Dh want's me to take kids on hol with His family without him

[CoffeeDog]

Had a chat with DH last night and he thinks IABU

Due to go on a week long caravan hol with DH entire family next week...

MIL booked it as a 'treat' for us back in jan as we cannot afford to go this year.. she annouced last month that she her DH - her mum and dad will also be sharing the caravan with us making 6 adults and 3 kids in one caravan - with all our kids squished into the little room and me and dh on the fold out bed bit in the living room.
SIL & her DH have a caravan there and will be there with therir 7 kids - shes 7mth pregnant and isnt very mobile so MIL idea is that we entertain the kids while SIL has a break..ermmmm what about me?

DH isnt really good at speding alot of time with his own family (due to probs when he was a kid) as said last night that he thinks he will stay home and decorate for a few days while me and the kids go and have fun...... I have told him NO way i am spending a week being the glorified au par with no sleep(Dh grandad gets up at the crack of dawn and his mum with be at the bar till late )
I have said if he want the painting done i will happily stay behind on my own and paint the house whilst he takes the kids after all its HIS family and he has never had the kids on his own and just come back from a fishing trip with his dad - would be lovly to have the house to myself!

He thinks i ABU as i get on with his family better than him..???

gotta watch this thread...

I want to know what DH calls us all when he realises he has been rumbled and we are all, without exception, on your side

Kenobi has it - phone and check with the owners whether it is ok to have 9 people in the caravan. Unless it is a private rental, they'll say no, and you can regretfully pull out.

I would tell him to take a long walk on a short pier myself. There is no way I would go whilst he had a nice break alone. Bollocks to that.

Too cramped, too.

Is it a bloody big caravan?

My husband & I & our two (young at the time) children spent a few days in a two bed & having one toilet & very small bathroom for 4 was a nightmare tbh.

Sounds as if there are enough people going already & I agree that he goes with the children, or you all go.

Don't go. You'll end up on the news.

]Dh is home anywheres from 630 -7..

Caravan is a 3 bed one...

My 3 kids will be i the teeny room twins in a bed each and dd on the floor between them.

OMG i had forgotton about the noisey sex!! - we lived with them for a couple of months when he first moved in..... will have to get the kids ear plugs!!!! either that or DD will wander in to their room to see why uncle x is hurting nanny ;)

Why get them ear plugs? Just don't fucking go! If you do, you sort of deserve what you have coming. Anyone who's that much of a doormat, well, 'no one can treat you as an inferior without your consent,' as the quote goes.

Book your own caravan?

If it's 3 bedrooms it's designed to sleep 6 not 9.

CoffeeDog, this is one uncomfortable conversation with your in-laws (which frankly your DP should be having), versus a week of misery. Illegal immigrant levels of over-crowding misery.

You know what to do. Now, grab your DP the moment he walks in, inform him that he is a silly billy who is either going on his own with the kids, or talking to his mum.

Then report back.

< gets popcorn >

I was thinking of sending them with husband... what with my migraine and all

A whole week to myself ;) ;) ;) ....ooooo a 'lie in, read a book or 2 or 3, sort out my wardrobe, catch up with friends, go for a coffee in a coffee shop sit down and actually drink it while its hot, go for a walk without having to pack wellies spare clothes/potty's bags for nature things, waking up in a tidy house - and it still being tidy an hour later, not having to wedge the frezzer shut with a toy garage, taking a nap with the cat.... the list is endless
Oh i might paint a bit but to be honest that won't take to long :)

She can't afford to book her own caravan and even if she did, she'd still be seen as a babysitter. Fuck that for a holiday.

I will have his dinner placed in front of the computer which is open to page 1... I may even do the kids bath/story/bed alone just so he can really consentrate on what has been said to/about him ;)

My 3 kids will be in the teeny room twins in a bed each and dd on the floor between them.

Er no she won't, have you seen the size of holiday let caravans? I could just about walk between the beds and my legs are skinny. Agree privately owned ones can be bigger, and have 'proper', singles. But then again a holiday park won't allow more than is it birthed for - so for a 3 bed more than 8 people.

Maybe that's why DH is suggesting it? Maybe MIL has told him there isn't room and he can't go and told him to have a relaxing time whilst you slave away go away?

Just don't do it. If DH agrees to go and you go too, take a laptop/ phone and get on MN - we need some more good AIBU's

And yourkidding said it spot on. There is no room for any person on the floor of those two-twin bed rooms in holiday let caravans.

I'm reading this thread with tears of laughter rolling down my face. Refs to posting from jail/being on the news have finished off my pelvic floor. Please op, go so that we can find out how it went!

No, I wouldn't go. I'd break my own leg, as someone said, rather than go on that holiday.

And HE needs to be the one to tell them.

They will have a nicer time anyway, with only 4 people in the caravan. It means they can put their bags etc in the little room and have the living room area free. OK they will have to deal with 7 children, but that's 7, not 10.

Coffee, how could your DH bear to hear his mum having sex? Didn't it damage him somehow?

Unbelievable!

TBH, the fact that MIL intends to get pissed every night (if I´ve read correctly) would put me off, let alone the fact that I might hear her have sex.

Just marking my place to find out what happens....

Won't even apologise for being nosey, this is jaw-droppingly unbelievable.

Yup, me too found wanting!!!

waiting to find out what happens next...

Jesus your DH has some set of balls on him. If my DH seriously suggested this to me there would be a fall out of nuclear proportions.

It is too horrific to even contemplate, I wouldn't even consider it even with him along. Christ I need a brandy just at the thought of it.

Hearing your MIL and her toy boy having sex? Oh this gets better!! Bahaha!

Honestly, can I film this for a reality TV show? Pleeeeease?