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to think MNHQ should not be deleting posts in this way? WARNING: Ranty

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doublestandard · 10/09/2011 15:39

So, having a post deleted is a MN rite of passage and all that, but I think MNHQ have got a bit trigger happy with the delete button of late but not in a good way. And yes this is a bit thread about a thread but I think it's a general problem and worth discussing.

As an example, I have recently had a post from AIBU deleted because I said the manner in which a poster had disregarded others opinions was "flaming arrogant" and that "You have come across on this thread as a self-important, judgey know-it-all". Apparently this constitutes a personal attack?? Since when have we not been allowed to say that a specific post on a thread suggests arrogance? Or that a poster is coming across in a certain way? It is not saying the poster is arrogant or a self-important, judgey know-it-all but that is how they are being perceived.

Now ordinarily I'd shrug this off but I'm seeing more and more posters crying "personal attack!" when disagreed with and then having posts that seem to me to be quite reasonable deleted. I am also baffled that MNHQ have decided that it is not a personal attack to leave up comments by another poster stating that I condone child abuse (I mean what the actual fuck?!) when I have said nothing of the kind and because my post above is deleted people can't make up their own minds. Either delete both or delete neither surely?

I think most people on MN employ an attack the posts, not the poster as a rule. Yes, it is a bit more blunt on AIBU than relationships or behaviour and development for example, and I think that's right, but I find the nannying attitude and selective decisions not to be in the spirit of MN.

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Disclaimers

I have namechanged because I don't want to draw any more attention to the thread where MNHQ sees fit to allow a post to stand that falsely states I support the abuse of children. I suspect a few people may recognise me and/or the thread so I'd prefer not to be outed thanks.

In the interests of fairness there was another part of my post that MNHQ felt could be interpreted as "giving the finger". It was actually nothing of the kind - it was a reference to being part of a particular organisation and then a flounce - but I can see how someone might have interpreted it as that even if I don't agree. Fair enough to decide to take it down, but why leave up a libellous post stating a poster condones child abuse when the orginal post is not there to be judged? Confused

I have raised this with MNHQ and the second paragraph draws on their email response.

OP posts:
moonferret · 10/09/2011 21:16

Absolutely correct. The deletion of many posts on this site is utterly pathetic. The usual reason is that someone with the right "connections" doesn't agree with you. PATHETIC!!

TrillianAstra · 10/09/2011 21:26

If you have a righteous cause then people will come and back you.

Simple as that.

I do not have minions, I have sisters in arms.

OracleInaCoracle · 10/09/2011 21:30

I quite like being described as a minion, makes me feel like a spy. But sisters in arms makes me feel like I belong in danaerys' khalasar...

OracleInaCoracle · 10/09/2011 21:30

I quite like being described as a minion, makes me feel like a spy. But sisters in arms makes me feel like I belong in danaerys' khalasar...

SayCoolNowSayWhip · 10/09/2011 21:31

Nice GoT reference

Peachy · 10/09/2011 21:33

What tota1xaos said. Two more went last night that I know of. Two more sources of support and info for epople approaching the hardest time of tehir life gone.

It all goes wrong; some things seem to get deleted and some just left when really painful to those who it is aimed at. I suspect part is in teh definition of eprsonal attack; sometimes 'you are a tosser' is far less ahrmful than a rant about not directed at anyone in aprticular yet the harmful one stays and the others go.

moronicatatonic · 10/09/2011 21:38

Sounds like you mean 'a cult following', Trillian.

Righteous cause...

TrillianAstra · 10/09/2011 21:46

It's not even a following... If it is they aren't following me... Bibbity may have started it...

2shoes · 10/09/2011 21:55

Peachy you are so right, such a shame that we have lost good posters who have a lot to offer. I can never understand why mn hq don't do something, they just seem to allow the anti's to repeatedly get away with it.

doublestandard · 10/09/2011 22:14

Sad Peachy I am surprised at the strength of feeling on this thread. I wasn't expecting it to hit a nerve quite in the way it has. Even if I have been totally UR with my personal examples (obviously I don't think so or wouldn't have started thread) I hope MNHQ listen to the concerns of the vast majority and have a think about their policy going forward.

And thank you to everyone who posted/deleted on the thread with such great humour and eloquence. You lovely load of cunts you Grin

OP posts:
OliviaMumsnet · 10/09/2011 23:03

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BeerTricksPotter · 10/09/2011 23:05

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SayCoolNowSayWhip · 10/09/2011 23:06

And I was going to very eloquently put, Fuck Off Cunty Chops but now I can't as Olivia might think it was aimed at her, which it isn't, and.....

Honeydragon · 10/09/2011 23:19

Allow me to present the oppurtunity...

ah ah ahem

that SayCoolNowSayWhip is complete nobber whose opinions and posts are a big bag of shite and she's had sex with Al Gore....twice

s'all true

SayCoolNowSayWhip · 10/09/2011 23:22

Honeydragon I resent that.

It was only once.

You twunt.

Grin
SayCoolNowSayWhip · 10/09/2011 23:23

Oh, and

Off you fuck, Cunty chops Grin

NeverKnowinglyUnderDoug · 10/09/2011 23:24

I'd heard that too SayCunty Grin

2shoes · 10/09/2011 23:26

glad to see mn hq are reading posts and taking them seriously.
or did they just miss peachy's post

SayCoolNowSayWhip · 10/09/2011 23:27
OliviaMumsnet · 10/09/2011 23:36

2Shoes - i did just miss Peachy's postBlush
It is late, I got carried away pissing about with the delete button and I've been up since stupid oclock with DS2.
Sorry.

We certainly don't want people to leave over things like this.
Thanks for your thoughts all
MN Towers

Thumbwitch · 11/09/2011 00:39

Then will you review your deleting policy at MN Towers, Olivia? Please?

ChippingIn · 11/09/2011 00:52

Peachy - who has left in the last few days? :(

Jacksmania · 11/09/2011 01:36

I'm hoping Olivia's most recent post was a cross-post with peachy's. She can't have seen that and ignored it :(

Jacksmania · 11/09/2011 01:37

Oh good, just saw her most-most recent. I'm glad it was a cross-post. I really would have been upset otherwise :(

Jacksmania · 11/09/2011 03:41

I've just seen on Flouncers' Corner that FanjoForTheMammaries has left, from what I can gather, over vileness directed against SN. That is just so wrong :(