD specialist school, so I have been reading a few threads in the SN topic and I have nothing but respect for the parent of SN children and people with SN. But I am always scared of saying the wrong thing.

But I am here adding my support.

4 smiles for everyone in my household as we have SN issues in our family.

Count me in. And yes one of the worst trolls/stirrers/lacking in compassion posters i have ever seen on mumsnet used to claim in her profile that she was a Christian . Funnily enough her profile doesn't contain that gem anymore she should be ashamed of her hypocrisy.

Nope, not a troll

Been here a very long time under different name changes, if you search will find I took on this name very openly midthread

I have a child with CP and a child with severe ADHD/dyslexia/dyspraxia. My SN journey started 20 years ago - I am a long way into it, maybe that's why I'm meh and weary.

I stand by my opinions, that's all they are but that is my perogative. Same as yours are your perogative. Someone disagreeing isn't trolling

I am on another board and a discussion about being touchy has recently happened - many of us further on in the SN journey have moved past many feelings that people with younger children have. It is a journey - and tbh honest the changeover from child to adult in SN world is the biggest eyeopener of all

I will defend and stand up true hate but sometimes, just sometimes - some things are just not worth getting het up over

havent looked and checked yet but apparently some of the comments that have been referred to, ie on glitters thread have been deleted :)

Well I an sort of understand MsC in thjat I wsn;t far off where you are in terms of acceptance when ds4 regresed again.

But equally I am absolutely aware of how it feels to have a new dx and I totally support any way of protecting vulnerable people in ahrd times. becuase I do think parents of newly diagnosed chidlren are vulnerable, at least many are.

Touchy is probably not a surprising reaction if it does occur (and wrt to those threads we'll have to disagree becuase I thin they went way too far and if you just read them you missed a lot of the deleted nastiness). when people are scared for their child's future and just getting their heads around thw whole idea, it's also not surprising given teh comments some of us get in RL. having ahd the full pro-eugenicist speech from BIL this summer I am absolutely touchy. It made me aware.

Lissie tell him if he wants the powerpoints from my MA in ASD he just ahs to ask.

Peachy, that would be freaking awesome! Thank you! Its a whole new career for him, but he is a little scared.

Do you want to FB me your email Liss?

And if there is anything he wants to ask feel free. He'll be fine though.

Still utterly appalled by the views of some nasty, vile posters. Have missed some recent threads, am in the middle of catching up. Horrified.

Peachy, thank you. Will fb you in a second. And thank you for the offer, he is very nervous about taking it. He's scared that he won't be up to the job BUT he actually interviewed for a different role 3m ago, they contacted him when this role came up.

I'm with Worra, Trillian, Boney and MrsC on this.

The "different opinion = troll" brigade are really starting to get up my nose. I saw the thread about the 'benefits cuts' this morning and wondered why it was posted, yet again, on AIBU. Always the same posters on the thread and anybody who posts with any opinion that differs from the 'flow' is eyed with suspicion. It's not on.

I personally don't want MNHQ to have to moderate this site anymore than they do. It's supposed to be for adults to post on and really, if you don't like what somebody posts, you (general) can ignore them, not engage at all.

I have to say that I'm a bit dubious at the posters who post sensitive threads on AIBU. Why do they do that? There are other parts of the board that people not experienced or knowledgeable about those subjects do not frequent. Why not post there? It's not fair to post them on AIBU and then bleat on because the 'support' isn't there and people aren't nodding. Is disingenuous in my opinion - and really quite attention-seeking. I wonder if the posters just want to stir it up a bit?

I like AIBU for being light-hearted; it's changed and seems to be cluttered up with the more 'serious' issues for want of 'traffic'. Perhaps there's a reason that there's more traffic on AIBU in the first place, no?

I don't understand what this thread is going to achieve really. It just all seems a bit like 'be in our gang and if you won't then you're a troll'. Really smacks of childish to me.

Posters come and go all the time, it's the nature of a chatboard. If they leave because they don't like what is posted then it's the right decision. All this angst is tiresome.

"Trolling is against the rules on Mumsnet so why aren't they being dealt with. People who post to deliberately upset and inflame and who do it continuously are trolling."

Apparently only if they are pretending to be someone else while they do so.