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AIBU to ask if your DH/DP is the love of your life?

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KittyFane · 02/09/2011 20:44

That's all! :o

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AliGrylls · 03/09/2011 10:43

Nowadays I would say without a doubt. In the early days I did not have that rush of blood to the head and extreme passion and would have probably said no. However, I had been passionately in love too many times and I realised that I was only meeting nobs by trusting my instinct. I can remember the moment when I realised he was the love of my life when he said "I will never take you for granted". I felt all weird inside and realised he was too good to let go no matter what his other faults.

I don't feel passionate love every minute of every day, but I know that he is the only person who really loves me just as I am and he is definitely the only person I have ever felt completely comfortable with.

NorksAkimbo · 03/09/2011 11:18

Mine is for sure...the passion is different now that we've been together 8 years and have young DC, but I liked that when I saw him as a dad to his babies, I fell head over heels in love with him again, in a totally new way.

He's just brilliant.

Original poster
KittyFane · 03/09/2011 12:15

Continuum- I love your post- infact, I love this thread

  • it's nice to hear good stuff about DH/ DP for a change!! :)
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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 03/09/2011 12:15

Yes, without a shadow of a doubt. We are by no means perfect and we scrap and bicker but he is my best friend and there's no one else I'd rather spend my time with. We do everything together

fit2drop · 03/09/2011 13:35

I am never bored with him , he never ceases to amaze me by his kindness and ability to bring out the best of me and although we know each other inside out and we fight as passionately as we love he still suprises me and makes me laugh till I fall over.
If there is a heaven then yes, out of all the relationships I have had ( a few Blush) then my lovely DH is the one I would choose to spend eternity with. So Soulmate, most definitely.

Poshbaggirl · 03/09/2011 13:45

No, the love of my life got away. :-(
Single again now, having let the knob of my life go! Mwa ha ha ha.
Big space for Mr Fabulously Wonderful now

TheOriginalFAB · 03/09/2011 13:48

I used to think my ex was the love of my life but I know that DH is totally the love of my life and no one else would ever come close. If he was to die or leave me I wouldn't want anyone else. I am his love of his life too Grin.

Greythorne · 03/09/2011 14:47

Yes
I feel lucky. But we found each other by a circuitous route....and that was painful and complicated.
When I was with my ex-Dh, I knew very strongly he was not the love of my life, even though I loved him a lot and thought he was the funniest man I had ever met.
It makes me smile when "sense of humour" is cited as critical in a relationship as my ex-DH was brilliantly funny with a great line in dry humour and he made me laugh endlessly, butbthat was bit enough.

My DH is much less funny but he is The One and I am grateful that we managed to get together as we are from different countries and the beginning of our relationship could have gone vety differently.

I miss him dreadfully whenever we are apart and I find his conversation fascinating.

Goldrill · 03/09/2011 14:57

Yes - and it's a bloody miracle!

I went through quite a few chaps in my teens and twenties, including one very "grand passion", but then I met a very nice chap and settled down for the decade. Took me a few years for it to dawn that I had very much settled and that he was a lovely, lovely man but not the one for me. On finally doing the right thing (ten years was too long and I should have done it when I realised - and I know I've really screwed him up and will always feel a bit guilty) I was quite content to be single - and then DP emailed me and I very soon realised that there was someone not only utterly shagable but entirely on my wavelength and I just feel exceptionally lucky to have finally met him!

Nothing worse in the world than knowing you're with someone really great but you don't really love them that much: I lived in terror of the right man turning up because we were quite unhappy and I'm ot sure I would have resisted - and XP is far too lovely a chap to treat like that.

GotArt · 03/09/2011 15:02

Yes.. and I knew it when we met at 17. Just celebrated 21 years. We got married at 14 years and had our first DD at 18 years together and second at 21 years. Grin There's been ups and downs, but I couldn't imagine being without my best friend, lover, partner, father, husband. Grin

Too mushy?

SpeedyGonzalez · 03/09/2011 15:10

I've dipped in and out of this thread so I'm not sure whether anyone's posted this already, but I've been pondering this essay about marriage (or, in common parlance, commited relationships) by the philosopher Alain de Botton.

Just to add to the mix. Still not sure what I think of it but it's certainly worth consideration.

rogersmellyonthetelly · 03/09/2011 15:15

Not to start with no, we started as flirty friends, then got to be very good slightly flirty friends, before we finally got it together. I've never had the whole gut swooping falling in love sensation, but without him my life would be so very empty and rather pointless. We have just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary last week :0)

somewherewest · 03/09/2011 15:17

Yes definitely, although I think if I'd met him a few years earlier I wouldn't have appreciated him. He has all the qualities (trustworthiness, kindness, loyalty, honesty) that you tend to under-estimate when you're 21 and really, really love when you're 31 and 6 months pregnant Grin.

cantpooinpeace · 03/09/2011 15:33

so far he's the one I've loved and liked the longest and I married him so I think the answer is yes :)

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KittyFane · 03/09/2011 21:11

Speedy- I like your link :)

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fedupofnamechanging · 03/09/2011 21:15

Interesting article, Speedy

puglet123 · 03/09/2011 21:18

What a fan thread. Yes, my DH is both the love of my life and my best friend - although he does drive me potty most of the time! Grin

puglet123 · 03/09/2011 21:19

Duh i meant fab thread - sorry!!

NoHunIntended · 03/09/2011 22:36

Yes. He is the absolute one and only love of my life, my soulmate, best friend. It took me til I was 34 to meet him, and I knew I was never going to settle - I'd rather have been single, even if it meant not having children. I got lucky.
He is absolutely perfect for me, and I count my blessings daily. Luckily, he seems to think I am his perfect match too. Phew.
My mum knew the moment she met him that he was 'The One' for me too!

sunshineandshowers13 · 03/09/2011 23:02

Yes. Without a doubt, yes.
Dont get me wrong, he does my head in sometimes. Quite a lot actually, and i know i do his in!

BUT, i could not imagine my life without him. He is my husband, my soulmate, my best friend (that makes our dd1 gag Grin!) and my one true love. We have been together since we were 14 (now 35) and my past present and future are inextricably intertwined with his through our 3 children, our memories and our dreams.

[off to rip his shirt off Blush)

BoisJacques · 03/09/2011 23:04

Nope. Well, I hope not. I hope I have yet to meet them. The thought of DH forever is too much.

jellybeans208 · 04/09/2011 15:36

I totally believe in the one and know my DH is mine. He rang his mum and old her he had met the girl he was going to marry a week after we met. When you know, you know and I think if you wonder how you can know if your dp/dh is the one then he isnt the one for you.

Dexifehatz · 04/09/2011 18:02

He used to be,but not anymore.Too many kids and not enough time alone together.Sad.

michelleseashell · 04/09/2011 20:41

Yes! We're like cheese and cheese.

muffinmonster · 04/09/2011 22:02

This thread makes me come over all cynical. TBH I don't feel that way about DH but I don't think I could ever feel that way about anyone. Our DCs are the loves of my life. Is that really wrong?