...to think that if one of your guests is pregnant, and a big feature of dinner is a huge, delicious-looking cheese plate...

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...at least one of those cheeses should be pasteurised? Had dinner with PIL (who are lovely and who I get on with really well, so this is not a general sniping thread) last night, which featured, as pudding, a big "proper cheese shop" cheese board, but no cheese I could eat. They know what I can have and what I can't, so this can't have been a mistake. I have been v spoilt at other friends' and family who have sought out yummy cheese I'm able to eat, so I know I'm v lucky. But when pregnant or no-cows'-milk friends come to ours for supper, I love sourcing cheese they can eat if I'm doing cheese as part of the meal. It just seemed a bit weird to make half the meal something I couldn't have. Am I being precious or is this odd, especially as the cheese had been specially bought and so one type I could eat could have been chucked in? Frankly a bit of cheddar would have been fine, I just felt really left out.

yabu unless you are infact a mouse

Really? When pg I went to a wedding where the cake was 3 tiers of gorgeous, unpasteurised cheese. One tier was stilton. I had a bit of all 3 tiers (it was yummy). Nothing bad happened!

I think you'd have been ok, having a bit. You don't need to be so scared.

So YABU but I do understand you being worried.

Oh I don't think it was deliberate at all.

But, like I said, and Scrambled's post proves, it's not up to other people to decide you should have a bit and you'll be alright. That's what's annoyed me most about some of these replies.

I love cheese. Actually love it. Not helpful, but I wanted to share :)

heard it all now. its feckin cheese!! eat it or dont eat.

good grief and i thought i had problems!!

I'd say they were dicks if they went, 'Oh but we did bring some cheese for you! SMELL MY CHEESE!' and did that fist across their palm thing and boffed you on the nose.

That really would be totally unreasonable.

Really want some cheese now.

well,indeed that would be a social fuax pas
a very delicious cheese platter for guests is not
lol at the well described fist and smell my cheese

like most of the sensible people here, I would have just eaten the cheese.

But whats with the odd people claiming they couldn't eat cheesecake or chicken? What bizarre new "rules" have they been reading?

Crikey - a massive cheeseboard and all of it out-of-bounds?

I have a feeling you are being precious OP.

You don't smell my cheese a pregnant lady! That's not going to win you Come Dine With Me.

And I would have just eaten it anyway, pg or not pg. But then I also ate prawns, pate and drank wine while pg.

Plenty of time for martyrdom once the baby arrives!

I'd have eaten the cheese. It's very rare to get food poisoning from cheese. I've never had food poisoning from cheese in my life so doubt I would be so unlucky as to have it when pregnant.

Cheesecake poster just didn't like cream I think - it wasn't a new form of paranoia.

I wouldn't go along with the "just eat the cheese" people, because listeria is a horrible lightning bolt all-or-nothing risk which is a very direct threat to pg - it's a bit like saying "oh, just carry the baby in your arms, we're only driving round the corner". Mind you it's easy to say that - I don't like cheese.

Now it's no longer the 80s and there is far more rules surrounding food production food poisoning from cheese is extraordinarily rare. I'd be impressed to see what cheese they were serving that none of it was suitable... do they make their own cheese in a scummy kitchen?!

Even most brie and stilton is pasteurised these days, so as long as it has been stored correctly/not contaminated with something else there shouldn't be any risk.

You could also have asked if they would mind heating up some cheese until it's melty for you, which also removes the teeny tiny risk.

I would have eaten the cheese too if I liked it. Pregnant or not.

It is a bit unfair to label the OP has precious for not wanting to eat cheese, as opposed to whinging about it.

Regardless of what "sensible" posters would have done the fact is that there are risks associated with eating mould ripened cheese (pasturised or unpasturised) during pregnancy.

It always amazes me how many people are ok about cheese but not ok about alcohol or cigarettes when the facts remains that as a one off smoking a packet of fags washed down with several vodka and cokes is less risky that eating mould ripened cheeses.

What cheese was on the board?

The OP seems to have disappeared...

Am I the only one who thinks she read PedigreeChump's list of 'safe cheeses' and realised that there were cheeses she could have eaten on the board and she's made a bit of a prat of herself?

"They know what I can have and what I can't"
How?

I probably wouldn't have eaten it if I wasn't sure, agree it's a tiny risk but I'd be inclined to err on the side of caution for my peace of mind as much as anything (wouldn't judge someone who made a different decision, just my personal choice).

But I wouldn't have complained about them serving it, or come on here and moaned about it, just politely said no thanks and probably not given it another thought!

I think you may be right TeamDamon . Come on OP, fess up to having been a fool, we'll think better of you if you're honest.