AIBU to ask if your DH/DP is the love of your life?

[KittyFane]

That's all! :o

Yes.

cjbartlett - all the heartracing anxiety is not love though, not really. It is lust, obsession, with love there also, but you shouldn't be anxious with someone you love.

I love DH more now than when we met, he is my best friend, the father of my darling boys. He has been there through joy and sadness and always loved me for myself.
And he is downstairs doing the clearing ip and pouring the wine as I type

i dont think the love of your life has to mean heart racing passion

mine is, after 20+ years, and that means i know i can rely on him absolutely. At terrible times in our lives he has been an absolute rock that i could depend on

Dunno, haven't finished my life yet

reeling- does it really upset you too?

why does he hate that he loves you sjuper

Yes he is

Yes, he is my best friend and I wake up everyday next to him and I am so happy. A close second being Jason Mamoa :o

He's the second 'one', IYSWIM.

When I met him it felt like I was coming home.

teachermumof3....:o ..!
Beautiful song!!

Yes, yes he is. Through all the hard stuff we've been through I still only want to be with him.

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[ pedant phobic ]

A serious question which I don't mean to sound rude but which ever way I phrase it looks bad, but how do you know that your dp is the love of your life?

I love my dp, sometimes I don't like him much but I certainly love him, but I don't think I could put the label of love of my life on him.

Yeah, I think so. There is one that got away but DH really is the other half of me. Until I meet Ronan Keating obviously!

5gomad- I can relate to that too!
(I knew other people would be able to put into words what I'm thinking.)

Rosie i'll send him your way when i've finished with him

Hell yes. We've been through so much to be together, and I always thought it could never happen.

And now we're together he's a better husband, step dad, daddy and best friend than I could ever have imagined. I'm beyond lucky.

He's also the only thing about which I get so vomit inducing.

yes

Yes I think so. I couldn't really say how I know, it's just a feeling!

Kitty and 5GoMad - I don't think you are with the love of your lives.

There is a sad side to it though. My wee brother died and his wife will never get over it. Never. Neither will I but at least I have my dh to lean on.

Yama :(

Usual.. I'd move it if I could!! :) !
(you're going to tell me how to now arn't you?)

I think Tim Minchin summed it up brilliantly.

I do love my dh, we have been together 11 years since the age of 17yo and I love him deeply and adore him.

But I do not believe in 'the one'. I believe that you are compatible with many other people but you pick one and you grow to love them and through shared lives, shared experiences you (hopefully) grow closer. I hope my relationship with dh lasts forever, I married him with that thought in mind. But if one of us (heaven forbid) dropped dead tomorrow, I hope the other would, in time, have another fulfilling relationship.

I feel more secure not believing in 'the one'. I know that relationships take effort, have their highs and lows and that they aren't automatically perfect or he's not the one. I feel better knowing it was dh who picked me, despite my flaws not 'fate' - a concious decision on his part. I think sometimes believing in 'the one' can be dangerous in keeping someone in an abusive or just failing relationship because that person has been designated as 'the one' so you can't end it, you have to put up with it.

Dh believes the same as I do, in case you were wondering

Yes. I've been with DH for 14 years, that's over 1/3 of my life and I am still in love with him and still fancy him. Still wouldn't choose anyone else. He is good for me. :-)

Lovely post Armadillo :)