to have laughed when my fil told my dh

[biddysmama]

that he should stop me from breastfeeding now as dd is too old? (shes 2,ds is 1 and im pg)

do people do what their husbands tell them to? ive got a mind of my own thanks very much

YANBU

I also don't get the 'mothers doing it for themselves' or 'why do it when they can walk' argument.

I'm still breastfeeding my 14-month-old at night. I am actually quite keen to wean him, but he loves it! Seriously, he pulls at my top, points at my boobs. Once they're in view he jumps on them (almost literally) and giggles when he changes between them. Right now he's feeding for comfort a little too much in the night as he's teething.

I am putting actions into place to start dropping his before-bed feed next week, with a few to weaning him if I can - but because I want to - he doesn't! And so I'd never judge anyone who wants to breastfeed for longer.

Fabby, it's not sick, don't be ridiculous. It may be unusual and not 'strictly needed' but any two year olds still breastfeeding will only be doing so because they want to. Toddlers are incredibly strong-willed.

fabby,as i have said both my DC have walked at 8 months,does that make is weird for me to breastfeed them?
would it be OK by you if it was only from a cup/bottle?

im afraid Fabby,it seems to me you have your own ishoos surrounding breasts,seeing them as sexual objects as their main purpose,providing milk to a child being secondary?
why would i deny my child a comfort,a healthy nourishing comfort?
why do you assume it's about ME?

and as for independence,both my children are noted often for their confidence.with ore without me being present.

Actually, your comment abut it being "sick" makes you appear vile. Not just ignorant.

*with a view (what a weird typo!)

Oh, and he drinks cows milk the rest of the time. I am fine with him having it, he just prefers the other stuff at night.

Im not the only one who thinks the way I do the FIL does, and other people do but they wouldn't have the balls to post it because they might get called names!

Seriously if she wants breast milk give it in a cup. No need to have a two year old hanging off your tit.

And lots of people think racist things but that doesn't make them right, does it?

why though fabby,what is your issue with breasts?
im afraid you and your kind have been a little brainwashed by the media and others who would prefer it if breasts were only seen as sexual objects.
it is not their primary purpose you know.

So glad I made popcorn. I have this image of me standing upright with a child swinging from my "tit". Cannot stop roffling.

"hanging off your tit"
every time you post fabby, on various threads, you leave me open mouthed in total disbelief.

isn't it up to the mother what she wants to do???? whether you agree or not???

the child's health isnt in danger so live and let live!!!

Mysterious that just sounds bordering on weird tbh

I don't see why it's up to anyone but the mother and child

I do think the DH should have some input as it gets into EBF territory if other "ishoos" start to appear on the horizon. Bringing up baby by the time its walking/talking is a much bigger game than which teat you stick in its gob :o

(cf the plethora of MN threads on "we don't have sex and I'm BF DD at 2 yo and have no libido and my DH is having and affair with OW/Computer/Right hand etc etc what should I do").

None of FILs business though.

Ok, I've stopped now. I'll say the same thing now I said to my HV the last time I saw her. Show me evidence. Personally I'll listen to anyone who can at least show me some considered evidence to support their position.

I keep making a joke at my breastfeeding drop in that I've told my daughter she'd better still be at it at 10 after all the work I put in. While I am joking some of the faces are a picture. I fully intend to let her lead the way though, it's her food not mine. I am wondering when DH is going to notice and say something though.

i also take my hats off to extended feeders.
those who think mothers do it for their own psychological benefit are out of their mind. i am slowly weaning ds2 off, at nearly 18 months - tbh, i am fed up with the constant pawing, tweaking, biting and top pulling and i'd have loved to carry on, but i need a bit of me back. so much easier to feed a young baby, it really is.

i dont get the 'why not give it in a cup' comments...WHY give it in a cup??!

why transfer it from one container to another?

Fabby you are so ignorant sometimes...

Why on earth should the milk be put in a cup?

Breasts provide milk.Sorry if you have been using them as something else...hate to think I have shocked you!

Zukie ,you can't say what you would do ...you were not given that choice were you?

If you had fed your baby from your breast ,you would have been able to feel how natural it is to continue!

I understand that it was not of your doing that you didn't:)

Also Fabby,BF also gives comfort to an older one ,something a cup just does not!

NB.i only fed DD until 18 months.DS is now 12 months.i take my hat off to extended breastfeeders,it's not always easy.

But a bottle gives comfort too- doesnt mean its a good idea to give one to a five year old just because they want it!

agree frigg. it's a non argument to put it in a cup. the only reason you would put it in a cup is if you find b'feeding distasteful. a cup isn't as comforting for the child either. at that age, milk is about comfort, security, enjoyment and encouraging trust, as well as nutrition.

anyone who disagrees with breastfeeding for an extended period HAS to view breasts purely as sexual objects. why else would it offend you?

I feel we are so harsh on our kids bimbo ...

Why take away something comforting?

What is that expression?

Its something about spoiling the baby so you don't spoil the man?

I think...?

Plus ,it is very rare to continue past 3/4 ...very!

i also don't agree with the term extended. makes it seem longer than it should be. so if i could write my previous post again, i would, as i mean beyond 12 months.