Also in some cultures the grandparents live with their DC and they are looked after by them financially. I think our DC seem to have such a sense of entitlement.
Yes, in cultures that don't have a welfare state. We have an extremely generous welfare state.
Alemci, I hardly think it's fair for you to say that children have a sense of entitlement because they don't want to finance their parents. I think it's bad to have children just so they can pay for you as soon as they leave school, especailly in the OP's case where they blatantly don't need the money as they have 2 professional salaries, a big house and can afford all the bills, etc. If their son left the house tomorrow they'd probably find that it wouldn't make a difference to the bills or food anyway. Once you've got 5 people in a big house, one less wont make much difference. They would pay their mortgage, council tax, bills, food whether or not their DS is there. I just thiink they don't like the fact that their son has more pocket money than they do. The op says her DH is horrifed by it. They made their choices and had 3 kids and bought a big house. It's hardy their sons fault if they don't have muhc money left over.
Also tell me Alemci, would you be happy for your parents or worse, your PIL's to live with you and your family while you have to pay to raise your children and also finacially support your parents? If not, then you're a hypocrite.
In this day and age and with bills, fuel, food prices, housing prices gonig through the roof, how many people could afford to raise their own family and also financially support their paretns anyway.
I just find it a bit distasteful that barely a day goes by when people are slagging off their parents or PIL's and yet expect their own DC's to finance them maybe your DC's will feel that way about you then when they're older.
Also I hope you all treat your DC's the same as my mum didn't and I'm still pissed off with her today. I finished uni, my brother did not. I incurred huge debts, he did not. He was working from 20 after he got kicked out of uni, I was not. But when my brother was working in his early 20's, he lived at home while i was away at uni in halls of residence and private rented houses, paying rent, bills, food, laundry, etc, etc, etc. I got into debt with it all. My early 20's brother was at home, working full time and had a net monthly salary of about £1000. My mum took £50 a week off him and the rest he spent as he pelased. So he had £800 a month cash to spend on himself and by god he did. He had everything he wanted. When I got back from post grad law school and started as a trainee solicitor on a shit wage, I had no choice but to go home.
I was £1500 overdrawn as a hang over from uni and paying all the bills, and rent, etc. I earned £16k as a trainee and my net earnings were about £1000. I had to pay £350 on my law school loans, and £100 on my travel card and that left me with £550 a month to live on and try and put my overdraft back. I expected pay mum the same as my brother, £200 a month, which would give me £350 a month to live on. OH NO! My mum took £400 a month off me, which is £100 a week. So I had £150 a month to eat and pay my overdraft back. My mum also made me pay for the food shop at weekends when my borther has never shopped for mum in his life!!!!!! I was living on tins of spagetti for lunch at work as they are only about 30p and I couldn't afford anything else. When i said to mum she was charging me double the rent my brother paid, she said it was to make up for the years I lived at uni and wasn't paying her rent. Am I missing something? I didn't live there and couldn't owe her rent. So she was retrospectively charging me rent for not living at home and while I was paying someone else rent.
What can i say, I have a warm feeling towards my mum for putting me on this earth to provide for her when I had fuck all money and nothing to eat at lunch. Sense of entitlement from DC's? From the paretns more like. You don't breed children to provide for you!