to have laughed when my fil told my dh

[biddysmama]

that he should stop me from breastfeeding now as dd is too old? (shes 2,ds is 1 and im pg)

do people do what their husbands tell them to? ive got a mind of my own thanks very much

oh ignore fil and carry on.

breast fed my four kids for first early yrs.

now all teens, what type of damage should i be looking for if breastfeeding past 1 yr is so wrong?

at least when the kiddies were little i saved ourselves SOME money by not buying formula. Teens are soooooo expensive.

I definitely don't blindly do what my husband wants me to do but would always take in to consideration his opinion on things, especially important things such as feeding etc. When DS1 was born it was like I was the oracle who knew all about my baby's wants and needs despite the fact my husband was by far the more knowledgeable person in our relationship! Out of interest are the health benefits of BF an 18 month old the same as a smaller child?

Well I suppose my dd started kindergarten at 2.5 yo. She liked a hot chocolate at bedtime. I personally would find it weird to offer breast or bottle much past 2, but respect others decisions.

I just asked DD2, who breast feed long after she started school what she thinks of people who says breast feeding should stop at two.
I am afraid she wasn't very polite as her reply was that they could "Bog off"
yes she should be in bed, but she has got DH building a very complex train layout with her and he is normally very hard to get off his computer long enough to play.

now who mentioned teeth.... winces....

op has dc one fed upside down yet? (on one leg? tried to turrn over the other way, taking your nipple the long way round? )

wowzers,he really thought your DH would tell you what to do eh?!

as for the not feeding a baby past walking,both mine started walking at 8 months,and could use a spoon/self feed at the same age.
it has NOTHING to do with breastfeeding

DD self weaned at 18 months,DS is still feeding,i dont know or care when he'll stop.
but i certainly dont think cows milk is in any way a substitute,it's really a very different drink.

anyhoo,your FIL is a little bit twunty,and i feel for you MIL...

benefits of breastfeeding an older child

Hope your DH had a good laugh too! Congrats on tandam feeding while pregnant - sounds like it's working well for you all.

Good to see Fabby (and others) jumping in with their well-informed and scientifically based opinions

the breastfeeding link was interesting, but the allergy factor is well on the way to being debunked, latest study to support that idea that breastfeeding doenst protect against ezcema.

as for inteligence, that still mainly depends on the brain you inherit, and your tendancy as a parent to support childs education.

that said , can wholeheartedly agree with the point that kids still feeding over 1yr and behond are very rarely ill, and if they are , doenst last long.

this sort of breastfeeding was a norm and still is in many countries, and really established breastfeeding is far easier parenting than bottlefeeding.

Perhaps your FiL was thinking of you and the demands on your body nurturing 3 children at once??

Once you have got the hang of breastfeeding, it is no harder to nurse one child than it is to nurse two or three children. Certainly not any more tiring. If nothing else I find nursing older children ensure you sit down and do the actual feeding rather than running around doing other things.

I nursed one toddler through my second pregnancy, tandem fed through my third pregnancy and went on to Trandem feed my three children for a year. Think DD1 might have weaned recently at 5yo, so down to two nurselings.

Personally I think 2yo is so young, I wouldn't consider trying to wean that young. I prefer the quiet life and meeting my children's needs seems to equal good behaviour (in general) and we never see toddler tantrums, I read about. Now I have committed that thought in writing, I hope my youngest doesn't turn into the tantruming nightmare !

Excuse my ignorance but is it possible to breastfeed 3 children

Not at the same time, AuntiePickleBottom. Sorry for being flippant - not done it myself, but yes, perfectly possible.

AuntiePickleBottom, Yes, very doable. You just have queues !

I usually nursed biggest two together in the morning, before bed. Baby on her own whenever. Sometimes nurse middle and youngest together. Whatever works for your family. :)

Thanks for that info.

Soooo - According to some posters, because DS3 can ask for mik mik (milk), is starting to pull himself to standing, has two teeth, and can spoon feed himself (messily ) - I should stop Bf'ing him? Despite the fact that he is only just 7mo? What do you propose I do? Feed him modified cows milk ?(that is meant for calves not humans). Express the milk and feed it to him from a bottle? At what age SHOULD I stop bf'ing him??

Why shouldn't he self-wean? Besides which, sterilising is far too much hassle, when I can feed as nature intended with less money and faff.

Wow, you were insane brave posting this thread in AIBU instead of the feeding board!

But I am 100% with you. I stopped feeding DD at 8 months, which I really regret (I know 8 months is actually pretty good but I felt if I'd had more support and known other BFing mums back then I would've carried on longer) - I am not having any more babies and it makes me a bit sad seeing my friend's tandem feed and knowing I wasn't able to do that for my DCs (2.2yrs apart). It must give siblings an amazing extra bond.

DH is fine with me BFing DS (2 tomorrow ) once a day, he perhaps feels it is a bit old but no way would he force me to stop. My parents did think it was a bit weird, but they know I couldn't give a monkeys what they think about it as I've made an informed decision.

Gah, random apostrophe. Autocorrect fail.

My dd has just came off the bottle aged 2 ( I would never thought I would miss washing bottle) stopped using her pram ectand I can feel my 'baby' is not my baby no more. The only thing we have to master is potty training

So I would say follow you child's lead...... I can 100% say there will not be a teen still being breastfed as them selves would of came off the Breast by them selves

well I wouldn't do it....

I personally am not convinced there is any physical benefit at this age, I think it is purely emotional i.e. comforting for the child and enjoyable for the mother. Yes WHO guidelines are till 2 but that is to benefit children in countries where there is no sterile water and insufficient food sources, in the UK guidelines are till 6 months as that is the most important time and when the baby benefits most.

Each to there own but as I said I wouldn't want to do it and I don't see it as any different to an in law giving their opinion on any other aspect of parenting (as we know they do and find it annoying but that's life)...

PontyMython re the OP being brave posting in AIBU and not feeding, I don't think she was really looking for advice, she knows what she wants to do already she just fancied posting something she knew would get a good debate going and seems a bit like hey look what I am doing...

I have 3 children.

BF first son for 1 year
BF second son for 2 years

and wait for it, I am still feeding my DD who is 2.8 months!

My youngest son is NEVER ill,never...

My daughter has been sick once, after the MMR jab (common reaction)

My eldest son although not ill very much ,was still more affected by childhood illnesses than the younger two.

The two younger children are much more outgoing and sociable than the eldest,BF has not done any harm at all.

I have to add each to their own obviously :) but this has been my experience and I think it is worth mentioning.

I have seen in my own family that extended BF is beneficial ,if its your bag!

2 years ,8 months.

whoneeds the UK guidelines are to BF for a year.

Where I live (US) its 2 years.

When I had DD1 the guidelines said 6 months. By the time I had DD3 that had risen to 1 year, and then when I had DD4 it had risen again to 2 years (twas in the US). I did extended feeding for all 5 DCs and am so happy I was ahead of my time. DD4 didn't stop until she was almost 4 (the longest bfing duration) and heading off to preschool. DD2 used to have nostalgic chats with her best friend about breastfeeding while they played together in Kindergarten.