Dh want's me to take kids on hol with His family without him

[CoffeeDog]

Had a chat with DH last night and he thinks IABU

Due to go on a week long caravan hol with DH entire family next week...

MIL booked it as a 'treat' for us back in jan as we cannot afford to go this year.. she annouced last month that she her DH - her mum and dad will also be sharing the caravan with us making 6 adults and 3 kids in one caravan - with all our kids squished into the little room and me and dh on the fold out bed bit in the living room.
SIL & her DH have a caravan there and will be there with therir 7 kids - shes 7mth pregnant and isnt very mobile so MIL idea is that we entertain the kids while SIL has a break..ermmmm what about me?

DH isnt really good at speding alot of time with his own family (due to probs when he was a kid) as said last night that he thinks he will stay home and decorate for a few days while me and the kids go and have fun...... I have told him NO way i am spending a week being the glorified au par with no sleep(Dh grandad gets up at the crack of dawn and his mum with be at the bar till late )
I have said if he want the painting done i will happily stay behind on my own and paint the house whilst he takes the kids after all its HIS family and he has never had the kids on his own and just come back from a fishing trip with his dad - would be lovly to have the house to myself!

He thinks i ABU as i get on with his family better than him..???

I can't imagine what kind of crap you put up with for your DH to even suggest it. He knows it's going to be awful and wants to get out of it. I would absolutely refuse to go.

Sounds more like a nightmare than a holiday. I wouldn't go even DH was going too.

Your SIL wants a break? Maybe she should stop having kids.

You'll be showing him this thread, right??

cramped hell in a caravan!

Your husband has balls the size of coconuts to suggest that this is "reasonable"

YANBU!!

this is a wind up, surely? i'd be on the verge of divorcing him if he expected me to go at all, not to mind without him....

Your DH is being very cheeky. Tell him either you both go, or none of you go.

Practice this line, 'oooh, I have put my back out and there is no way I can sleep anywhere but my own bed until it is better. Have fun'.

YADBU. You will spend the whole week trying to stop 3 small DC who won't fit in 1 bedroom anyway from annoying 4 other adults. Also your SIL is pregnant not ill, she chose to get PG again, will have 7 dc's before you go and 7 when they get back and 8 in 2 months time. Why is she rendered incapable of coping for that week?

I would get in quick, ring MIL, tell her your feeling ill, and hoping your feel better by next week but if not her DS will he coming alone. Then ring in 2 days and mention the D&V and reiterate the above. Then on Sunday faint - you'll obviously need some time to recover alone as your so ill.

No, don't agree to go even if he goes because he'll disappear off fishing with his dad and leave the wimmen to do the childcare.

NO. cuffing.way on earth should you set foot in that caravan.

AAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

Forgot the N NOT BEING UNREASONABLE before anyone thinks I've taken leave of my senses.

and by the wimmen, that means except the old wans and except the pregnant ones. so that leaves you in charge of nine kids.

mmmmmmm, holiday alright.

OMG, the very idea! He is being VU, YADNBU!

9 people in one caravan from 4 generations = Hell on Earth ! How come dh didn't speak up when MIL et al decided to come along ? Tell him it is too late to renege on the deal now or he can arrange an alternative for you.

Oh my

Please don't do it. I have been on several caravan holidays with dh's Mil, and get frazzled with just that. You are being taken for a mug.

I can't believe he thinks this is fair.

this is meant to be a treat ?

thanks for the belly-laugh, btw

I needed that today

It sounds awful. What are you going to do? If the kids are looking forward to it (and there is actually space for them) I would say let them go with GPs etc while you and DH stay at home. Otherwise bow out and apologise. Say since they've decided to take over your bedroom there simply won't be room for you.

What the fuck?

This is the definition of overcrowding. Why would you subject yourself to that on what is supposed to be a holiday?

None of you should go!

There hasn't been such a unanimous agreement since the time that lady's husband wanted to call their daughter the same name as the woman he'd had an affair with ("it was years ago" he said) men shmen.

I would NOT go on this so called "holiday" with my DH, never mind without him. You are definitely not being unreasonable by refusing to go .... "kind" though the initial offer was, the goalposts have been moved a hell of a lot since then, without any consultation so you're perfectly within your rights to decline.

I feel sick just thinking about this! How hideous! You poor thing, don't let him pull this one!

I mean, seriously!

It would be you, your husband, your children, and your in-laws, and one set of their in-laws.

It sounds like a script for a bad sit-com episode!

If it wasn't for the fact that you've been around on MN a while, I'd wonder if you were a scriptwriter for a Royle Family summer special!