to have laughed when my fil told my dh

[biddysmama]

that he should stop me from breastfeeding now as dd is too old? (shes 2,ds is 1 and im pg)

do people do what their husbands tell them to? ive got a mind of my own thanks very much

You'r the one who cares for your DCs not your FIL, and you should do so as you wish. Unless your FIL knows more about BF than you , maybe he does, maybe he'd like to help, but I doubt it some how.
Just strike up a very full on chat with him re BF and weaning, don't forget to ask his expert opinion. I'm sure he'll soon get the message, or at least be so embarrassed he shut up and leave you alone.

imperial i think the point being made is... why would you swap from milk designed for a human child to milk designed for a baby cow if there was no actual need to?

DH just would not DARE .

I'm still bf dd3 (2.2) she wants it so it doesn't bother me.

Laugh I think I would have pissed myself yASNBU. ( regardless of the (current) societal 'norms' that will be trotted out).

at FIL. Just roll your eyes and move on!

One feed a day is nothing really, my dc3 is nearly 2 and b/f like a newborn, literally 8times a day and 3 at night! Well done though, feeding one is an effort you are doing so well!

Just coming out in support here. I still occasionally (every few days) BF my 2.9yr old and I'm also bfing my 8mnth old. Sometimes at the same time. Believe me I don't do it for fun.

As for your FIL, non of his business.

imperial children stop when they are ready. Really they do! They don't need to be forced to fit a target age that western society imposes,

No yrnbu Go girl go.

However.I chose to stop bf when I was expecting the next dc as I get hyperemmisis so I wanted the extra nutriants to go to my unborn baby. (don't know if there is any truth in that)

I bf 3 unilt 2+

and yet, if they 'fit a target that western society imposes' they don't die, do they?

YABU to bring that old chestnut up in AIBU. People will argue till they're blue in the face about breastfeeding. If you want to keep feeding your kids baby milk go ahead, it's neither here nor there.

Also YABU for taking any bloody notice of a Fil regarding anything like that!

No, there's nothing wrong with cow's milk. But human milk is actually tailored to the needs of human babies. I think that it's odd that BF a baby over 6 months old is seen as somehow odd at the same time as formula companies are pushing 'follow-on' milk to children of 2+. I don't see why it's up to anyone but the mother and child. I think 2 is the WHO recommended minimum. The fact that the acceptability of BF is measured by what the child is capable of doing eg speaking or walking says more about people's feelings about BF than anything else. We know that it's a benefit to children of 18 months, and they can generally walk and talk. I think a lot of people are uncomfortable with BF but can just about cope with it as long as they see a baby at the breast rather than a small individual with a personality and mind of its own.

Some ignorance on this thread.

I breastfed my 2 year old all the way through my pregnancy with ds and had a very healthy 8.12lb baby. I continued to tandem feed untill dd was 3.

YANBU.

Oh and I did breastfeed. And now my kids drink cows milk, same as I do. They eat cow meat and cow cheese and drink cows milk like humans have done for millennia. They're not drinking cows milk as a substitute for my baby milk. They eat a balanced diet now and they also drink cows milk. They have moved on from my baby milk and drink cows milk like everybody else. I don't want breastmilk in my tea so why do they need it? Cows milk is fine now.

I think that the majority of people who have a problem with BF a toddler or above would be fine with the child having the breast milk if it were expressed into a bottle.

Their issue is with the feeding not the milk, ie with the nipple being in the child's mouth. They don't feel comfortable with it. That says a lot about how they view breasts.

Oreocrumbs I am completely at that gem. Your father-in-law makes breastfeeding sound like some outlandish frivolity!

Cow's milk may be fine, but that doesn't mean that a) breastmilk isn't better, and b) that they shouldn't be allowed breastmilk if they want it and the mother is happy to give it to them. If a child wants to breastfeed, and the mother is happy to let them, then why should anyone else care?

... and how is your husband? trying to tell a pregnant mother what to do is foolish brave. h tried to stop me buying chocolate in asda once....

if you can manage 2 children feeding (seems you can from past experience) then go for it. she will give up soon anyway, if she is like ds who decided no thanks one day. if not ... well you deal with that when you arer ready.

for the first 3 months of my most recent pregnancy I was breastfeeding my 4yo & not-quite-2yo :) 4yo self weaned at that point, not-quite-2yo self weaned 6 weeks before the new baby was born. Not stress, no fuss, three very happy, healthy babies. Don't see what all the fuss is about really.

& OP YANBU

Apparently FIL said to DH 'LC's very keen on this breastfeeding lark, isn't she?' after I'd whipped one out (I'd thought discreetly but obv. not discreetly enough) while he was visiting. DD was only just 2 weeks old... I'm not sure if that was an objection or not, but it was reported back as having been said in the same worriedly bemused tones as 'LC's very keen on Ferret Juggling, isn't she?' :o

In answer to your question, OP, I don't think DH has ever told me to do anything. He might make suggestions, but never 'tells' me what to do. He knows better....:o Congrats on the pregnancy and I am v. impressed that you've fed 2 in tandem!

You see I find drinking cow's milk weird. As an adult, I don't drink milk full stop.

'I'm of the opinion that a mother who feeds a child who is long past babyhood does it as much for herself as for the child'
I couldn't agree more. Whenever I make a decision that is beneficial to my child's health it makes me happy.

That's fine for you Dawnybabe. But if OP wants to continue the breastfeeding relationship then that is also fine for her and not her FIL's place to comment.

My ds is nearly two and drinks both breastmilk and cows milk - it isn't an either/or. I don't consider it any one else's business how I feed my ds, just as I am not particularly interested in the nutritional choices someone else may make for their child.

I just don't understand the value judgements attached to something so innocuous as breastfeeding when it involves what society considers to be an older child (with some arbitrary marker used to signify that child is too old - walking/talking/first tooth/using a spoon etc etc...). Why is it wrong? Why is it any one else's business?

Ah, but you're only doing it for your benefit not the ferrets Lovecat.

" drink cows milk like humans have done for millennia"

that's actually not really true.
cow's milk wasn't really used at all until cows were domesticated for milk and meat. thought to be somewhere around 6-10 thousand years ago.

there are still plenty of places in the world where it is NOT the norm to drink milk from another animal. Until recently it was fairly unheard of to use cows milk in places like Japan for example