7yo dd was told at swimming pool to wear the top part of her bikini

[vacaloca]

I sent the kids to a holiday club today where they have a pool. They were wearing the bottom part of a bikini and the 7yo (very skinny as well) was told to wear the top part of her bikini tomorrow. I think that's just weird and I'm feeling a bit upset about it. AIBU?

[MrsBush]

Zombie thread

[Aprillygirl]

You should have told them the bikini bottoms were in fact trunks and your DD was non binary and if they insist she wear a bikini top you will sue them for discrimination.

[SmellbowSmellbow123]

Well the child is 15 now @BrookeVapes!

Why resurrect an 8yr old thread??

[seaweedandmarchingbands]

All quite confusing. Some people say, “She’s only 7 so has no breasts to cover”, but that presupposes that breasts are something we should feel pressure to cover up. I don’t see why a child’s body should go from being totally appropriate naked to inappropriate just because her breast tissue starts developing. So what? This is all just convention. But if we are going to follow convention, it is far more usual for a girl of her age to wear a costume.

[seaweedandmarchingbands]

Zombie threads are

[HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend]

Why the whole at the child effectively wearing pants?

If a boy wore swimming trunks no one would batter an eyelid.

A bikini is no different to trouser/skirt and a tank top which are highly fashionable atm

Why are people sexualising a child for their swimming clothing

[Nanny0gg]

There is a warning notice in the Reply box on Zombie threads @BrookeVapes

Why ignore it?

[Rachelover60]

I think a lot of little girls like bikinis even though they have nothing to cover up on top. I'm quite old but remember feeling the same way as did my friends. I have to say I think wearing bikini bottoms should be fine but I suppose rules are rules. You could buy her a pretty one piece swimming costume which would solve the problem.

This one is nice: www.mandmdirect.com/01/details/SP1311?ds_rl=1260413&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIoaKY2q7V5AIVjbHtCh0gggpaEAQYAyABEgLZ4vD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

A sporty one would be good too.

In the 'olden days' men used to cover their tops too :-). They certainly didn't have anything to show unless they developed man boobs.

[BasilTheGreat]

I’m Swedish but have lived in the UK for well 20 years and I still don’t understand why a little girl has to cover her non- existing breasts? Just fight it with all you got OP. She’s just a little child!

[RubbingHimSourly]

What's wrong with a bikini ?? They're far more practical for going to the toilet and getting changed etc. And ' bikini' can mean any amount of coverage.........I doubt the op is sending her kid out in glorified G-string.

[SachaStark]

I want an actual explanation of this phenomenon for once:

@BrookeVapes, why on earth did you come across an 8-year-old thread on bikinis in the first place?

And then, why the heck did you feel the need to comment on it?! Did you somehow fucking forget you searched for it?!?!

Incidentally, the give away for me was worraliberty’s handle on page one! She uses capital letters in it now, but didn’t back then.

[SarahAndQuack]

I don't really get all the pearl-clutching about a 7 year old having a bikini. Sure, we adults know you have two pieces so you can cover your boobs, but I would think a 7 year old just thinks it's a piece of clothing. Children's clothing often copies adult clothing, doesn't it? Like when you have pockets in stuff for toddlers who have no earthly use for it.

[Durgasarrow]

She might as well wear her whole bathing suit, we don't live in the garden of fucking eden.

[SarahAndQuack]

Ah, darn. Teach me to read properly.

[smemorata]

Mumsnet is really funny about bikinis on girls. My daughter has always worn one, sometimes just the bottoms. On the beach it is far more comfy than a one piece and having a wet cossy on all day.

[bonbonours]

So according to posters here.... A young girl covering her non-existent breasts with a bikini top is not OK, covering them with a slightly longer bikini top which also covers her tummy is OK, and covering them with the top half of a one-piece swim suit is also OK. But having her chest uncovered is not OK.

The same people who think bikinis on prepubescent girls is sexualising them are also saying they should be covering their non sexual chests.... 😂

In any normal brain a7 year old is completely non-sexual. If she is happy wearing just pants or shorts like a boy, fine, if she wants to wear a one or two piece costume because she thinks it looks pretty or wants to wear something like mummy's costume, also fine. The shape or design of tiny bits of material makes no difference to how sexual her outfit is....

Some people need to get a grip.

[xennalisa]

Of course you can wear a bikini at 7 if your DD is comfortable with it... stop sexualising young girls! It’s not ok.

Tbh tho OP, in a pool I would make my DD wear the top. In the sea I think it’s fine.

[xennalisa]

Omg haha just realised this thread is 8 years old

[PablosHoney]

SachaStark Why so wound up about it??

[Abraid2]

My daughter had one of those sports-style-topped bikinis, that is, without cups, not shaped around the breast area, when she was about seven. She was a bit of a tomboy but chose it herself. She looked exactly like a prepubescent small girl in it. It was in no way sexualised with its fish pattern. I cannot understand the horror.

[BeepBeeep]

What on earth is wrong with a 7 year old in a bikini??
My DD always wore a bikini from being out of nappies, as do my DGD's

I don't know why your DD was asked to cover up OP, is it in the UK?

[Nanny0gg]

LOL!

No-one reads other peoples' posts do they?

More than one has pointed out this ZOMBIE thread is 8 YEARS OLD!

Child in question is now 15!

[BeepBeeep]

I've only just noticed it's a zombie thread. Grrr

[MrsFogi]

I had a bikini in the 1970s and I loved it. I only ever wore the bottoms (never the top) - I only once got told to put the top on, by a girl about the same age as I was, and I told her where to stick that idea! It's odd my view has now shifted - now there seems to be something sexualised about girls in bikinis (and I haven't allowed my dds to have bikinis yet). Sad because I loved the freedom of running around topless as a kid.

[GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER]

FGS, that's a ridiculous, prudish fuss to make over a 7 year old. What is there that needs covering up?

In much of Europe it's very common for very young girls to wear just bikini bottoms at beach or pool. And they're often sold as such - just the bottoms. Personally I think 2 piece bikinis are ridiculous for little girls.